In the world of romance and first dates, one of the most integral things to make sure that you nail on your first meeting with a potential new boo is the all-important first impression! You want to put forward the very best version of yourself, and this is down to a mixture of your look, your manners, your conversational skills, and, don’t forget, your body language! Here is a list of the body language to avoid on a first date if you want to create a good impression.
1. Chin Raise
You might not mean to, but when you raise your chin, it can look like two things: you are either being defiant, or you are turning your nose up at your date in an act of superiority. Annoyingly, this was a criticism that was used against Hillary Clinton a lot in the run-up to the US election. Men don’t like the feeling of women raising their chins at them!
2. Limp Handshake
Handshakes on dates aren’t necessarily something that you need to prepare for compared to in your professional life, but there is no doubt that a limp handshake is something that is off-putting no matter what gender you are! When you take your date’s hand, make sure to give it a little, cheeky squeeze and have your hold be firm. There is nothing worse than shaking a noodle wrist!
3. Excess Fidgeting
It doesn’t matter if you are just a naturally fidgety person, you should try to avoid letting this out on a first date. Your date doesn’t know much about you yet, which means that they might interpret your fidgeting as boredom with the current circumstances rather than just your natural energy! To a relative stranger, fidgeting only means one thing, and that is that you can’t wait to get out of there!
4. Crossed Arms
If you sit during the date with your arms crossed over your body, it puts across a very negative and guarded persona. Even if crossing your arms is a natural tendency for you, try your best to keep them uncrossed for the date because it makes you seem much more open and approachable.
5. Crossed Legs
Pretty much the same as the crossed arms reasoning, but with your legs instead! In general, you need to try to make your body as open and unguarded as possible to show your date that you are happy to be in his company and feel safe and secure with him as a companion. Any kind of crossing, whether arms or legs, can be seen as apprehension and dislike.
6. Getting Too Close
It’s only a first date, so you don’t want to get carried away get too close to your new love interest too soon. Keep at a respectable distance for the early stages. You don’t want to misread a message and go too heavy too soon, it might prove to be a turnoff.