7 Undeniable Facts about Long Distance Relationships ...

By Cris • Aug 7, 2014

The facts about long distance relationships, which I included in this post, are all based on personal experience. My husband and I lived in two different countries for more than a year before my big move. Being in a long distance relationship is a rollercoaster ride that puts to test your mental, emotional, physical, and (YES!) financial strengths. Here are seven undeniable facts about long distance relationships that I picked up from my experience:

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1. It's Expensive

If you ask me which among all facts about long distance relationships I dislike the most, I would say it's the cost that goes with it. Phone bills, airfares, accommodation, and everything in between all add up to that ballooning cost that ate up our monthly paychecks. Long distance relationships are expensive especially when you are decided on meeting on a regular basis.

2. Skype Becomes Your Best Friend

Or any video chat application convenient and efficient for both of you. In our case, it was Skype, Facebook, and Yahoo! Messenger. My husband used to ask me this question several times: "How on earth did people survive long distance relationships thousands of decades ago?" My answer: "Pen and paper. And they were more patient then..."

3. It Can Get Boring

What else do we need to talk about? Two people in a long distance relationship have the tendency to update each other of what happened in their lives on a daily basis to the point where there is too much familiarity that may cause boredom. It can be boring especially when you only see each other on that screen that sometimes, freezes or hangs up due to poor internet connection.

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4. It Requires Patience

But boredom shouldn't be a deterring factor for you to build a great relationship. One thing that my long distance relationship taught me was that it requires unlimited dosage of patience. You wouldn't be with the person if you don't love or care for him/her, right? Patience, my dear, patience. You need loads of it.

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5. It Makes You Creative

Because you are not physically together, you come up with several ways to surprise him/her or to make him/her feel special. My friend who's based in the US orders lunch online for his boyfriend who's based in Singapore. Thank heavens for technology and debit/credit card. My husband would send me bouquets of roses and greeting cards when I was living in the Philippines and he was based in China. He wrote me love letters everyday, while I would send him audio files of me reading my love letters to him.

6. It Needs a Lot of Trust

If trust is an issue for two people who are physically together, what about for two individuals living on separate continents? For a long distance relationship to work, you have to trust your partner. Have faith in both of your sacrifices in keeping the love burning even when you are thousands of miles apart.

7. It Needs a Promise to Be Physically Together Someday

Because what's the point of being in a long distance relationship if you can't be physically together in the end? There has to be that end goal to be in one place together at a certain point in time. Either you move or he/she moves, but that decision has to be made. Personally, I don't think that a long distance relationship should go on if there is no plan for you to stay put, together, in one place in the near future.

Overall, being in a long distance relationship needs a lot of hard work. You put in more energy to make the relationship work. It can be both exciting and frustrating but trust me, you will gladly look back on these days and smile at what a journey it has been all in the name of love. What do you think about long distance relationship?

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  • Mhakz

    2014-08-08T22:23:00.369Z

    Been in a long distance vague "friendship" with a navy guy. But our frienship got messed up so it's kinda hard to accept things because both of us have been left hanging with "what if's".
  • Sam

    2014-08-22T19:29:42.627Z

    Being in an LDR is like strapping yourself to a wooden stake and dropping a match at your feet.
  • Hannah

    2014-08-08T03:32:24.321Z

    "Thousands of decades ago"...? I'm not quite sure humans have been around for thousands of decades
  • jordiem17

    2014-08-09T10:02:25.388Z

    My boyfriend is in America and I'm in Australia. It's been 8 months and it's the hardest thing I've ever done!
  • Dian

    2014-09-09T03:21:39.875Z

    I think being in a long-distance relationship is great. My best friend (also crush) and I have had a long distance relationship for a year and it has only made our friendship stronger than ever. Surprisingly, we have not grown bored with each other and we find so many topics to talk about every day :)
  • wojtkiewicz

    2014-08-08T04:26:59.302Z

    My boyfriend and I are having a long distance relationship right now. Indeed it's hard but it's not impossible if both are willing to work on it ! Patience patience ... That was not my best friend but since the long distance relationship I have learned to cooperate with it ! You need a lot of understanding as well ! We are going to meet each other for a long holiday very soon can't wait !
  • Tiffany

    2014-08-08T11:41:50.778Z

    My boyfriend lives in England and I'm American. Spent the whole summer with him and I just left yesterday...it was really hard for me I was an emotional mess. I really hope we can cohabit soon cause my love for him grew over the summer
  • Emily

    2014-10-10T21:23:36.837Z

    Agreed Dian I'm also in a LDR with my be after dating for almost 2 years!!! And love him more and more each day!!! It's all about patience! Especially if you know that he's the one!!! :)
  • Eriyani

    2014-08-08T09:06:39.755Z

    I'm in a long distance relationship too right now. It's take around 2 hr flight if i want to meet him. But, it's cool though. You learn how to trust each other more, and when you meet your beloved one after 2 or 3 months or more being separated, you'll feel that, "ah, i love this guy/girl so much".
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