In an ideal romantic world, people would respect boundaries and not show an interest in someone who is married or in a relationship. However, many of us have seen a man-snatcher in action. She’s the kind of woman who sees a married man as a challenge, or simply doesn’t care if he is spoken for. Should you be worried if one of these women targets your boyfriend? Here are some tips on how to deal with them.
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1. Stay Alert
If someone shows an interest in your boyfriend, keep an eye on the situation. Is she a work colleague coming up with excuses to email or text him? Does she pretend to need a good friend because ‘he’s a nice guy’ or ask him to help her fix things around her house? Those can be a signs that she's attempting to manipulate him and make him feel needed.
2. Ignore
Women of this type sometimes get a kick out of causing problems between a couple. Maybe they don’t even really like the man, they just want to prove that they can have him. The answer can be to take no notice of her behaviour. If he is worth having, he will not respond to her. If he does, then you are well rid of a man who will flirt -- or do more -- with other women.
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3. Show Confidence
It’s a good idea to demonstrate self-confidence, without being smug (which may make her more determined). So don’t indicate that she is bothering you, instead be quietly confident in yourself and your partner. He’s chosen to be with you, so why would he throw that away for someone else who isn’t exactly scrupulous?
4. Trust
If you can’t or don’t trust him, then maybe you have a problem with jealousy, regardless of the other woman. Maybe there are also signs that he is not being entirely honest with you. To a certain extent, you have to trust him not to respond to her advances, as you can’t watch him 24 hours a day. So be aware, but don’t be paranoid.
5. Let Go
Should the worst happen, and you discover that he has deceived you, then let her have him and move on, hard as that may be. This isn’t a competition, and she hasn’t ‘won’. What intelligent woman would want a man who could be lured away?
6. Be Nice
If a woman is after your man, you can be sure that she won’t like you because you are in the way. And one sure way of annoying someone who doesn’t like you is to be nice to them. This doesn’t mean that you pathetically try to make them like you, but that you treat her civilly and amicably. It might annoy her into giving up and going away.
7. History
Sometimes the situation is complicated by the fact that the man-snatcher and your man have a previous romantic history. A lot of people don’t like it if their ex finds someone new, and set out to sabotage the new relationship. What can you do? Well, first and foremost, your boyfriend should consider you his priority, and make it clear that he is not interested in rekindling an old flame. He should also avoid seeing her when you are not present. If he won’t do this, I would ask myself if he’s still interested …
It's hard to deal with this kind of situation, simply because it's awkward, uncomfortable, and worrisome all the way around. Remember that speaking honestly and openly with your boyfriend is a surefire way to deal with this issue, too. Have you ever had to deal with a man-snatcher, or have you set out to steal a man from someone else?
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victoriatoliver: yes nd i suceeded but first of ALL he WANTED me !!!!
otilia: hi so i read all the tips, and i have still having a hard time trying with my problem. here's my problem I have a friend we have recently started to hangout together, we go on walks and stuff like that. we both know this one guy, she tells me that me and him make a cute couple and stuff like that we can both tell he's really into me, but my friend will say something positive about me and him then say a lot of negative things. she "has a boyfriend" and likes another guy, i can tell she has a little crush on the guy i was talking about she told me she liked him 2 years ago but she is constantly talking about him and always wants to walk on his street (the guy she likes lives on the same street but on the other end) she talks to the guy that likes me more than i get to talk to him!! The guy and I aren't in "a relationship" but it seems like we're almost there. do you think my friend is a "Man-Snatcher" sorry about the really long comment but i need to know!
Anonymous: Let me lay this out quite plainly. You DO NOT even so much as contemplate doing anything with a man who is taken. I don't care if he's dating, engaged, married(happily or not). You don't go near it. If he wants you, let him leave his relationship first. Any man who will leave someone else simply to be with you is worth getting to know. However, if he cheats on his other half with you 1.he will cheat on you, 2.he doesn't care that much about you, you're just a booty call & a dirty skank 3. He isn't interested in leaving his relationship. The biggest thing is consider if you did find someone you fell in love with and another woman decided she wanted him and went after him not caring that he was with you. We girls have to stick together and stop tearing each other up. Men certainly aren't going to help out. And besides guys stick together, right!
Lyric: This guy is engaged and i have a little crush on him. I haven't done a thing about it but others have told me how he stares at me when I'm not looking and he always tells jokes and then looks at me when I'm laughing. This one time someone was talking to him but he was looking right at me! I know he's engaged but it seems like he's interested. Should i make a move?
roarr!!: And of course an ex that happens to be his baby mama is always gonna keep things stirred up and I'm the one that gets blamed for the trouble making....not to mention we also have a child together...
Anonymous: What if I like the guy but don't want to ruin the relationahip & I only want to be his friend. Plus I accidentaly looked at him and he smiled at me but I smiled too late. Help how do I make him my friend just a friend did I ruin it by smiling too late. Also his girlfriend is in the only class I have him in.
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