If you have a hard time figuring out whether that cute shy guy that you have a crush on feels the same about you, here are a few very obvious signs that a shy guy likes you. Haruki Murakami once said, “Deep rivers run quiet,” and he couldn’t be more right! Shy guys can send you confusing signals sometimes since they can often show no signs of being interested in you. They are pretty hard to figure out and even though everyone deals with shyness in different ways, there are still a few small things that can indicate you that he is into you too. Here are a few tell-tale signs that a shy guy likes you, even if it doesn’t seem like it:
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1. He Has a Hard Time Making Eye Contact
One of the most obvious signs that a shy guy likes you is the fact that he really has a hard time making eye contact with you. Even though eye contact creates a sense of connection, a shy guy who‘s head over heels with you will have a hard time connecting with you. He will often glance up, down, sideways but he will still look at you every now and then.
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This fleeting eye contact is usually quick and nervous; a giveaway of his silent crush. When he does brave fleeting glances, they're often filled with an intensity that betrays his facade of indifference. His gaze may linger a little too long in those rare moments when he feels courageous. And when you catch him looking, he'll probably blush and avert his eyes, a classic sign of shyness that also hints at deeper feelings he's not yet ready to vocalize.
2. He Says Silly Things
A shy guy who’s in love with you will turn red when he sees you. He will stutter and he will tell you really silly or even stupid things. When they feel awkward or embarrassed, they will always say the wrong things to you and some of that stuff might even offend you sometimes. They really do regret doing that though, and they are often angry at themselves for making a bad impression.
Frequently asked questions
Oh, I've been there! Sometimes a shy guy might look angry because he's super nervous. He might just be trying to hide how he really feels, and it comes off wrong.
Before jumping to conclusions, give him a little benefit of the doubt. Maybe he's had a rough day, or he's stressed about something else. Try to talk to him casually and see if you can make him feel more comfortable.
Absolutely! Shy guys are often really bad at showing their feelings. That upset look can just be him struggling with his emotions around you. Give him some time and subtle encouragement.
Look for small signs, like if he tries to be around you, gets flustered when you're near, or seems interested in your conversations. These little things can show he likes you, even if he's not super obvious about it.
Besides the mixed-up angry looks, shy guys may show they like you by being nervous, trying to find reasons to be near you, or talking to you in awkward but honest ways. Sometimes it's the small, subtle gestures that count!
3. He is Aware of You
A shy guy who likes you is always aware of you, no matter where you are or what you do. You can easily catch him looking at you and you will run into him constantly. He is always observing your actions and he is trying to help you every time he has the chance to do it.
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Even when you're not interacting, his attention is subtly focused on you. If you drop something or seem in need of assistance, he'll be the first to offer a helping hand, albeit in a low-key manner. His heightened awareness might also manifest in small gestures or changes in his behavior when you're around. For instance, he might quiet down when you enter the room or unconsciously mirror your actions, indicating his interest without saying a word. These are the quiet but telling signs that he cares and wants to be connected to you.
4. He Always Takes Your Side
In every debate you have, he will always take your side, ever if you are wrong. You can test this theory by saying something you don’t really believe when you are with your friends and he is around, and just watch if he agrees with you. Most likely, he will want to please you because he is trying to stay on your good side.
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This can be a clear indicator he's into you, but remember it's important to have someone who can challenge you thoughtfully and help you grow. That said, if he's backing you up reflexively, it could be a sign of deep affection and the desire to support you. It's endearing and shows loyalty, but make sure it's not just a sign of him not wanting to rock the boat. Healthy relationships need balance – it's lovely when someone always has your back, but there's something to be said for also engaging in constructive dialogue.
5. He Looks Angry around You
A lot of shy guys can sometimes look really angry when they are around their crush. That’s why they can send you mixed signals and you might even think that they are not interested in you. The truth is that in most cases, they are angry at themselves for not being able to make a good impression or for not having the guts to tell you how they feel about you and to ask you out on a date.
