7 Things You Shouldn't do in the Beginning of a New Relationship ...
By Corina • 19 Comments
By Corina • 19 Comments
There are a lot of things no-one should do in the beginning of a new relationship. Sometimes it’s pretty hard to realize what those things are, especially if all those butterflies in your stomach can make you not think straight. Nobody’s perfect when it comes to knowing how to behave in the beginning of a new relationship, but with a little bit of help, you will see that it’s not that hard to control your emotions and behave in a more appropriate way according to the stage of your relationship.
I know that sometimes you may feel a little bit insecure, but you should get a hold of yourself and on your feelings and don’t do the mistake most people do in the beginning of a new relationship: don’t lie! Honesty is always the right thing to do in every situation, especially when it comes to your love life. Don’t lie, whether you are tempted to do it because you wanna improve yourself and you think that by lying you will win somebody’s love, or because you don’t wanna hurt somebody’s feelings in case you are not that interested after you got to know them better. By being honest, you’ll be able to avoid those unpleasant situations that may appear afterwards.
Of course, you shouldn’t be too available either but there’s such a thin line between hard to get and overly convenient. You should try to find the perfect balance between those two attitudes so you won’t have any problems about knowing what to do in the beginning of a new relationship. Don’t postpone dates if you are not really busy, answer your phone or your text messages and be honest! You will see, that for some people playing hard to get, it can be the thing that will drive them away because they are quite busy so they don’t have time for any games.
I know that if you are a bit insecure or shy, you might be tempted to have a few more extra drinks because you might think this is the best way to be braver, more sociable or even more interesting. Well, you couldn’t be more wrong, especially if you are not used to drinking! You might get sick because of all those cocktails and trust me, no one likes someone who appears to have a drinking problem, not to mention, being in a relationship with a this kind of person. So, try to be well-balanced and remember that most people think shy people are in fact, adorable.
Another thing you shouldn’t do in the beginning of a new relationship is hurrying and throwing yourself head first into that relationship. You might scare your partner if you call him 20 times a day or if you make plans for your summer vacation together, when you’ve only dated for a couple of times. Don’t tell them how many kids you wanna have or what color would be the curtains of your dream house. You’ll only scare them away and they might not get to know the wonderful person that you really are.
Another thing a lot of people in the beginning of a new relationship are tempted to do, is moving in together even though they’ve only been a couple for a month or two. Remember: you have no reason to hurry, wait a little longer to get to know your partner better. This thing takes time, just wait ‘till the butterflies calm down a bit so you will be more reasonable, because such a step needs some planning and analyzing. It’s a pretty big deal and I’m sure you wouldn’t wanna move back after a couple of weeks if you’ll realize you partner is not what you though him or her to be.
I know it may be tempting to try to impress your partner by always talking about all your accomplishments and about all your wonderful qualities. But try not to bore him (or her), just let him (or her) discover all by themselves all there is to know about you. Don’t spoil that pleasure and keep in mind that a little bit of mystery is always a good way to spice things up in your relationship. So, try to avoid doing all the talking and give your partner the chance to ask you a few questions.
I know I said that you shouldn’t play hard to get, but you shouldn’t be too available either. I know that you might think your date is the one for you or that you really have something special which will turn into a beautiful relationship, but try to keep your feet on the ground and don’t go with the flow if you want more from someone than a one night stand. So, don’t have sex on the first date and make him (or her) work for it!
There are so many things you might be tempted to do in the beginning of a new relationship because you wanna please your partner and this way, you can make a lot of mistakes too. Do you have in mind any other mistakes you need to avoid in the beginning of a new relationship? Please share your experience with us in the comments section!