Christmas is not the best time of year to be single or to be away from your LDR partner. I also find that even people who have made the choice to be single can find themselves questioning their decision at this time of year. Love is all around and you’re not getting your fair share. You have to work just a little bit harder to make sure you enjoy Christmas, because you deserve a happy time just like everyone else.
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1. Get Some Perspective
When you really think about it, Christmas Day is just one day out of an entire year; the only meaning it has is the meaning that you give it.
2. Make the Most of It
Whether you are single or in a LDR, you will still have quality time to give to somebody at Christmas, so make sure you do.
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3. Make Lots of Plans
Making lots of plans with family and friends can help to take your mind of someone that you might be missing.
4. Lower Expectations
Don’t go in expecting to have the best Christmas ever, because on the day you just might not feel like it and then will be disappointed.
5. Set Your Own Values
You don’t have to do Christmas a certain way just because it’s tradition; do whatever feels best for your personal situation.
6. Treat Yourself
No matter what your relationship status is, you should never forget to treat yourself as well as others.
7. Ignore Your Ex
Christmas can be a time full of sentimentality and you may get a text or two from your ex, but remember that he’s your ex for a reason and don’t give in the festive pressure!
8. Family Compromise
If your LDR means that you will be away from your own family at Christmas, make sure that you come to a compromise that is good for everyone.
9. Ignore Loneliness
Don’t go running back to your ex just because you hate the idea of being alone at Christmas; fill up the space with family and friends instead.
10. Think with Your Head, Not Your Heart
You might have had one too many drinks and the idea of hooking up with your ex might start to become attractive, but remember that Christmas hook ups have consequences in the New Year too!
11. No Drunk Dialing
When the drinks come out, the phone needs to go away. This should be the rule for pretty much everyone at Christmas!
12. No FB Stalking
Stalking your ex’s photos on Facebook is never a great idea, but at Christmas all of your emotions are heightened.
13. Be Safe
If all else fails and you do end up having a brief romantic reunion, make sure you use protection because the last thing the ‘relationship’ needs is a baby to take care of!
14. Don’t Let It Consume You
Don’t let the thought of your love life consume the festive period. Christmas is about so much more than having a boyfriend right next to you.
15. Don’t Sit by the Phone
Don’t sit by the phone in the hope that he might call. Instead try your hardest to get in to the festive spirit with family and friends.
16. DON’T SEND the EX a GIFT
Don’t even think about sending a gift to your ex. Even if you had bought it before you broke up, it sends the wrong message when you should be moving on.
17. Do What You Can
Don’t take on every single responsibility, but on the other hand don’t completely ignore Christmas. Help out in whatever way you can and you will feel great self worth.
18. Don’t Worry about Gifts
If your break up has meant that you haven’t had time to do a proper Christmas shop, then just do what you can. Your family and friends don’t just care about what you get them - they care about your well being.
19. Don’t Be Demanding
Some people try to get over a break up by completely taking over the Christmas process. Don’t be demanding of those who are there and that love you just because one person has left.
20. FORGET YOUR PRIDE
If you are in a break up funk and don’t want to accept a friend’s Christmas invitation because of your pride, forget that! Your friend loves you and they just want you to have a nice time.
21. Have Your Own Christmas
If it’s the only chance you get to see your LDR boyfriend, then have Christmas Day alone together and see your families in the coming days.
22. Find a Balance
If you and your LDR boyfriend share different opinions about the important of Christmas, it’s important to find a balance between the two to enjoy yourselves.
23. Have a Plan B
It’s vital to have a firm Plan B in place for if your LDR boyfriend can’t make it. These things happen so we have to be prepared.
24. DON’T PRESSURE
If you are in an LDR, don’t use the Christmas period as an opportunity to pressure him in to something more serious like an engagement or a moving commitment; it’s not fair.
25. It’s Not the Gift That Counts
If you’re in a LDR, try not to stress too much about the gift you are sending. The thought always means more than the material possession.
26. Keep Busy
Keep as busy as you can. It will take your mind off your love life and might lead to a period of festive productivity.
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Comments
heyits_madz: My boyfriend and I just broke up a couple weeks ago, and it's been pretty rough. I hope these tips help!
Emily: I loved this post! I'm in a LDR and the holidays are difficult, but family and friends help. It's a good time of year to devote time to volunteering and charity work, (not just as a way of distracting from missing your significant other, but also a nice way to express generosity and kindness to those who might not have any significant others.)
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