It can be hard to recover after being cheated on. The person you loved and trusted betrayed you, so how are you going to trust anyone again in the future? You’ll need some time to yourself, but you’ll eventually heal. After being cheated on, you have to remember a few important things:
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1. Not Your Fault
After being cheated on, it’s easy to list your faults. You wonder if he did it because you aren’t pretty enough, or because you're not capable of fulfilling his needs. However, his unfaithfulness has more to do with himself than you. No-one deserves to get cheated on. If he was unhappy with your relationship, he should’ve ended it.
2. All Men Differ
When you’re ready to get back into the dating game, you can’t obsess over your ex. Don’t blame future boyfriends for your past boyfriend’s mistakes. New relationships are blank slates. If your new man is trustworthy, he deserves to be treated as such. Not every man is willing to break your heart. Some of them will treat you in the way you deserve to be treated.
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3. Don’t Need Him
You’re a strong, capable woman. You don’t need any man to survive, especially not one who will hurt you so badly. Try not to be upset about losing a boyfriend. Be happy that you’re single, and that you’re free to live life in whatever way you please. No matter how much pain you’re in, remember that you don’t need anyone who doesn’t need you.
4. His Loss
You lost a cheater, but he lost an incredible girl. Even though he felt the need to see other women, you remained faithful to him. Anyone would be lucky to have a girl like you. You have to be confident with yourself, and know that you’re a prize. Your man doesn’t know what he’s missing.
5. Blame Him, Not Her
Okay, you can blame them both. But some women fall into the habit of only blaming the girl for stealing her man. Chances are she wasn’t aware that he was in a relationship. Even if she knew, she didn’t force him to have sex with her. Your man made a decision to sleep with her. He wasn’t doing something against his will, he was doing something that he wanted to do.
6. You Learned the Truth
At least you know your man’s true personality. You’re no longer under the false impression that he’s perfect. You see his faults, which will make it a bit easier to get over him. It’s not a bad thing that you found out about his unfaithfulness. Be thankful that you’re not ignorant to his behavior, because you’d still be with him.
7. People Make Mistakes
You don’t want to remain in a relationship with a cheater, but you can forgive him. There is no excuse for his behavior, but if he’s genuinely sorry, you can . Forgiveness will not only raise his spirits, but it will make you happier as well. Once you forgive, you can start moving on. You can’t dwell on the guy who broke your heart. You have to find someone else who wouldn’t dare to hurt you.
Many people have suffered through similar situations. Has a man ever cheated on you? Have you recovered from the experience?
Comments
Jean: It's like I love you, but I love myself more
Haley: My (now ex) boyfriend of two years ditched me the other night to cheat on me. It was really painful because he has been my first real relationship and we were the only people who one another had sex with until he cheated. Thinking about it makes me nauseous and I can't eat anything or sleep since I found out. Everything was going well in our relationship and I am still in shock this could ever happen. Hopefully this article helps me out, thank you.
Sarah: I found out recently that my (now) ex boyfriend was in a relationship with his ex the whole time we were together. We live in the same apartment complex and she is in high school. I have a feeling once we come back from Christmas break and I see him he's going to try and crawl right back to me. The thing is I don't know if I'm strong enough to let him go.
Sweta: Knowing that someone else is going through the same things; it's quite comforting. Thanks for posting this!
ChloeCubbins: and I still find it hard to get over him after how much I invested emotionally towards him. he treated me like crap the first time and then cheated on me the second... wow. and I felt hopeless when I saw the girl because she was so much prettier than me. but I'm getting over it. and me and her teamed up and busted him out on it. felt good. now towards getting over him. almost 2 months since it's happened and I still cry about it :/
Carly: I was cheated on than dumbed after four years. I hope he will realise what he lost. But I found someone now so fingers crossed
Carly: I was planning our wedding to funny how they cheat before a big step. Especially when the girl he cheated on me with had no job two kids an a criminal record and anul herpes. Like what the f@*%
Ceanemelissa: I need help? I cheated on my boyfriend around a month ago... I want to tell him but every time I see him it makes me feel sick to my stomach. The problem is, and I know I should blame it all on him and I'm not but he doesn't make me happy anymore, I love him dearly and in around 6-8 months were ment to be moving in together.mwe have been together for 4 years almost but he doesn't make me feel special anymore, he doesn't do those silly little things that don't matter to other people but matter to me,mi have to ask him to cuddle me in bed or to even hold my hand. I also have to 'ask' him for a kiss...my own boyfriend? Also I feel like I'm falling out off love him with ? I don't know why this is either? I don't want to tell him I cheated, although I want to be in a relationship with him but in my heart I feel the need to end him. This has really been playing on my mind :( I have sat in my room for hours crying because I do not have any solution on what to do, please help.
Jsa3094: I was cheated on a week after he proposed to me. It's like who the hell does that? lol But hey, he.missed out on a good women. I'd move mountains to make someome happy. But I'm ready for this new chapter in my life and I'm ready to wash my hands of him and the pain! :)
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