What do You do when Your Crush is Taken?

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It's heartbreaking to find out that your crush is taken. It's not the end of the world, but it can sure feel like it. That's why it can help to have a plan for dealing with the unfortunate situation. Here are a few of the different paths you can take after you find out your crush is in a relationship:

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1. Examine Your Other Options

When your crush is taken, your best move is to move on. There are plenty of other guys you know that would make excellent boyfriends. That doesn't mean you should settle for them, of course. It just means you should search around to find someone that's just as awesome as your current crush is.

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Consider widening your social circle and exploring new places or activities where you could meet someone special. Keep an open mind, as you might be surprised by who you connect with when you step outside your comfort zone. Remember, it's not about quickly finding a replacement; it's about recognizing the abundance of potential relationships that await you. Embrace the journey of meeting new people, and who knows? Your next crush might just be around the corner, ready to discover an amazing connection with you.

2. Wait for Their Break up

Sometimes love is a waiting game. While you don't want to actively attempt to break up your crush and his girlfriend, it might happen naturally. If you really like him, then you should be patient. If you two are meant to be, he'll break up with her eventually and then you can make your move.

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When it comes to crushes, it can be difficult to know what to do when they are already taken. It can be tempting to try to interfere or break them up, but that is not a healthy approach. Instead, it is important to be patient and wait for the relationship to end naturally.

If your crush is in a committed relationship, respect their decision to be with their partner and avoid trying to interfere. You should also be honest with yourself and evaluate the situation realistically. If you two are meant to be, then the relationship will end naturally and you can make your move.

In the meantime, it is important to focus on yourself and your own life. Consider taking up a new hobby, spending time with friends, or pursuing a goal. This can help take your mind off of your crush and can also help you become a better version of yourself.

It is also important to be honest with your crush. If you two are close, it is okay to tell them that you have feelings for them. However, it is important to respect their decision and not pressure them to leave their current relationship.

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3. Settle for a Friendship with Him

You don't have to cut a guy out of your life, just because he has a girlfriend. If you like him for more than his looks, then you should be happy to call him your friend. However, you should only attempt to become buddies with him if you can handle hearing him brag about his dating life. If you think you can handle those awkward conversations, then nothing should stop you from trying to make a new friend. After all, he might have someone he could set you up with that's just as cute as he is.

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Being friends also allows you to show your genuine personality without the pressure of dating. Embrace the opportunity to get to know him on a deeper level, and who knows, your connection might grow in ways you never expected. Plus, having him in your social circle could enrich your life with new experiences and friendships. Just remember, keep your emotions in check and ensure you're genuinely okay with just friendship. If you ever feel jealous or sad, it's important to reevaluate your feelings and perhaps give yourself some space. Your emotional well-being should always take priority.

4. Find out if They're Exclusive

If you catch your crush kissing another girl, it doesn't necessarily mean that he's in a committed relationship with her. She might just be a fling, or he might have kissed her once and then told her it was a mistake. Do your best detective work to find out if your crush is serious about the girl you saw him with, or if she's already old news. If they're not exclusive, then you still have a chance.

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Investigate subtly by observing their interactions and even asking close friends who might understand the status of their relationship. Just be careful not to invade their privacy or jump to conclusions without sufficient evidence. Remember, communication is key, too. If you're feeling brave, consider honestly and respectfully asking your crush about their situation. It might be scary, but it could also give you the clarity you need to move forward.

5. Respect His Girlfriend

No matter how upset you are over your crush landing a girlfriend, you can't badmouth her. It's fine to complain to your close friends about her, in order to get out your frustration. However, under no circumstances should you spread rumors about her or treat her with disrespect, just because you're jealous.

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Additionally, aiming to maintain a cordial and mature demeanor is vital. Your emotions are valid, but letting negative feelings fuel your actions might not only harm her reputation but also reflect poorly on yourself. Remember, empathy is key– put yourself in her shoes and consider how you would feel if the roles were reversed. By choosing to be gracious and maintaining a high level of integrity, you preserve the possibility of a future friendship with both your crush and his girlfriend, should circumstances change.

6. Don't Admit Your Feelings...

Nine out of ten times, you shouldn't tell someone in a relationships that you're crazy about them. It'll only make their situation messy. If you care about your crush, then don't ruin his current relationship by adding your feelings into the mix. It'll either make him confused about who he should be with, or it'll just make him feel bad about hurting you.

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Consider focusing on your own personal growth instead. Embrace hobbies, deepen friendships, and pursue goals that make you happy. This not only helps you be the best version of yourself but also ensures that your self-worth is not tied to the validation of a crush. Keeping a respectful distance shows both maturity and self-respect, allowing you to stay open to other potential connections that might come your way. Remember, the right person for you won't be attached and will be able to reciprocate your feelings fully and freely.

7. ... or do Admit Your Feelings

Although the majority of the time, admitting your feelings to someone who is already taken is a horrible idea, it's occasionally a good option. For instance, if your crush is in an emotionally abusive relationship that you know is unhealthy for him, you can admit your feelings to him, so he knows that he doesn't have to stick with a girl who treats him poorly.

No one wants their crush to be taken, but if he is, you have to take the news with your head held high. Is your crush currently in a relationship?

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It hurts to think they guy I have loved for the past two years finally comes nut tells me he just want a fouling partner.

Cry in the corner and become a crazy old cat lady lol

Best thing to do, get over it and move on. If he or she wanted to be with you, they would have tried. That simple.

Sorry for the curse words, just frustrated at the moment...

This is the worst advice I ever read! Best point is the FIRST POINT... MOVE ON... Believe it or not, men are NOT everything in a girl's life!! Just move on... Cut him out of the picture; no room for him or his girlfriend...be it in friendship or respect or badmouthing or a search for a substitute! Just focus on YOU!

After i gave my crush my number he THEN proceeds to tell me he has a girlfriend but I decided incase of thos I kept my options open 😭

i dk what to do

Sadly, my crush is 9 months deep into his relationship

yea he is in a relationship with my bestfriend and they look like a happy couple

I totally agree with you Bibo ,couldn't put it any better 😌