There are so many things you should not say when fighting with your partner! There will always be fights. This is what helps build your relationship for the better. Communication is key during fights but watch what you say, because it could make things worse. During an argument, try to avoid these 7 things you should not say when fighting with your partner.
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1. Swear Words Are a No- No!
Curse words are probably the most effective way to show someone you are very angry, but they are the most important to avoid out of all the things you should not say when fighting with your partner. Once you throw in one of those curse words into the argument, the other person automatically becomes defensive and throws one back at you, and it just goes downhill from there. Try to avoid saying them as they will make things worse.
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Instead of resorting to profanity, focus on constructive communication. Even in moments of high tension, expressing your thoughts and feelings without swearing can lead to a more productive conversation. Remember, once a harsh word is spoken, it cannot be taken back and might leave a lasting scar on the relationship. Strive for calmness and respect, even if you have to take a moment to compose yourself before continuing the discussion. It's about finding solutions, not winning battles.
2. WhatevER
Who here hates hearing the word "whatever" when you’re trying to get a point across? Yeah, I am pretty sure we all do! Running away from the argument by saying "whatever" might be an easy way out of it, but not only does it make it worse, it does not solve anything.
Frequently asked questions
Honestly, no. Cursing can really hurt the other person and make things worse. It's better to calm down and talk without using hurtful words.
If your partner starts swearing, it's important to stay calm. Let them know how it's making you feel. Set boundaries and consider taking a break from the conversation.
Being cursed at by someone you love can feel very personal and hurtful. It can damage trust and make you feel disrespected. It's normal to feel bad about it.
Try to set some ground rules with your partner when you're both calm. Agree to avoid cursing and take breaks if things get too heated. Communication is key.
Yes, it can. Constantly cursing at each other can create a toxic environment and erode the respect and love in your relationship. It's important to address this behavior early.
3. Sarcasm
This is probably the worst out of all things you shouldn’t use in a fight. Just like the dreaded "whatever," being sarcastic does not solve anything it just makes things worse. Think about it, how would you like it if your partner was being sarcastic during a fight? I’ve been in a relationship, where there was never a time he was never sarcastic during a fight that could have made our relationship better. In the end, it just made things worse. Make sure you watch out for sarcasm no matter how tempting it is.
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When fighting with your partner, it is important to remember that communication is key. It is also important to use the right words and to avoid certain phrases or behaviors that can make the situation worse. One of the things that you should not do when fighting with your partner is to be sarcastic.
Sarcasm is a form of communication that is often used to make a joke or to belittle someone. However, sarcasm can be hurtful and it can make a fight worse. It can make your partner feel like you don’t care about their feelings or that you are not taking the situation seriously. It can also make your partner feel like they are not being heard or that their opinion doesn’t matter.
In a fight, it is important to be honest and direct. It is also important to be respectful and to listen to your partner’s point of view. If you find yourself getting angry or frustrated, take a break and come back to the conversation when you are calm.
4. I Give up
A fight with your partner eventually makes you two stronger. Saying you give up prevents that from happening. If you truly love your partner, fight for them by fighting with them. What I mean by that is, don’t just walk out, and close the door on your partner. Stay and work things out even if it means fighting through an argument. Don’t just say you give up so easily.
5. It’s All Your Fault!
Blaming each other get you nowhere. Instead of trying to fix what you were fighting about, it will just turn into a game of whose fault is it. Avoiding the blame game will definitely bring out the good during a fight.
6. You Shouldn’t/should
Bringing up the past is a must to avoid during a fight. The past is the past for a reason, so try to focus on the present — focus on what you are fighting about NOW instead of bringing up things from the past.
7. I’m Fine (Not Really)
Lying about how you feel is one of the worst things you can do during an argument with your partner. This LITERALLY gets you nowhere. You are not really fixing anything by lying about how you are feeling during a fight. The best thing to do is be honest no matter how hurtful it can be.
Fighting with the one person you really love can be horrible, but saying the wrong things can make it worse. The tips above are some of the things you should avoid saying during an argument. How you ever been in a fight where one wrong word made it worse than it should have been? How did you handle it?
Comments
Abs: These all make sense but when fighting it hard to be rational & say the right things. Good in theory but hard to do in practice
Camille: Maybe I should've read this earlier...I've already said #1 & 2 today. I also say #7 a lot or "I'm not mad" when I am.
Sandra: Get out/ I want a divorce.
Rebecca: You have to swear when arguing!
Tifyane: These tips are great. Arguments can kill relationships. That is the case now with mine. Hurtful things are said during a time of vulnerability and I feel so attacked. It seems like he doesn't care at all. I sent him the tips even though things aren't great right now. Hopefully he will see how the things he says really do hurt the relationship.
Doniese: I agree!
Sonu: Oh shit I do all of it :-O
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