Looking for ways to get over a breakup? Breaking up is never easy. Whether you were the one who called it quits or he did, it still hurts. We have all been there or know someone who is currently going through it. I just recently went through this myself a few months ago. It was one of the hardest things I have ever gone through. I am going to share what helped me to get over my breakup. Hopefully, my experience will make the process for you a little less painful. Here are the best ways to get over a breakup.
Letting it all out is one of the best ways to get over a breakup. It’s okay to allow yourself to be as sad and emotional as you want during the post-breakup process. It’s normal to be upset, especially if you had an ugly and messy breakup. It’s better to set aside some time for yourself to let it all out. Believe me, once you have let it all out you will feel a lot better. However, you decide to let it all out is up to you. Whether it’s listening to breakup songs or signing up for kickboxing. just find some way to help you get it out. Just don’t wallow in it for an excessive period.
This means getting rid of anything he gave you, bought you, or mementos of the relationship. This was the part I looked forward to the most. Once I got rid of all the reminders of my ex I felt so liberated. Holding onto mementos of the relationship will just be painful reminders of what no longer exists. Once you do move on, your new boyfriend certainly will not appreciate any reminders of the old one.
Go through all of your devices and delete old emails, texts, pictures, anything that reminds you of him. This includes social media as well. Unfollow, unfriend, and if needed block him. This goes without saying, but delete his phone number as well. That way you aren’t tempted to contact him. Coming across his Facebook post or an old text can be just as painful. Having that kind of reminder will make it harder to move on.
Not to sound like a certain popular song from a Disney movie but you must let it go. I think this is the hardest part. It certainly was for me because I was with my ex for many years. It’s hard to let go of what was when you shared so many memories with him. You also invested a lot of time, energy, and sometimes money into making the relationship work. Then when it doesn’t work out you feel as if all that was for nothing. No matter how unfair it may seem, you have to let it go in order to move on. Let go of the good memories, and especially the bad ones. It’s not worth clinging to someone who doesn’t value you. Being clingy shows that you don’t value yourself. It’s okay to put yourself first.
Remember that you two broke up for a reason. Don’t spend your time analyzing and regretting what no longer works. If you keep looking back instead of focusing on your future, there's only going to be regret. In order to move on and get over your ex you have to accept the reality that you are broken up. Don’t try to pick up the pieces and fit them back together. I’ve done this with my ex plenty of times. No matter how hard you try to fix it, things will never be as they were. If it didn’t work the first time it won’t work the 10th time. It will just cause you more hurt and more pain. That also means noy wondering what could have been or should have been.
One of the worst things you can do is become a hermit while you are trying to get over your ex. Your first instinct will be to stay home all the time to nurse your wounds. It’s okay to spend some time alone to think about things but not excessively. Going outdoors, joining a gym, taking your dog for a walk, or any outdoor activity is good for your mind, body, and soul. It will give you a new perspective on life. If you become a couch potato you will resent yourself later. Remember that your life isn’t over just because he is no longer a part of it.
It’s totally okay to pamper yourself. Do whatever makes you feel good about yourself. Do things that will boost your self-esteem. Whether it’s going to a spa, changing your style, hair, or taking a class, if it boosts your self-image go for it. Being good to yourself will put that spring back into your step. You will begin to feel like a new person. When you feel good about yourself and have that confidence back, moving on from your ex will be easier. You will go from a place of mourning to a place of joy.