Raise your hand if you wish your man was less romantic and you don’t need tips for making him more romantic. No-one? I didn’t think so. No matter how independent and strong we ladies are, a part of us (no matter how small) wishes that our guy would sweep us off our feet. We want the happily ever after, and we want our own real live Prince Charming, but most of us do not live that reality. Your man may be a great provider, father, friend, lover, or housemate, but is he really as romantic as you wish him to be? Read on to learn about tips for making him more romantic.
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1. Be Romantic
This may seem like the last thing you should do in order to bring out the romantic side of your man. Trust me ladies, this tip is usually overlooked when women discuss tips for making him more romantic with their girlfriends. You can set an example by doing little romantic things for him. He may not appreciate the little things like you do, but he will notice and want to return the favor. Don’t do things for him in hopes of getting something in return, though, because you may be disappointed.
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Initiate a surprise dinner at home with candlelight and his favorite meal, or leave love notes in his pockets for him to find later. These gestures show affection without pressuring him to reciprocate immediately. Remember, true romance is about expressing love and appreciation in ways that are meaningful to your partner. By doing so, you create a tender atmosphere that nurtures his own romantic instincts. Compatibility in love languages is key; learn his and show love in the way he understands best.
2. Make Sure He Knows How Much Romance Means to You
Ladies, when it comes to women, men don’t always know what to do. I know, you are surprised to hear this, but keep reading. Just because it’s obvious to you that a part of showing love is romantic gestures does not mean it’s obvious to him. He may equate sex with romance. He may not realize that you need romance outside of sex. Calmly tell him. Bonus if you put on something a little sexy to get his attention.
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Remember, communication is the cornerstone of understanding. If you need more flowers, love letters, or candlelit dinners to feel cherished, don't keep that to yourself. Share your desires without criticism or confrontation – it’s about expressing what makes you happy, not about what he’s doing wrong. A nurturing way to approach this is by sharing ideas for romantic dates you would enjoy or recounting what gestures you’ve found most heartwarming in the past. This positive reinforcement shows you appreciate his efforts and encourages more of the romance you crave.
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3. Reward Him when He Does Romantic Things
When he does something romantic for you, even if it’s a small gesture, let him know you noticed and appreciated it. Did he open the car door for you? Thank him with a gentle touch. Did he bring home your favorite chocolate just because? Thank him with a kiss and offer to share. Okay, maybe sharing your chocolate is going too far, but you get the picture. Reinforce the behavior that you desire.
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Positive reinforcement goes a long way. When he plans a surprise date night, show your excitement and gratitude. Perhaps leave him a heartfelt note that conveys your appreciation, or return the favor with a creative gesture of your own. It’s all about making him feel valued for his efforts. Remember, it’s not about the grandeur of the act, but the thought and love behind it. Every little expression of romance should be met with warmth and recognition, which in turn encourages a continuing cycle of affection and thoughtfulness.
4. Spend Time Doing Something He Likes
Find an important thing to him (like video games) and spend time doing that activity with him. You don’t like it, but chances are he doesn’t care much for being romantic, but will do it just to please you. Most activities are going to bring out the fun, playful side in you both, making it easier for him to be romantic in the stress-free moment.
5. Be More Loving
Kiss and show affection in public. No, I’m not saying to do anything inappropriate or that would make your children (future or current) want to gag. Just offer little signs of affection that you haven’t been giving him. Kiss him hello and goodbye every day. An enticing text is also a pretty useful tool. All these little gestures will get you both in the mood of being more loving, and romance is sure to follow.
6. Praise Him for the Things That He Does That You Appreciate
Let him know how much you appreciate him and how much you need him in your life. Thank him for working hard to provide for the family or to pay for the destination vacation you have been wanting. An appreciated man is a happy man and a happy man is more likely to be a romantic man.
7. Don’t Put Him down for Not Being Romantic
Do not nag him about not being romantic. Do not insult him by comparing him to your more romantic exes. Think about it, if he complains every single day about how you load the dishwasher, what will you do? You will restrain yourself from throwing a plate at him and tell him to load it or you will load it the way you like, to just to spite him. Okay, some of you may load it the way he requests, but not this girl. So if you complain that he is not romantic, he will continue not being romantic or he will be romantic with a grudge. If he doesn’t love being romantic to make you happy, then there is not point to romance is there?
So tell me ladies, have any of you had any luck making your man more romantic?
Comments
Liannabelle: I think #2 is the key, communication. If your man knows how much you crave romance from time to time he will do little things for you, sometimes big things! Just don't expect rom-com movie moments, those don't ever happen!
Chris: Currently in a tiff with the hubs about romance. It is shocking to see this article at this moment. Nectarinenadine my hubs is a Pisces as well, hopefully I can follow in your steps and he takes my breathe away in the future!
Brooke: Can you really "make" someone something? Hmm
Isabella: Me and my guy made dinner together last night, and while waiting for things to cook there was a bit of kissing every now and then.. He's such a practical guy but every now and then he'll do little romantic things :)
Kevin: Sometimes a guy doesn\'t want to be romantic he just wants to have sex and then chill out and not talk about emotions. Nothing wrong with romanticism but I only act that way in the first 8 months of a relationship or because I know it\'s what a girl wants to hear so we can have sex
Mari: i'm trying to be romantic with him, but it doesn't work. he is still unemotional. he was romantic couple of moths ago, but now it's not like before. i can't deal with this. he says it's because he needs money for his guitar and bla bla.. but it's not the reason, is it? he can even write a little romantic letter. you don't need any money to be romantic, i Think. so i don't know what to do now....
Nectarinenadine: U kno, these work! I have a very practical, non-romantic bf that I am absolutely bananas over but I love all the sweet "lovey" things about bein in love. I accepted the way he was an pretty much accepted that I wuldnt get the romance I always dreamed of as a little girl. But, because it's how I've always wanted to b treated, I've done most of these things on a consistent basis for the last year an a half, an I'm SO happy to report that he's grown more romantic by leaps and bounds. He's so sweet and loving now he actually takes my breath away. I dnt kno if it'll apply to all men, or even if it was these things that "romanticized" him (he being a Pisces), but I truly believe I set the example by doing the things listed on this article so that he felt comfy enough to do the same
Hollydolly: whenever my boyfriend does something sweet or romantic i just tell him how much i like it and how much i love him.everytime i say this he just says "i try" and i finally asked him what he meant by that one day and he said i try to be romantic and sweet for you because i know it makes you happy.there you have it,just tell him how much you appreciate the things he does and he'll be more willing to do it
Karmela: I can relate on this article. I hope these tips would work!
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