There’s no doubt that Facebook has the potential to throw some real spanners into the works of your relationship. The transparency of social media sites means that if you allow it, you can have your relationship on view to the world. If you use Facebook and other social media platforms sensibly, they can help your relationship, not hinder or potentially kill it.
What's more important? Spending quality snuggling time with your partner or telling the world you've just had a meal together? Spend less time on Facebook, Twitter and all the other social media and use this time to enhance your love life. Go out for picnics, walks, climb mountains - whatever you do, you'll be living instead of merely writing about life and love.
If you are planning to get married or stay together long term, then your relationship should be based on trust and understanding or your marriage won't last. A sign of this trust is to give up a certain amount of confidentiality and privacy, which might mean sharing passwords on FB and other social media accounts and permitting your partner to see pictures you've uploaded and read your messages to friends and family. Hiding things will only arouse suspicion and create distrust.
Acquaintances who could pose a threat to your relationship or marriage need to be weeded out before you both start using the same FB account. This includes ex-boyfriends, colleagues with an obvious crush on you and former BFFs turned bitter because you're spending more time with your partner than with them. Protect your budding relationship/marriage dream or you'll regret it later when the damage is done.
What's the point in hiding your relationship status? If you've got it, flaunt it! Show off the love of your life to friends and family. If you don’t want to announce it, are you really invested in the relationship, or are you hoping something better will come along?
It may start out as a harmless attempt to have one original, clean account where partners can remain in the friend's list, but this may soon tempt you to use the account for not-so-legitimate reasons, such as bitching behind your partner's back when you've had your first row, conveniently forgetting that your partner's still part of the friends' list! Nothing good lies in the fake FB ID route. Delete, delete, delete!
Ok, we get it, you're loved-up, but that's no reason to forget about your own FB identity and turn your account into the We-team. Don't turn it into a joint account, where you upload post after post of luvvie-posts about just the two of you. Your friends' list will soon dwindle, as people get fed up reading about the We-team exploits that exclude all of them and everybody in your joint circle of family and friends. If you must, set up a joint account to flaunt the "us" and "we" stuff.
Nasty comments you made about joint friends, rating kissing techniques of former boyfriends and loved-up photographs of you and your ex - it's all there for your new partner to see. Delete, delete, delete those FB skeletons before that happens and amend your profile to the type of person you want to become rather than show the one you used to be.
Nobody wants to see an endless array of pictures of the love of your life and you holding hands, kissing or being otherwise loved-up. However, uploading a few pictures of your partner is perfectly acceptable. It shows how your life together and relationship is progressing and how much you care about your partner. Don't post anything too intimate without talking to your "other half" about if first: your partner may view that as a breach of trust.
It’s amazing the impact social media has had on modern day relationships – as if love isn’t complicated enough.
Have you had a relationship go sour because of social media?
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