It can be hard to recover after being cheated on. The person you loved and trusted betrayed you, so how are you going to trust anyone again in the future? You’ll need some time to yourself, but you’ll eventually heal. After being cheated on, you have to remember a few important things:
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1. Not Your Fault
After being cheated on, it’s easy to list your faults. You wonder if he did it because you aren’t pretty enough, or because you're not capable of fulfilling his needs. However, his unfaithfulness has more to do with himself than you. No-one deserves to get cheated on. If he was unhappy with your relationship, he should’ve ended it.
2. All Men Differ
When you’re ready to get back into the dating game, you can’t obsess over your ex. Don’t blame future boyfriends for your past boyfriend’s mistakes. New relationships are blank slates. If your new man is trustworthy, he deserves to be treated as such. Not every man is willing to break your heart. Some of them will treat you in the way you deserve to be treated.
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3. Don’t Need Him
You’re a strong, capable woman. You don’t need any man to survive, especially not one who will hurt you so badly. Try not to be upset about losing a boyfriend. Be happy that you’re single, and that you’re free to live life in whatever way you please. No matter how much pain you’re in, remember that you don’t need anyone who doesn’t need you.
4. His Loss
You lost a cheater, but he lost an incredible girl. Even though he felt the need to see other women, you remained faithful to him. Anyone would be lucky to have a girl like you. You have to be confident with yourself, and know that you’re a prize. Your man doesn’t know what he’s missing.
5. Blame Him, Not Her
Okay, you can blame them both. But some women fall into the habit of only blaming the girl for stealing her man. Chances are she wasn’t aware that he was in a relationship. Even if she knew, she didn’t force him to have sex with her. Your man made a decision to sleep with her. He wasn’t doing something against his will, he was doing something that he wanted to do.
6. You Learned the Truth
At least you know your man’s true personality. You’re no longer under the false impression that he’s perfect. You see his faults, which will make it a bit easier to get over him. It’s not a bad thing that you found out about his unfaithfulness. Be thankful that you’re not ignorant to his behavior, because you’d still be with him.
7. People Make Mistakes
You don’t want to remain in a relationship with a cheater, but you can forgive him. There is no excuse for his behavior, but if he’s genuinely sorry, you can . Forgiveness will not only raise his spirits, but it will make you happier as well. Once you forgive, you can start moving on. You can’t dwell on the guy who broke your heart. You have to find someone else who wouldn’t dare to hurt you.
Many people have suffered through similar situations. Has a man ever cheated on you? Have you recovered from the experience?
Comments
The: @sarah @kandice, i am going through the same thing right now. My first real relationship that lasted 3 years turns out he was cheating with his ex this whole time
Carly: I was planning our wedding to funny how they cheat before a big step. Especially when the girl he cheated on me with had no job two kids an a criminal record and anul herpes. Like what the f@*%
Jsa3094: i needed to read this!
ChloeCubbins: thank you so much. this is EXACTLY what I need and I've been hoping to get an article like this soon :) thank you sooooo much, I needed this <3
Sweta: Knowing that someone else is going through the same things; it's quite comforting. Thanks for posting this!
Ashley: My fiancé of 6 years cheated on me- with 3 different women- and then dumped me via text 2 months before the wedding. It was rough and ugly. Needless to say I am much better off without him and I now have an AMAZING man who is pretty close to perfect. At least now I know that, if it ever happened again, I don't need any man to make me happy.
Haley: My (now ex) boyfriend of two years ditched me the other night to cheat on me. It was really painful because he has been my first real relationship and we were the only people who one another had sex with until he cheated. Thinking about it makes me nauseous and I can't eat anything or sleep since I found out. Everything was going well in our relationship and I am still in shock this could ever happen. Hopefully this article helps me out, thank you.
ChloeCubbins: and I still find it hard to get over him after how much I invested emotionally towards him. he treated me like crap the first time and then cheated on me the second... wow. and I felt hopeless when I saw the girl because she was so much prettier than me. but I'm getting over it. and me and her teamed up and busted him out on it. felt good. now towards getting over him. almost 2 months since it's happened and I still cry about it :/
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