8 Ways to Be Less Shy around Guys ...

8 Ways to Be Less Shy around Guys ...
By Diana • Aug 17, 2021

If you’ve been avoiding Mr. Right (or Mr. Right Now), here’s how to be less shy around guys. As someone whose nerves get the best of her as soon as a hottie walks by, I’ve rounded up 8 tips on how to show your crush that you’re the gal of his dreams. So what are you waiting for?

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1. Look Your Best

One of the first ways to be less shy around guys is to make sure you look and feel in tip top shape. That means you should keep a close eye on personal hygiene, wear an outfit you feel comfortable (and gorgeous) in, and slather on a little of your favorite lip gloss. Confidence is key when approaching a guy you like, so putting in the extra effort will certainly pay off.

2. Practice Makes Perfect

Do you have a gaggle of guy friends you have no romantic interest in? How about a brother or male cousins? Offer up food/homework help/chore duty and hold practice sessions before going up to the boy you’ve been crushing on for ages. Just remember: those first meetings are only perfect in the movies…unless you’ve gone through a few practice runs!

3. Join a Club

A foolproof way to assert yourself is to join a new club. Not only will you make friends, but you might also win over a male admirer or two. Plus, your new after school activity will beef up your college application!

4. Smile

You’ll be less shy around guys as soon as you crack your biggest smile. It’ll make you look much friendlier, so the boy you have your eye on will find it easy to open up. After all, who could resist a gorgeous, grinning girl?

If you're looking to engage your partner in intriguing conversations, why not try some hypothetical questions for couples? These fun queries will not only keep the conversation lively but also stimulate deep thoughts and potentially reveal insights about each other's personality and thought processes.

5. Eye Contact is Key

Think about it this way: would you ever date a guy who stares at the concrete all day long? Didn’t think so. The next time you talk to him, make sure you see eye to eye –literally.

6. Don’t Expect a Date

Another definite way to be less shy around guys is to not expect every conversation to end with a phone number and plans for a movie night. If you’re focused on actually getting to know the guy who’s caught your eye, the worst you’ll end up with is a new friend –and that’s pretty darn good. But act like an obsessed stalker, and he’ll write you off forever!

7. Pay Attention

My favorite way to act less shy around guys is to have a few topics of discussion in mind beforehand. But in order to come prepared, you’ll need to pay close attention to his interests (for example, does he walk around wearing a Yankees cap or doodle in his notebooks?). Once you have a few points to touch on, the conversation will be easy, breezy.

8. Start Online

If you’re painfully shy and shudder at the thought of chatting with your crush, start with a simple Facebook chat message or a comment on one of his posts. A great topic to start off with is a comment about school or question about the night’s homework. It’ll prepare you for the next time you see him in class –just don’t forget to thank him for reminding you what page the math homework was on.

These are my best ways to be less shy around guys. Which tips will you try on your crush? Do you have any of your own to add?

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  • Kelly

    2012-09-25T00:41:04.000Z

    Hello! I am not a freshman. In fact I'm a senior. I like this guy who hangs out with a bunch of my other friends, and went to a small party with my best friends and he was there too. I haven't had much of a chance to talk to him because I get super shy and kinda don't talk. ever. I'm so nervous that he might think I don't like him. Because I even get too scared to smile. I just really wanna get to know him and show him that I want to. ....Can someone help? :S
  • Artfreak27

    2014-02-03T01:51:09.044Z

    Ive always been bullied so it causes me to shut every one out and I refuse to let people get close to me, and I want to but I just shut them out. And I really like this guy but I'm so scared to say or do anything
  • Sarah

    2012-09-10T01:41:48.000Z

    ok so there's this really awesome guy I met at church and we've been talking for months and he's told me that he really likes me, but won't ask me to be his. Someone told me they think it's because he's flirting with other girls. What do you think? Should I stick around?
  • Selam

    2013-01-30T06:03:15.000Z

    i like this guy who is really smart history etc, athletic, and he's quite popular too and we have the same AP US History class. I'm shy when it comes to him, but not around my friends. We pass each other in the hallway and I smile occasionally and we make eye contact most times. I've really liked him, but i dont know when and how to talk to him. Help please!
  • Emily.B

    2012-09-22T19:24:10.000Z

    Hey im a freshman in hs, and a lot like Logan. I make eye contact with a guy from my class a lot, but we rarely talk. My friends say he likes me too, but how can i be more comfortable around him, or around guys in general?!
  • Evannalovegood

    2013-08-09T06:37:35.000Z

    How about trying to not make a fool of yourself talking to them or just talking to them in general that's my problem with guys :)
  • R.

    2012-08-24T13:18:33.000Z

    I'm really happy recently cuz I have an amazing guy (he hasn't asked me out tho) I like him and he likes me and I love how he makes me laugh and we actually talk. We are both in 7th grade and I know I'm probably not gonna marry the guy but I just love having him around
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