Don't worry about becoming too needy once you settle down, because there are ways to remain independent while in a relationship. You can devote yourself to another person without becoming entirely dependent on them. You just have to find a way to let them into your life without letting them take control of your life. Here are a few ways to remain independent while in a relationship:
1. Have Your Own Hobbies
It's great to do things together, but you should have some separate hobbies. While he's working out on his treadmill, you can paint on your easel. One of the easiest ways to remain independent while in a relationship is to have fun without him. It's impossible for you two to have every single thing in common, so figure out what he's not interested in, and use it to your advantage.
2. Manage Your Own Money
It's okay if you merge your bank accounts, because that's what most couples end up doing when they get super serious. However, you should still pay attention to how much cash you're contributing. If you're not happy relying on a man to pay the bills, then make sure you have enough money to do so on your own.
3. Help with the Household
If he's willing to wash the dishes and vacuum the carpet, you're going to be tempted to sit back and relax without doing any chores. However, if you want to prove to yourself that you're capable of surviving without him, you should pitch in every once in a while. Share the duties.
4. Give Your Girls Attention
Your world shouldn't revolve around your partner, even if he's the most important thing in your world. He can hang out with your friends every once in a while, but you should try to set a day where you hang out with your friends while he's out with his friends. You don't always have to be in the same room.
5. Uphold Your Opinions
Don't change your beliefs, because of him. It's fine for him to tell you information about the world that you were previously ignorant to, and for you to change your mind with good reason. But don't morph into his twin, because you think your relationship will last longer that way. Always be yourself.
6. Tend to Yourself
Your boyfriend should want to help take care of you, but he should also realize that you could take care of yourself if you needed to do so. When you have a flat tire, he'll come help you, but you can fix it yourself. If you're independent, you're able to get out of some sticky situations without him.
7. Consult over Your Choices
When you're in a relationship, you have to consult your partner before you make certain decisions. However, the ones that ultimately affect only you should be determined by you in the end. You're in charge of what color to dye your hair, and whether you quit your job. His input matters, but you're in charge.
Entering a relationship doesn't mean that you lose all of your independence. You're still as self-sufficient as you were when you were single, so there's no reason for you to suddenly rely on a man for everything. Do you consider yourself an independent woman?