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This behavior can also stem from the fear of rejection and the pressure to make a good impression. Shy guys may also feel frustrated with themselves for not being able to express their feelings and may become angry as a defense mechanism. Furthermore, they may also feel intimidated by the thought of being rejected by someone they admire, causing them to appear angry or distant. It's important to understand that this anger is not directed towards you, but rather towards their own insecurities. So if you notice a shy guy looking angry or frustrated around you, it could be a sign that he likes you but is struggling to express it.
6. He Gets Nervous around You
A shy guy who likes you will always get nervous around you. He turns red when he sees you and he stutters when he talks to you. He is aware of his shyness and he fears that he might say some stupid things that might scare you away. He tries too hard to control his actions and he’s always trying to find a way to start a conversation with you.
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His palms might sweat and he possibly fumbles with his words or objects around him when you're close. Watch for the small gestures, like him fixing his hair or adjusting his shirt - signs he wants to look his best for you, even in his nervous state. You might notice him taking deep breaths or even avoiding eye contact because your presence intensifies his anxiety. But, it's all because he’s genuinely interested in you and worried about making a good impression.
7. He is Silent around You
If you like a shy guy but every time he’s around you, he gets silent, even if he’s exactly the opposite when he's around his friends, you may think that he is not interested in you. The truth is that most shy guys go silent when they are around the girls they like because they are afraid of saying something stupid that might scare away their crush.
Trying to find out if a shy guy likes you or not can sometimes be a bit challenging, since they can send you all kinds of mixed signals that might confuse you. Do you know any other signs that a shy guy likes someone? Please share your thoughts with us in the comments section!
Sources: howdoyougetaguy.com, slism.com, gurl.com
Comments
Domicheer: he'll laugh if i laugh and if one of his friends bother and i do come bck he'll be like ohh she told you and laugh.. sometimes i feel like he likes me and sometimes I don't.. our eye contact lasta a couple seconds before one of us looks away.. what is this does he like me or not???😬😬
Louise: A shy guy likes me, I like him but we barely see each other, he doesn't have social media either and I tried asking for his number so we could hang out (like he mentioned) but when I asked about his number, he said to text through our mutual friend... So frustrating..
Linda: I just finished up with a shy guy , just doesn't always work out . he was very shy and I am quiet . end of story .
I'minluv: This helped soo much cuz my BF is shy around me and I'm shy around him
Sierra: This shy guy found out I like him three months ago and has been giving me a lot of mixed signals ever sense then. But now his friends give me glares, and won't stop staring at me. He told all of his friends that I like him so late. Like some of them found out earlier, but now they all know and won't take their eyes off of me. It makes me feel like they're all judging me, and I don't like it. He even gives me dirty looks sometimes for no reason. We don't even talk. He says he hates me staring at him, but he stares at me, and his friends are even worse. They stare so much my friends notice it. Funny thing is, when my crush wasn't around his friends, I was talking to one of my guy friends, and they once again wouldn't stop staring. Isn't that supposed to mean they know my crush secretly likes me too? They even said my name really loudly when me and my friend were sitting close to him and his friends I don't know why.
kissmebbylove: haha that's so cute. 😊
Domicheer: i really want to know if my crush likes me but i dont want to ask him.. he told his friend he's not into anyone in our class, but in class i sit in front of him and he always kicks my chair and when i turn around he gives me a flirty smile and looks back down.. when we sat next to each other he would always put his arm right nect to my elbow and they would brush.. sometimes he ask for my hel but so does his friends the only one in their clique that doesn't ask me for help is my old best friend.. sometimes i catch my crush staring at me and he tries to play foght and do some friendly banter with me. he always cracks jokes and
Gitzel: How about if we use to talk but know we don't
Shannon: I hope point number 5 is true
heygurrrrlll: I have a crush on a quieter guy. I’m not sure whether he likes me or not. He stares at me when i’m not looking, but this other girl flirts with him and always seems to be around him. He also hangs out with me some times and her also. However, the other girl hangs around a lot of other guys and treats them the same way. I’m not sure.
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