There are plenty of reasons why you should never settle in love. In fact, it’s not just in the love department; you shouldn’t settle in any point of your life! For some reason though, while we may strive for the best in other areas of our life, we don’t always believe that we deserve the best when it comes to our love lives. Well guess what ladies, we do! So here's my list of 7 reasons why you should never settle in love.
1. Because You Deserve Better
One of the most common things I remember my girlfriends saying when contemplating a breakup was this: what did I do to deserve this? The answer is simple: nothing. Every relationship is a two-way street, so the blame can never rest on one person. That being said however, everyone deserves to feel love for all that it is. Being in love should make you feel happy. One of the biggest reasons why you should never settle in love is because you deserve better, you deserve to be happy. Don’t settle. Go get the happiness you deserve!
2. Love is Not Something You Should Settle with
Love is one of the strongest, if not THE strongest emotions we have as human beings. For all of you who have been in love, you know that it has the power to make you feel invincible, but it also as the power to tear you apart. Love finds its way in to every part of your life, your family, your friends, you work, your goals. It becomes a very, very big part of you. If you settle in this department, then you’ll be settling just a little bit in every facet of your life. That is not a kind of sacrifice you should make! That's one of the reasons why you should never settle in love, ever.
3. The Grass is Greener Somewhere else
Another common fear when contemplating a breakup is the idea that you’ll never find anyone else. While I never really believed this in my heart at the time of my last breakup, my logic did step in a little. I reasoned that it took me forever to find my first boyfriend; I didn’t want to wait years before I found another one! But here’s what I also realized, it’s the cycle of life. You will find someone else, you will find someone who will love you and appreciate you the way you deserve to be appreciated. One of the most important reasons why you should never settle in love is because there is someone out there better suited for you. Trust me!
4. It’s Not Worth Your Time
That’s right! One of the reasons why you should never settle in love is because it truly is a waste of your time. I’ve realized now that in my last relationship, I really only should have dated the guy for 2 years instead of the 4. All that time, I could have saved myself the heartache, the stupid drama, and the time and energy it took from me. Why should you waste your time with someone who doesn’t make you feel the way you believe love should feel? When you find the person you’re meant to be with, you’ll want to give as much of your time to them as you can. Why? Because that person is worth it to you, and you’ll be worth it to that person. That, my friends is true love.
5. You’ll Inhibit Your Own Growth
Love, the kind that’s true, healthy, and meant to be, will help you grow as a person. Like the kind of love you’re given from your family and friends, love from your partner should foster your soul and help you grow into the person you’re meant to be. When you’re with someone who you’re just settling with, you’re not being the best person you can be. As cheesy as it sounds, love is some kind of an invisible force of nature. It will push you, support you, and nurture you; it will give you whatever it is you need to get to your goals. One of the reasons why you should never settle in love may sound selfish, but think about it this way: to have the best relationship, you need to be the best you, you can be!
6. You’ll Never Find Your True Love
You know how they say - when you know, you know! Well, it’s true, and ladies, you also know when it doesn’t feel right. We have some kind of a sixth sense for these kinds of things. After all, how in the world are you supposed to find your true love, the fruit to your loop, the Shrek to your Fiona, if you don’t walk away from the feeling that you’re just settling? One of the biggest reasons why you should never settle in love is because you don’t want a settling love to get in the way of you finding your prince. Right?
7. Self Love is More Important
When you’re in a relationship where you settle in love, you’re hurting a little piece of your soul. It all sounds very Eat Pray Love, I know, but it doesn’t stop it from being true. Being in a relationship where your heart tells you you’re settling hurts your spirit. Because when you finally realize this, and you finally decide it’s time to move on, you’ll worry whether or not you’ll ever be your old self again. Your old self, the one that was happy, smiling and laughing, was filled with self-love. Trust me, it is better to be alone and happy, then to be with someone and miserable. Loving yourself and being happy with who you are, is one of the most important reasons why you should never settle in love.
Never settling in love is one of those lessons that you only truly learn when you’ve been through it yourself. It’s a scary experience, but at the end of the day, it’s completely worth it! You may not agree with me if you’re going through it, but I have faith that eventually, you will! So tell me ladies, what lessons have you learned about settling with love?