If he has a girlfriend or told you he wasn’t interested, you’ll want to get over your crush. Losing feelings for someone is a difficult process. When you love everything about a person, how can you get over them? Here are a few questions to ask yourself when you’re trying to get over your crush.
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1. Do You Just like the Idea of Him?
When we’re lonely, we can pick a random person and wish that they were ours. If you want to get over your crush, ask yourself whether you really like him. You might just want a relationship--any relationship. If he’s interchangeable, you don’t really like him. You just like what you think he could give you. Try to find someone that you like for their personality, not just for their potential to be your boyfriend.
2. Is He Right for You?
Just because you like a man, doesn’t mean that he’s perfect. Can you picture staying up with him all night to talk about life? Can you imagine spending rainy days with him watching old movies? Opposites can attract, but they can also be disastrous. If you don’t think that you and your crush would have anything to talk about, why would you want to be with him?
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3. Would It Have Worked out?
If you went on a date, how long do you think the relationship would last? Is he the type of guy to have a quick fling? Having a short relationship with him may have hurt you more than having no relationship at all. Try to think about your situation positively. Things could always be worse.
4. Would He Be a Good Boyfriend?
Some men are fun to flirt with, but wouldn’t make the best boyfriends. If he loves partying, and sleeping around, you can’t expect him to settle down for you. Consider his personality and if he would actually make a good boyfriend. He could be the greatest guy ever, but if he’s not ready for a relationship, you can’t force him into one. Everyone moves at their own pace.
5. Would It Be Messy?
Is your crush related to one of your friends? Maybe he is your friend. Maybe he’s your boss. As much as you want to be with him, it might be inconvenient. You don’t want to ruin a friendship, or lose your job, by dating him. Sometimes, you have to make sacrifices.
6. Is He Happy?
If you really like him, you’ll want him to be happy. If he’s content with his girlfriend, or loves being single, then don’t try to change his life. Let him do whatever he wants to do. He’s in control of his own life, just like you’re in control of yours. There’s nothing wrong with going your separate ways.
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Respecting his happiness is a testament to your maturity and self-respect. Remember, true affection means wanting the best for someone, even if it doesn't include you. Watching him smile should bring you joy, not sadness or envy. Cherish the moments that made you like him in the first place, and take those positive memories with you as you move forward. In time, you'll find that focusing on your own happiness will lead you down the path to someone who is in sync with your desires and state of being.
7. Am I Happy?
If you’re constantly crying over him, you need to find someone who will make you happy. You can’t go through life upset over one guy. What’s the point of liking him if he only makes you sad? Try to find someone who causes you to smile. Life will seem a whole lot brighter once you do.
It’s always challenging to stop liking a guy that you were once crazy over. Are you trying to get over a guy? Why do you think it’s so difficult to do so?
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sarah: I'm so done with him now! thanx 😉👍
Mena: I am so not ready to be over my crush specially after reading this article.. except 5 it could get potentially messy since we work together.. but he is shy and I dont know how to tell him..
Micaela: Totally made my day
Genavee: Very true
sarah: thanks :) it helped alot! :)
Ya: Okay here's my situation and I NEED AN ANSWER FOR THIS, it's been racking my mind since forever. I started liking this guy in November 2011, last year in Jan I told him i Liked him, he Said he 'respects me as a friend' anyways then I couldn't bother much as I had my exams , I didn't speak to him until June! when he called me up saying sorry for everything and all that! then we cleared stuff out and we went for a movie on my birthday. We spoke briefly here and there sometimes, bbming and all, then again for a few months we kind of stopped because I found out he liked an other girl, anyways then I danced with him in the 31st of December and this year in the beginning it was all normal like we again spoke here and there, keep in mind I still loved him. Then this august he left to go to USC, university so I knew he wouldn't keep in touch, not with me atleast because he just isn't the type and since he left I haven't even had one proper conversation with him, I fact I started liking another guy but that guy has a girlfriend and now this guy in university is coming back in December for his break, I want to just hook up with him, only first base, and get it done with , he will be my first and I have waited long enough, I don't know what to do because I think he " thinks" that I still like him and if he thinks I still like him he won't hook up with me because he knows I'll fall for him again, what do I do, I really wanna just get It done with, if I do it then the 2 years of shit will be totally worth it and I can finally and properly move in without imagining scenarios about me and him! HELPPPPPPPP
Colleen: My relationship with my boyfriend used to be perfect. We fit so well together. But after he took a job 12 hours away, and then was fired and had to come home, he's been depressed and taking it out on me. He says he feels like a shell now, that he's numb on the inside. I want to stick by his side and help him through this, but he's causing a lot of arguments and fights in our relationship now and I feel like he doesn't make me happy anymore. Advice ladies? Stick with him through this and see if it works out, or leave him before he makes me miserable too?
Laquila: Just remind yourself that life goes on , it always makes me feel better for the time being & no matter how many guys you go through if you maintain a decent personality some guy will be there in the end. There's someone for everybody so why stress if you know he's coming right ?
Janine: He's like my dream guy and it's very hard for me to move on :( I haven't liked someone this much and the idea of finding someone else makes me feel sick :(
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