You and your man are on good terms now, but you can't help but worry about whether that's all going to change one day. I mean, people are always saying how married couples stop sleeping together and start arguing once they hit a certain point. Well, it doesn't have to be that way. Here are a few ways to assure that he'll never lose interest in you:
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1. Be Spontaneous
After you've been together for a while, you'll fall into a certain routine. You'll see each other on certain days, go to certain restaurants, and hang out with certain people. While there's nothing wrong with developing a routine, you have to break it every once in a while. Surprise him with reservations for a restaurant in a different town or buy him tickets for a show in the city. Do whatever you can to keep him on his toes.
2. Keep up Appearances
You don't have to wear makeup every morning and toss out every pair of sweatpants you own. However, you should occasionally dress nicely just for him. Buy some lingerie or a new dress that he won't be able to take his eyes off of. If you're with the right man, he'll return the favor by buying something for himself to wear that you'll adore.
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3. Never Stop Learning
This one is essential, not only for your relationship, but for yourself. If you've been with your man for years, then he'll eventually have nothing left to learn about you--unless you keep trying new things. Join a class or take a trip. That way, you'll be living a life you enjoy and will constantly have new things for him to learn about you.
4. Have Your Own Friends
Don't let your man become your entire life. If he sees that you have plenty of friends that love spending time with you, he'll realize how lucky he is to have you and won't lose interest. That's why it's important to organize your time--because you want to have a social life that doesn't involve your man.
5. Continue Dating
If you act like a boring old married couple, then you'll start to feel that why. That's why you need to continue to go out on dates. It'll give you a chance to dress up, show each other off in public, and have flirty conversations. If you want your relationship to stay interesting, you have to act like you're still in the honeymoon phase, even when you've been together for decades.
6. Give Him What He Wants
You aren't his slave, so you don't have to wait on him hand and foot. However, he won't lose interest in you if you always surprise him by doing something special. If you know he loves cheesecake, pick him up a slice on the way home from work. If you know he hates taking out the garbage, do it for him after he had a rough day.
7. Never Lose Interest in Him
If you don't want him to lose interest in you, then you can't lose interest in him. If you're both happy to be involved in each other's lives, then you won't have a problem. You'll always be excited to spend time together.
As long as you continue to put effort into your relationship, you two shouldn't have a problem. What do you do to make sure that your relationship remains fun and fresh?
Comments
Kayy: What a lovely article. Ive been with my boyfriend for just a year and a half. We will be married soon. Such a positive approach to a long relationship. Thanks these will come in handy one day ;)
Kate: I'm sorry, but I must comment. If you have to "keep him interested" than it doesn't seem like he is the one. It's seems like if you two are supposed to be in love it shouldn't be one side and you pulling at his sleeves trying to get him to notice you. Then again I could be wrong and society is so gruesome now that the lady must "keep him interested."
Denise: There is always a giver and a receiver... Just make sure you are emotionally nourished when doing so much for another!
b: 7 ways to keep her interested in you.... Oh wait, men don't really care, they just live their lives
Cheryl: Kelly if your guy is one that likes the au natural than do it for him sometime and not do up your face all the time... Its just he's the exception do the opposite than lol
Kelly: So we have to 'keep him interested' but men don't. I've been with my husband for 10 years married for two, and I can honestly say that at my worst our relationship was at its best because he took care of me, it made both of us realise how important each other is. I do things for my husband all the time and vice versa but it isn't to 'keep him interested' it's because we love each other and feel the other deserves to know that. People go through hard times in their lives these are the things that test a relationship and show how you feel. If you have to wear make up or loon nice for him then that's not who you should be with. I wear make up for me my husband doesn't like it but I've been brought up believing it's what you do each day I won't change that not even for my husband. X
Cheryl: I agree with kate and rachel.. How about 7 ways to show him you love him. That we just sometimes forget. And these little things can help :)
Cheryl: K a lot of men can be actually sensitive and may care even more than us .. They are just men and like to act like tough.. They can be way more sensitive than us girls trust me
Joy: Im new, lol And through this site I realized my boyfriend loves me but he never said it
Cheryl: Picky? Sorry how is that picky? Not meaning to be
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