Yes, it's wonderful to be in a relationship with someone you love but it's not everything in life. Guest contributor Miles Young shares his reasons on why romantic relationships are seriously overrated!
If you believe your family, the media, and pretty much everyone else, you must have a romantic relationship for a fulfilling life. Forget that. Here are 7 reasons that romantic relationships are overrated.
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1. Relationships Can Kill Your Financial Stability
When you get married, you accept everything about your partner—including their bad credit. Studies have shown that modern women are more financially responsible than men in many respects.
Taking on their bad credit score can affect all areas of your financial stability. It can even affect your car insurance. State Farm and many other companies require records of every adult in your household. That means an irresponsible person could push your rate up even before you get married.
2. Relationships Get in the Way of Careers
Perhaps it's unfortunate, but many people find it impossible to manage romantic relationships while focusing on their careers. Without a significant around, you can stay at the office as late as you want. Want to work weekends without catching grief? No problem.
Maybe you'll decide to start a relationship later, but for now, you want to focus on building your career.
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3. Relationships Steal You from Your Friends
You always said you'd put your friends before your relationship. How many times have you seen one of your friends fall away from your usual group because they started dating some someone?
You could fall into that trap, too. At the beginning of their relationships, couples often want to spend as much time together as possible. That's fine for a while, but then it becomes a routine. A year later, you wonder why you never see your friends anymore.
4. Relationships Restrict Variety
Do you really want to restrict yourself to one person? Most romantic partners will want monogamous relationships that restrict your variety. It's not just about sex, either. You can learn a lot about life by dating people casually. Once things start getting serious, though, you can wave goodbye to spending one evening with a person who likes to go to art museums and spending the next with one who loves going out to dance.
If you want that kind of variety in your life, you either have to remain single or find the coolest partner in the world. Good luck with the latter.
5. You Don't Need Them
Society tells you that you need a romantic relationship, but you don't. Where's the proof that you have to settle down with one person to have a good life? It just isn't there.
Consider all of the famous, powerful, amazing women who never got married. That list includes: Susan B. Anthony Florence Nightingale Coco Chanel Greta Garbo Winona Ryder Kylie Minogue Cameron Diaz
If you're single, you're in good company with these women.
6. Your Dog Gives Better Kisses without All of the Demands
You don't need a romantic relationship to have a great companion. Dogs give better kisses, and they don't get pushy about those kisses leading to other things.
Besides, who's happier to see you when you come home, a dog or a romantic partner? If you want unconditional love, then you have to go with the dog.
7. Unhealthy Relationships Can Literally Make You Unhealthy
The stress of a bad relationship can last a lifetime. It could also shorten your lifespan (which might not sound so bad after a few years of scowling across the breakfast table at the same person).
Researchers at Ohio State University found that couples in unhealthy, stressful relationships were actually less healthy than people who didn't live with that stress. To test the hypothesis, they gave individuals small blisters on their arms and had them discuss difficult topics with their spouses.
Those who had hostile communication styles healed slower than those who knew how to communicate in a positive, respectful manner. That doesn't mean all romantic relationships are killers, but do you really want to take that chance?
What are some reasons that you think romantic relationships are overrated? Have you ever felt trapped in a relationship that you didn't know how to escape? Leave a comment below and let us know.
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My friends stop talking to me right when I got in a engaged and till this day I still don't know why but I had to let go and now it's been 4 years and still never managed to meet new girlfriends
I already got married in September 1986
This could not be MOREA CORRECT AND FROM A FEMALES STANDPOINT.
Finding one person to spend your life with is worth it...this idea that there is no reason to have committed relationships is not "modern" and "revolutionary," it is just ignorant. Most of these reasons are not good enough to avoid the blessing of a monogamous, loving relationship.
I don't really have a lot of friends anyways. Not a huge group anyways. Just have seperate friends that i see one on one ie individually. I prefer this as appose to a big group.
yes Jamaica at #1!!!!!
I wasted my time reading this one...
All The reasons that you gave are for people that have unhealthy relationships. If you have a healthy relationship you don't have to lose your friends, and your partner will respect that you want to grow as a professional. It is ok if someone wants to be alone, but I don't think is true that a relationship slows or stops your life, it depends on how you manage your relationship.
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Megan:My friends stop talking to me right when I got in a engaged and till this day I still don't know why but I had to let go and now it's been 4 years and still never managed to meet new girlfriends
Suo:I already got married in September 1986
Bets:This could not be MOREA CORRECT AND FROM A FEMALES STANDPOINT.
Stephanie:Finding one person to spend your life with is worth it...this idea that there is no reason to have committed relationships is not "modern" and "revolutionary," it is just ignorant. Most of these reasons are not good enough to avoid the blessing of a monogamous, loving relationship.
Aleisha:I don't really have a lot of friends anyways. Not a huge group anyways. Just have seperate friends that i see one on one ie individually. I prefer this as appose to a big group.
Abigail:yes Jamaica at #1!!!!!
Shannah:I wasted my time reading this one...
Jules:All The reasons that you gave are for people that have unhealthy relationships. If you have a healthy relationship you don't have to lose your friends, and your partner will respect that you want to grow as a professional. It is ok if someone wants to be alone, but I don't think is true that a relationship slows or stops your life, it depends on how you manage your relationship.
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