How πŸ‘¦πŸ½πŸ‘¦πŸΎπŸ‘± do Guys Decide πŸ€” if You're "Girlfriend Material" πŸ‘«?

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So, I got the idea for this after reading a typical bro article about the same subject – it was tongue-in-cheek, for the most part, and it had its witty moments, but at the same time, I had to cringe while I was reading it because I know there are guys out there who decide that a woman's β€œgirlfriend material” based on traits such as her talent in the kitchen and the existence of any body art.

I took it upon myself to ask some of my straight male friends about their criteria for deciding if a girl is β€œgirlfriend material” – and you'll be happy to know that three out of the four started off by saying they would never, ever use that phrase.

1. A Woman Has to Love Herself

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This was unanimous.

If a woman clearly loves herself, not with smugness or arrogance, but with confidence and true self-love, then men – these men, at least – consider her excellent β€œgirlfriend material.” Why?

Because she knows her own worth, she doesn't depend on validation from someone else, and her love for herself suggests a deep capacity for loving others.3

Word.

2. A Good Relationship with Her Family Doesn't Hurt

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Although this isn't a deal breaker, a woman who's close with her family – her biological one or her logical one – is definitely a bonus.

Again, this suggests a capacity for loving others, as well as an ability to nurture relationships and a willingness to support the people closest to her.

3. Support Women Make Fantastic Girlfriends

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This makes sense, yeah?

I can't imagine anyone wants a partner who only cares about herself and takes off when things get scary or difficult.2

One of my friends specifically said that he looks for a ride-or-die woman to be his girlfriend because he dated women in the past who disappeared while he was going through hard times.

Just remember, to get support you have to be willing to give it.

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