7 Ways to Tell if You Expect Too Much from Your Partner ...

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Have you ever wondered if you expect too much from your partner? First of all, you should know that there is no perfect relationship because we all make mistakes since we’re only human. We all want our significant other to be there for us when we need them but do we consider their needs or desires? People often tend to measure unconsciously whether their partner is good enough for them. There is a lot of research that shows that people’s expectations tend to influence their relationship satisfaction, so try to pay attention to what you want from your significant other and see if your demands are reasonable. Here are 7 ways to tell if you expect too much from your partner that you should consider:

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1

You Feel Your Partner is Not Good Enough for You

Do you often feel that your partner is not good enough for you? Do you think you deserve more but you don’t know exactly why you think this way? Apparently, your partner seems to be doing everything right but you still feel like your relationship is missing something. Well, have you ever considered that maybe you are just expecting too much from them? We are responsible for our own happiness, it’s not somebody else’s job to make us happy.

2

You Are Obsessed with Your Partner’s Faults

If lately you seem to be focusing only on your partner’s faults, on what they do wrong, and you tend to neglect all the wonderful things that they do for you on a daily basis, you should consider the possibility that you may be a bit too demanding. We all make mistakes and we all have flaws; nobody’s perfect and neither are you.

3

You Have High Expectations of Your Partner

We all want to feel loved and accepted for who we are with all our flaws and qualities, but sometimes, we tend to idealize our significant other. We expect them to be romantic, cute and funny all the time and no matter how busy or tired they are, they should always do everything in their power to make us happy. Well, we all have bad days, so try to give them a break every now and then, take some initiative and be the one who helps them feel better.

4

You Expect Your Partner to Read Your Mind

This is one of the most common mistakes that couples make; they want their partner to know exactly what they want, without telling them what that thing is. Especially if they are in a committed long-term relationship, they feel like their partner should understand them without having to explain themselves.

5

You Want a Sensitive Partner

Do you often feel like you deserve a sensitive partner? Of course, we all want to be with someone who understands us, who cares for us, who makes sure that we are safe and who is very attentive all the time. Well, there’s no such thing as the perfect partner. Instead, try to be the perfect partner yourself and see what effect this attitude will have on your significant other’s behavior.

6

You Think Your Partner is Lucky to Be with You

I’m sure you are a great girl and that your partner really is lucky to be with you but have you ever considered seeing things the other way around? Do you consider yourself lucky to be with someone as wonderful and caring as your significant other? Do you notice their qualities or all the amazing things that they are doing for you on a daily basis?

7

You Think about Starting a New Relationship when You Feel Frustrated

When your partner frustrates you, do you often contemplate ending your relationship or starting a new one? When you are having a fight, do you always blame your significant other for all the things that go wrong in your relationship? Try to reevaluate your behavior and see what are the things that you don’t do right; because for a relationship to work, both partners should put in the effort and not only the expectations.

A lot of studies show that people’s expectations influence their relationship satisfaction, so try to be objective and see if your expectations are reasonable. Do you know any other ways by which someone can tell if they are expecting too much from their partner? Please share your thoughts with us in the comments section!

Sources:
psychologytoday.com

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You took the words right out of my mind.... I feel better now knowing someone out there sees things this way.... Thank you for being so insightful

This is what i need by now. Very helpful. Thanks

Yikes. This has really opened my eyes, thanks so much!

OMG I'm so guilty I will try to do sweet things and then get mad when he doesn't don't he exact same things for me all of our fights are abt what he is doing wrong thanks so much for this! I love him to death so I guess I should probably start cutting a little slack

This is so me!!! O God! :O I need to check myself :P thank you! :)

Uh oh

Thank you so much. I am everything on this list. I seriously need to work on myself😟

More like this please! Ive got a load of complexes due to my past experience. But ive been with my new boyfriend for over a year and i am really trying my best to treat him right and myself, obviously!! Love articles like this because u can really take a look at yourself and see where your going wrong. Thank u for this xx

There's a misspelling in the title... That's pretty bad haha

I must work on myself too. This opened my eyes

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