One of the greatest joys of sex is in the variety of things that you can enjoy whilst having it. From different partners to different positions to different games and role plays, sex is all about expressing yourself intimately and having a damned great time whilst doing it! For some reason, though, a large percentage of women either aren’t comfortable enough or don’t tend to enjoy being on top. Take it from me, being on top absolutely rocks. You just have to find a way to make it work for you! Here are some suggestions for how to have better sex with you on top.
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1. Back and Forth
Rather than thrusting in an up and down motion, you will find it much more enjoyable to go in a gentle back and forth rhythm that is less taxing physically and produces less risk of internal pain from bouncing too deeply. It will also be much less easy for his penis to ‘slip out’ than if you were going straight up and down.
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By mastering the back and forth glide, you create a steady, intimate connection that allows for sustained pleasure and a better shared rhythm. This technique can also give you the opportunity to grind against your partner in a way that can directly stimulate your clitoris, enhancing your own pleasure. Remember to communicate with your partner, adjusting the pressure and pace as needed. Together, you'll find a tempo that feels just right, ensuring a satisfying experience that's all about mutual enjoyment and less about acrobatics.
2. Reverse Cowgirl
This is the position when you are on top but facing away from your partner rather than looking at him. People like reverse cowgirl because it results in less problems with the guy ‘popping out’, making for a much smoother and less interrupted sexual experience.
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Additionally, the reverse cowgirl position grants you complete control over the pace, rhythm, and depth of penetration, which can be empowering and incredibly pleasurable. It allows you to titillate yourself with your partner's body as leverage for your own movements. For an extra twist, lean back into your partner or grasp onto the headboard for diverse sensations. Don’t forget that communication remains key; feel free to ask your partner to guide your hips or offer support by holding your lower back, ensuring that both of you find the experience mutually satisfying and comfortable.
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3. Sit up
Rather than having him lay flat on his back and then straddling him, you should have him sit up with you sat on top, your legs kind of intertwined. It is great for intimacy because you can hug and kiss at the same time as enjoying penetration, and there is a much more pleasurable grinding with the shape of your bodies.
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The face-to-face aspect of this position not only enhances emotional connection but also allows for more control over pace and depth of penetration. With each other's gaze locked and arms wrapped around, the motion can be synchronized to the rhythm that suits both of you best. The intertwined legs provide the opportunity to get closer and increase the sensation, making every moment intensely pleasurable. You can vary the movement from grinding to more traditional thrusting depending on the mood, and adjusting the angle can stimulate different pleasure points within you.
4. Lay on Him
You don’t always have to sit up straight to straddle him, you can also begin penetration and then lay your full weight on top of him, chest to chest. It provides for some really intimate and erotic contact, and it also means that he can take over the thrusting a little by grabbing your ass to keep you still and then finding his own rhythm!
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This position is especially great if you're looking for a deeper connection with your partner. The close proximity allows for mutual breathing to synchronize, a gesture that's been shown to deepen empathy and understanding between partners. Eye contact is easy to maintain in this position, which can escalate the level of intimacy. And if your arms are free, consider caressing his face, running your fingers through his hair, or engaging in a passionate kiss to electrify the moment. This variation truly combines the physical and the emotional, bringing sex to a more soulful level.
5. Toys
Don’t be scared to introduce some sex toys in to the equation. Something like a little bullet vibrator is perfect, because it will provide you with clitoral stimulation whilst the penetration is also going on. Double whammy!
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