It seems like everyone in the world is a better flirt than me... I mean, while I'm all awkward and anxious, other girls are batting their eyes and making charming conversation (or whatever). I finally started paying more attention to the (very) basics of flirting, and discovered once I started avoiding a few particular things, I was a much more accomplished flirt. Here's what I learned.
I tend to stand with my arms crossed, which is fine in regular life, but is bad for flirting -- it makes you look defensive. Also try to avoid leaning away from or angling away from the object of your flirtation.
If you're sweet and fun, don't try to come off as overly sexy. Just be yourself!
Save the serious conversation for a date, and keep flirting easy and light.
If you're flirting via text, you don't want to text back immediately all the time... but you also don't want to play too hard to get, either.
There's no good way to mention your ex whilst flirting - complain or make a mean joke, and it looks like you're bitter or vindictive.
I'm sure when I flirt, I look more like a deer in the headlights than a cute girl who's having fun. That said, I am trying to work on my flirt-smile, and maybe you should, too.
If you're flirting in a way you're not comfortable with, that discomfort will come across, and that's just a flirt fail. Again, just be yourself, and do the things in your own wheelhouse.
Follow these tips, and flirting can be - gasp! - fun, for real! Do you have any other flirting protips or no-nos to share?
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