Some of us have unrealistic expectations and expect our men to behave like characters in novels or movies. However, other women have standards that are way too low. Well, it's time to change that. Here are a few realistic expectations you should have in relationships:
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1. He’ll Listen to You
Your boyfriend should pay attention when you talk. He should want to hear about your day, even if it was pretty boring.
2. He’ll Support You
Your boyfriend should be your biggest fan. It doesn't matter if you want to be an accountant or an artist, because he should support you 100%.
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When it comes to relationships, having realistic expectations is key. One of the most important expectations you should have is that your partner will support you. Whether you want to pursue a career in accounting or art, your partner should be your biggest fan and cheerleader. They should be the first person to celebrate your successes and the first person to pick you up when you fall.
Supporting your partner can come in many forms. They can provide emotional support by listening to your worries and concerns and helping you to find solutions. They can provide practical support by helping you with tasks or giving you advice. Financial support can also be a form of support, especially if you are starting a new venture or project.
Your partner should also be a source of motivation and inspiration. They should encourage you to take risks and push yourself to achieve your goals. They should be available to talk through your ideas and help you to come up with creative solutions. This can also be a great way to strengthen your relationship as you work together to achieve your dreams.
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3. He Won’t Cheat on You
It's not crazy to want to be the only woman in his life. You shouldn't settle for someone who's willing to cheat on you.
4. He Won’t Lie to You
With the exception of little white lies about your birthday gift, he shouldn't lie to you. It's dangerous to date someone you can't trust.
5. He’ll Occasionally Pay for You
He doesn't have to pay for every meal. However, it's normal to expect him to offer to buy you your food every once in a while.
6. He’ll Introduce You to His Friends and Family
You shouldn't be a secret. If he tries to hide you away, then something is wrong in your relationship.
7. He’ll Compliment You
It's not wrong to want compliments. We all love them. Besides, your boyfriend should want to give them to you, just so he can see you smile.
8. He’ll Always Text You Back
It's reasonable to expect your boyfriend to text you back. If he ignores some of your messages, then you're probably not with the right person.
9. He’ll Compromise with You
He shouldn't get his way whenever you two have a fight. You need to compromise, so that you're both happy at the end of the day.
10. He’ll Tell You Where He is at All Times
He shouldn't lie to you about where he's going. He should let you know where he is at all times.
11. He Won’t Take Advantage of You
Don't date a man who's only using you for sex. You're worth so much more than that.
12. He’ll Give as Much as He Receives in Bed
If you're sexually active, you shouldn't settle for a guy who's selfish in the bedroom. He should give just as much as he receives.
13. He’ll Comfort You when You Cry
Your boyfriend shouldn't run the other way whenever you show your emotions. He should stick by your side, no matter what.
14. He’ll Give You Alone Time
You two shouldn't be attached at the hip. He needs to give you some space every once in a while.
15. He’ll Cuddle You without Trying for Sex
Touching shouldn't always lead to something more. He should be able to enjoy the feel of your body without trying to make a move.
16. He’ll Show You He Loves You as Much as He Says It
He should tell you he loves you, and he should show you he loves you. You deserve it.
17. He’ll Be the Best Person He Can Be
If he loves you, then he'll want to make you happier than ever. In order for that to happen, he'll have to try his hardest to be the best man that he could possibly be.
There's nothing wrong with expecting these things from your man. Does your boyfriend do all of these things, or are you still single?
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Boncheri1: I am kind of "no negotiation on the answer text"
Mebs: I have read your views and I find it hard to believe you are living in utopian world or the world of very rich and wealthy it's very hard for women or girls to pay for anything and all girls are looking for a good time not a life long commitment your living in the 70s or 80s this is 2016
ᗩᑎGEᒪᗩ: I think #10 (telling you where he is at all times) is a little over-the-top. I agree with the first part, that he definitely shouldn't lie about where he is, BUT... If you aren't living together &/or both have busy schedules, I wouldn't ask or expect him to call me if he stopped to get gas on his way back to work from lunch, for example. Just as another of these points out giving you (necessary) alone time, I feel this generally falls under the same category.
Bunny: I would expect more than this !!
Neonindian86: I'm 29yrs old and I have yet to meet a man like that
Jeanette: TinkerbellMoi you deserve to be answered every time you message someone, I believe that is just common curtesy. If this guy you like doesn't treat you with common curtesy then maybe he isn't the right guy for you. Trust me there are men out there who know how to treat a woman properly. The man you're with should enable you to feel confident and secure in his love for you.
Slim: My boyfriend does all of this expect a lil less of bedroom playtime....but that's ok Bc he makes up for it in other ways😊
Muyuan: My man does 90% of the thing but he could still be an asshole
VogueV: My baby actually does all this except before he leaves me alone, he tries to help me out and make me feel better which by that time to I don't want to be alone, but with him 😍😍
Alicia: “Answers every text” and “tells you where he is at all times” seem too excessive. Relationships need a healthy level of independence and trust, and shouldn’t be full of unnecessary obligations. Checking in so much is a waste of time.
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