7 Ways to Get More Quality Time in Your Relationship ...

Alicia

Quality time is something that every relationship needs. This is true when you’re dating, engaged or married. Every couple needs that in order to have a healthy and happy relationship. But life’s busy and quality time isn’t always easy to find. These are some ways you can get more quality time in your relationship.

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1. Plan Traditional Dates

Traditional dates are a great way to get quality time in your relationship and probably the most popular way. That’s because we love dates! What’s not to love about them? You get all dressed up, you go out and do something fun together and have uninterrupted quality time. Every relationship needs dates, whether you’ve been dating a few weeks or married 10 years. Make it a point to plan dates to enjoy together.

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Consider rotating who plans the dates to keep things exciting and unexpected. Maybe it's dinner and a movie this week, then a hike and picnic the next. Aim for variety – try a cooking class together, visit a museum, take a daytime excursion to a nearby city, or enjoy a sunset boat ride. The key is engagement with each other. Leave distractions behind and focus on appreciating the experience and your partner's company. Regularly scheduling date nights also gives you both something to anticipate – it's like a mini-celebration of your partnership that constantly reaffirms your connection.

2. Enjoy Everyday Events

Everyday events are great to share with each other. Watch a game with him or have him watch your favorite show with you. Even when you can’t go on dates, you can enjoy quality time. You could cook a meal together or wash your car together. A good thought to have here is that it isn’t what you’re doing, but who you’re doing it with that matters.

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Making the most out of mundane activities can transform them into special moments. Engage in DIY projects around the house that you both can contribute to, bringing a sense of teamwork and accomplishment. Alternatively, share in the simplicity of a morning coffee ritual together where you can discuss plans or simply enjoy the silence before the day begins. It's remarkable how these shared experiences, no matter how small, can deepen your connection and create cherished memories in the fabric of your daily life.

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3. Make Use of Technology

Technology can help you to keep in touch all throughout your day. It’s a way to enjoy quality time off and on throughout your day. There are different ways technology can help you to squeeze more quality time in your relationship. You can email, text, Snapchat, FaceTime or use another method of digital communication. Whichever form of technology you decide to use, your relationship can benefit from it.

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Utilizing video calls can also simulate a real-life date, allowing you to share experiences like cooking dinner together or watching the same movie while miles apart. Communication apps with scheduling features can be invaluable, helping to plan those critical moments together and keep them sacred amidst a busy life. Remember, it's not just about quantity; with technology, you can create moments that feel just as intimate and special as being in the same room, sustaining your connection and intimacy regardless of distance.

4. Meet up Midday

Maybe you have an absolutely crazy schedule that doesn’t give you many openings at all for quality time. This is when you have to take what you can get. Meet up to share lunch together or the 20 minute walk between school and work. No, it’s not enough but it’s better than nothing. Little snippets of your time in the middle of your day can help until you have more time to spend together.

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Meeting up during the day might seem brief, but it's an opportunity to reconnect and share your experiences. Whether it's savoring a quick bite, laughing over a funny incident, or holding hands as you walk – these moments matter. They add up, reinforcing the bond you share. So while the clock might be rushing you, embrace the intimacy of the here and now. Each shared smile and quick kiss is a reminder that, despite the rush, you're prioritizing each other.

5. Have Daily Routines

If you live together, you can have daily routines that give you quality time. Have your morning coffee together or a glass of wine after you put your children to bed at night. Maybe you could take a walk after dinner in the evenings. My husband and I have a couple television shows that we watch together each week. The point is that you find some routines to give you quality time together. This’ll look different for every couple.

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Establishing a morning ritual can be a serene way to start the day, such as joint meditation or stretching exercises, fostering calmness and connection before the daily rush begins. Take turns cooking dinner to make mealtime more interactive, or set aside a weekly 'game night' to indulge in some friendly competition. The goal is to create shared experiences, no matter how small, that forge stronger bonds and turn the mundane parts of your day into opportunities for togetherness. Remember, consistency in these routines is key to their becoming cherished parts of your relationship.

6. Enjoy Stolen Moments

Stolen moments may be the sweetest. These are the little moments when you’ve both got other things to do but you take just a tiny amount of time for each other. It could be a kiss as you pass each other in the hallway at school or when you’re coming home and he’s leaving. Maybe it’s a few minutes to snuggle when you really should getting ready. Whatever way that you find them, stolen moments are small but powerful ways of having quality time together.

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Stolen moments often catch us when we're least expecting them, and their impromptu nature makes them deeply touching. Whether it's a shared glance across a crowded room that says "I'm thinking of you," or a quick text to say "goodnight" when you're both burning the midnight oil, these tiny gestures cement your bond. It's like creating your own secret world amidst the chaos of daily life. So, cherish these snippets of time; even the briefest connection can renew the feelings that brought you together in the first place.

7. Make the Most of Time You Have

Sometimes life doesn’t allow you to spend much quality time together. That happens to every couple now and then. The important thing is to make the most of the time you have. Look forward to it and treasure it when you get it. If your relationship is strong, it’ll survive those times of busyness.

These are 7 ways to get more quality time in your relationship. What’s your secret to finding quality time in your relationship? Your answer could help others.

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Loose your in laws haha just kidding......or am I?

Shower together, it's intimate and bonding time for me

Don't have kids! Lol... Only joking, I love my kids :)

Number 7 is so true

Movies, shows, long walks, drives and meals

Wonderful article. We book a hotel and have time out shopping relaxing and getting away

Very meaningful article, and good advice. Thank you.

Me & my fiancé live together and it's crazy how this is so accurate we do all those things listed above and so far it has worked great for us. It was a little hard in the beginning because we were getting used to the whole change but now after almost 6 months of living together we got it right, and everything seems to be working fine