Change Your Perspective on These Unrealistic Expectations for a Better Relationship ...

By Corina

Even though there’s nothing wrong with having expectations in a relationship, unrealistic expectations can really do a number on your love life. Nobody’s perfect, we all have flaws and we all make mistakes; we’re human, after all. So don’t expect to have a perfect relationship that can live up to your high expectations or hopes because such a thing is not possible. Even though when you look at people’s Facebook pictures, they all seem always happy and in love, just keep in mind that you are only seeing the happy aspects of their relationship. Don’t worry about the fact that everyone else seems way happier in their relationship than you; you are just seeing it from one filtered angle. Here are a few unrealistic expectations that can ruin your love life:

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1. In a Good Relationship, Conflicts Don’t Occur

This is one of the most popular unrealistic expectations that people have regarding their relationship. The truth is that conflicts occur in any relationship, no matter how well the partners get along with each other or how much love they have. Everyone fights with their partner every now and then. The important thing is to learn how to fight fair to solve those arguments in a more productive way.

2. Your Partner Should Always Understand Your Feelings

In any intimate relationship, the partners always expect their significant other to understand their feelings or desires, without saying anything at all. Good communication is key to any healthy relationship, so improve your communication skills if you want to solve any potential conflicts.

3. You Should Always Be Emotionally Connected to Your Partner

The truth is that you can’t be emotionally connected to your partner all the time, since you are two individuals who think differently. If you agreed with each other all the time, you might get bored easily, so sometimes it’s best to be a little different. This way, you can learn from each other and you can enrich your experience, Learn to appreciate your differences and let go of those unrealistic expectations that can ruin your relationship.

4. Couples Should Always Be Together

Eve though it’s very important for any couple to spend a lot of time together, it’s not necessary to be with your partner 24/7 for your relationship to work. Allow your significant other to spend some alone time sometimes and give them room to breathe. Doing things by yourself will give you energy, make you feel more independent and make your relationship strong.

If you're looking to engage your partner in intriguing conversations, why not try some hypothetical questions for couples? These fun queries will not only keep the conversation lively but also stimulate deep thoughts and potentially reveal insights about each other's personality and thought processes.

5. A Relationship Should Be Very Easy to Maintain

Actually, any healthy relationship needs a lot of work from both partners. Not all romantic relationships are as easy as the ones you see in movies or read about in books. If you want your relationship to work, then you should let go of those unrealistic expectations, focus on the beautiful things you feel for each other and be willing to work to keep that spark alive.

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6. Love Means Never Having to Say You’re Sorry

You should always say “I’m sorry” when you make a mistake and since we are all human, we all make mistakes. This rule applies when it comes to love too. Sincere apologies and forgiveness are essential if you want your relationship to work.

7. Arguing Always Destroys a Relationship

As I’ve said before, it’s unrealistic to think that in a healthy relationship there are no fights and that you and your partner will never disagree on anything. Actually, studies show that failing to resolve conflicts can lead to distance and loneliness in a relationship, so try to fight fair, negotiate and make compromises.

A healthy relationship requires a lot of work and a lot of patience from both partners. Do you know any other unrealistic expectations that can ruin a relationship? Please share your thoughts with us in the comments section!

Sources:
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I have such a unrealistic relationship. I have a certain meaning and thought on my relationship an I always know it was wrong but at the same time maybe men should just be what their woman wants and don't be a fuck up!!!

My soon to be ex husband thought all of these things. Especially #1! -__-

Yes relationships need a lot of work

@Lavinia so true!

Good advice

Omg And please don’t lose your identity when your in a relationship... don’t depend on the other person to make you happy. Don’t become wife material before you are his wife and for Pete’s sake, don’t become his mom! He is a grown man.

The last one reminds me of something my grandma always said, "If you never argue, you must never be talking. Either that or your scared sh**less to have a different opinion." Lol!

We are taught that relationships if with the right person should be effortless. I agree that healthy relationships are hard work and you've got to invest in them. The fairytales only show you how they got together, they didn't show us whether they stayed together.

#7 ... always arguing... then something isn’t getting fixed in the relationship

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