What is age when it comes to love? Actually, itโs a lot. According to a study by Emory University, the best age difference is a year. More than that and it can up your chances of divorce, although itโs important to realize other factors have to be accounted for, too. But not to worry! Theseโre some very helpful tips for coping with an age difference in a relationship.
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Be Sure of Your Feelings
A good question to ask yourself when youโre getting into a relationship with an age difference is how are you truly feeling? Do some deep soul searching and make sure youโre not making a decision to date someone older or younger out of plain old curiosity. Another thought to consider is that you could be partially attracted to them out of rebellion against your parents if youโre still a teenager or young adult. Itโs common to want to forge your own path as a young adult! But donโt take that path purely out of rebellion. ๐ฃ
Have a Comment Ready when Friends and Family Express Concern ๐
If youโve entered a relationship where thereโs an age difference then itโs best to be prepared for some comments about it. My husband and I have a 10 year age difference and it works great for us. But we had to field some comments in the beginning of our relationship too. We always told people the truth when we were questioned; that we loved the age difference and each other.
Be Aware of Your Age Difference
Iโm going to be honest here. While I love being 10 years younger than my husband and wouldnโt have it any other way, thereโre times when our age difference is a factor. One such example is his taste in clothing. He generally tends toward an older style than I would choose for him. Youโll probably find similar examples in your relationship.
Focus on the Positives of Having an Age Difference ๐
Dating someone whoโs older than you gives you the advantage of having someone close to you whoโs wiser and a little more experienced with life. They can offer you valuable advice and insight. On the flip side, dating someone whoโs younger can remind you to relax and have fun. We tend to be a little less inclined to enjoying life as we age. Dating someone younger can help with that.
Agree on What Matters
Thereโre going to be differences in every relationship. Thatโs to be expected because youโre two separate individuals. But what matters is that you agree on what matters. Having an age difference can be a little tricky. You donโt need more stacked against you. Make sure you agree on things like shared morals and goals in life.
Find Common Interests ๐ณ
Finding common interests can help your relationship have more security when thereโs an age difference between you. Since you can be in different places in life due to your age difference, this matters a lot. Maybe you both love biking, playing cards or even share a few favorite tv shows. It can be anything! And if youโre struggling in this, be open to finding new activities to explore together.
Trust Your Instincts
Lastly, trust your instincts. Theyโll rarely ever steer you wrong. If you know that this person is right for you then go for it. While you have a little more against you, it can absolutely work. My husband and I are coming upon our 13th wedding anniversary and weโre still very much in love. A happy ending can happen for your relationship too. ๐ฐ
Theseโre some tips to help you have the best relationship when thereโs an age difference. How far apart are you and your partner? Iโd love to hear from you!
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