Whether you’re in a relationship or simply crushing on a guy, there are clear signs that you’re too attached to him. Even if he’s as obsessed with you as you are with him, your actions could be dangerous. You don’t want to develop unhealthy feelings or end up getting hurt. Here are some of the biggest signs that you’re too attached to him and that you should take a step back:
1. Expect Texts
When you’re close to someone, it’s normal to expect them to text you every single day. However, don’t freak out if it takes him five minutes longer to text you back than it took you to text him. You both have lives outside of one another. You shoudn’t expect him to contact you every hour on the hour and respond to your messages right away. One of the signs that you’re too attached to him is that you can’t go a few hours without hearing from him.
2. Constantly in Convos
When you’re out with your friends, how many times do you mention his name? If you have a few funny stories about him, that’s fine. But if you mention pointless facts about him that are barely relevant to the conversation, there’s an issue. Your friends won’t mind hearing about him, so long as the information is interesting or important. If you find yourself telling them arbitrarily bland facts about him, your mind is too focused on him.
3. Always around
If your schedules work so that you can see each other every single day, that’s fantastic. However, you can’t get mad at him if he makes other plans once in a while. You’re not the only person in his life. He needs time to see his family and friends, just like you do. If you can’t go one day without seeing him, then you may be too attached.
4. Never-ending Jealousy
If you see him with a pretty coworker or his ex, it’s normal to get jealous. However, if you’re jealous when he spends time with his parents or his best boy buddies, there’s a problem. Jealousy is common in relationships, but you can’t let it overwhelm you. If you’re stressed out over your envy, you’re either with the wrong guy, or you’re too attached.
5. Can't Stop Crying
How often do you cry over him? There are some situations that warrant tears, but others that should be dealt with less emotionally. If you cry every time you leave his house, even though you know you’ll see him soon, then you’re too attached. Instead of being upset about leaving, you should be happy that you were able to spend time with him.
6. Big Plans
If you’ve only been dating for a week or two and you’re already planning a wedding, you’re moving too quickly. It’s okay to imagine what it would be like to settle down with him, but don’t expect a proposal anytime soon. Some people get hitched after a month together, but most take their time. You don’t want to rush things and risk scaring him away.
7. Depressed without Him
It’s okay to be upset when you haven’t seen him for a few days, however, you can’t base your entire life around him. You have to be able to survive without him around. If you put your happiness in his hands, you’re going to end up hurt. You have to be in charge of your own happiness if you want to live a fulfilled life.
When you find the man for you, you won’t want to leave his side. Of course, since it’s impossible to be with him constantly, you need to be able to be happy without him. Are you currently with the man of your dreams?