Believe it or not, feeling super nervous around your crush is super common and a lot of the time it's because we don't know that much about them. However, if you follow these 7 tips you can put a stop to that ongoing awkwardness and focus on taking the next step! 😉 😊 💑 ❤️
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1. Try Talking Virtually 📱 💻
I was definitely not one to go up and strike a conversation with a crush when I was at school! What I found helpful was to try talking to them online instead. This makes it easy to start up a conversation without having to feel shy or nervous at the idea of doing it in person.
I've talked to the same person virtually (via text and Facebook Messenger) for 4 years and it's made me feel so much more comfortable being myself when I talk to them and it's also been a great way to get to know them really well too.
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Starting a virtual conversation can be as simple as responding to a social media post or sending a lighthearted meme that relates to an inside joke or shared interest. This approach is less intimidating and can pave the way for more frequent and in-depth conversations. Over time, these digital interactions can build a foundation of friendship and familiarity, which takes the pressure off when you eventually spend time together in person. Plus, it's easier to express your thoughts and feelings when you have the time to think about what you want to say, fostering a deeper connection.
2. Give Yourself Time 🕒 🕓
For some people (myself included) it can take a long time to feel comfortable enough around someone to open up to them. If you're likely to feel nervous around your crush, just know that this is totally normal - all you need to do is give yourself time to feel comfortable to be yourself around them!
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Remember, relationships and connections aren't built overnight. It’s perfectly acceptable to take small steps. Start with something simple like smiling or saying hello to get the interaction going. As the days go by, gradually increase the conversation; maybe drop in a compliment or express interest in their day. Each little interaction will help build your confidence around them. And remember, it's okay if you stumble or blush, it only shows you're human and that could even be endearing to your crush!
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3. Get to Know Them 💬
Maybe part of the reason why you feel nervous is because you don't actually know that much about your crush yet. Feeling nervous is super common when you're at this stage, but if you take the time to get to know them you'll see that there's nothing to be nervous about!
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Starting a conversation may seem daunting, but it's a stepping stone toward a meaningful connection. Ask about their interests, favorite music, or what they usually enjoy doing on weekends. Remember to listen attentively, this not only shows that you care about their responses but it also provides future conversation topics. Share a little about yourself as well, but keep it balanced—it’s about both of you getting to know each other. Before you know it, that nervousness will be replaced with a comfortable rapport, shrinking the mountain of anxiety to a manageable molehill.
4. Let Them Get to Know You 💬
Once you get talking with them you should start telling them about yourself. This doesn't mean you have to share everything at once, but start with small things like your favourite TV shows or movies, music and then you could get into your passions, hobbies and interests. There will be a time to get into the deeper stuff later, so enjoy it while it's at this early and fun stage!
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Sharing about yourself creates a connection and makes conversations more engaging. Chat about simple things like your quirky morning ritual or how you like your coffee. If your crush mentions something you can relate to, like a hobby or a favorite food, chime in with your own experiences or preferences. Enthusiasm for common interests can spark deeper conversations, but remember to keep it lighthearted and fun. Laugh at your little mishaps and encourage them to share theirs too – it shows you're human and approachable.
5. Think of a Way to Break the Ice ❄️
Despite feeling nervous around them, maybe you still feel comfortable going up to them - good for you! Now it's time to consider ways to start a conversation with them! Talk about something that you both have in common like school, mutual friends, that party on Friday night etc.
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Finding common ground is your secret weapon. Maybe you've noticed they're wearing a band t-shirt you love – compliment them on it and segue into music tastes. Could be they always have a particular book or gadget with them; use that as a springboard! Even if it's a class you both dread, laughter over shared misery can be a fantastic icebreaker. Keep it light and breezy, crack a joke if you're comfortable, and let the conversation flow naturally from there. Remember, the best connections start with a simple "hello" and a smile.
6. Plan a Group Hang out 👨👨👧👧
Okay so this totally doesn't have to be as cheesy as it sounds, I promise! The key here is to make it seem really casual and laidback. Get a couple of your friends together and plan to hang out, then approach some of his friends and ask if they want to come along too.
Chances are, your crush will come along if his friends are going, and then you get to spend more time with him - even if it is in a group setting!
7. Be Yourself and No One else ✌️
At the end of the day, people are either going to like us and want to get to know us more or they're not, and that's fine! There's no point trying to pretend you're something/someone you're not just for the sake of trying to impress your crush or as a way to get them to notice you.
Even if you feel awkward, know that there's always a better way to go about it than faking it, and that's to be yourself and no one else!
Comments
Francesca: I don't have a crush, but I met someone online and I asked him what type of work does he do, he said, he sells car insurance. And then offered me a quote, this dude said he couldn't give me a better quote, so things got weird after that we didn't talk much
Loly: My crush have actually have gave me a lot of clues that he loves me but i didn't understand it then so stupid
Emay: Worst thing is that I don't crush on someone I meet in my daily life 😅
Francesca: That's why he's single and 30 because he's trying to sell auto insurance. What an idiot.
Loly: Actually gave *
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