Learning all of the ways to get over your crush isn't easy, nor is it timely. If you're having trouble getting over your crush, don't think that you are alone, girls. There are many times that getting over your crush can feel horrible and can make you regret ever liking someone. Just because your crush doesn't see you as girlfriend material doesn't mean that he doesn't see you as a friend. Below, I've got all of the ways to get past your crush that makes the pain easier to handle.
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1. Realization
The hardest part about getting over your crush is realizing that he doesn't like you the same way that you like him. The realization might be the first step, but it's the hardest step to take. While you may like the guy, while you may even love him, if he doesn't feel the same, you can't force it – no matter how much you try to.
2. Admit That You Have a Crush
Once you've come to the realization that he might not have the same feelings you have for him, you've got to admit that you have a crush. I know it can be hard girls, but even if you just stand in front of your mirror and admit to yourself that you have a crush, you'd be amazed how much that makes a difference and how it is almost like extracting the poison. Give it a try.
3. Accept the Situation
You've admitted that you have a crush and even though it's far from the ideal situation, try to make steps towards accepting the situation. Try not to be stubborn about it or be in denial of what's really going on. Perhaps the two of you aren't as compatible as you first thought. You might even find later on that it was a good thing that your crush never turned into more.
4. Don't Take It Personal
Just because he doesn't have feelings for you, it is not something that you can take personal. Learning to get over your crush might not be easy, but it isn't a personal indictment. A guy can't control his feelings just like you can't control your feelings. Imagine if a guy likes you, but you have absolutely no feelings for him – don't take it personally.
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5. Be Honest with Yourself
Getting over your crush is never easy, but you have to be honest with yourself. You've got to be upfront with yourself about your feelings and how you are affected by your crush not returning your them. Once you are honest with yourself about how hurt you are, it's easier to process and easier to heal.
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6. Don't Dwell on It
Do you have a support group that you can go to? Do you have a best friend that you can talk to? Do you have someone that you can turn to that will keep you from dwelling on the fact that you'll never 'get' your crush? That needs to be a focus, girls; you don't want to dwell on something that will never happen and this is a necessary tip on getting over your crush.
7. Don't Be Angry
Why are you angry? Because he doesn't think of you the same way? That isn't a reason, girls, While it might be hard to admit that, you've got to make sure that your emotions stay stable and calm. You don't want to be angry or mad at your crush just because he doesn't return the feelings that you have. After all, you can't control who you like!
8. Reflect
When you are trying to get over your crush, why not take the time to reflect? Did you act differently around him? Did you scare him off? Was there something that you did? You want to reflect on everything and all of the interaction that you've had – just for a little while, don't dwell for days and days, but just reflect.
9. Avoid Thinking about Him
One of the best ways to get over your crush is to stop thinking about it. I know it might be hard, but when you are thinking about him, you've got to dwell on something else. Avoid thinking about him at all costs. Pick up a hobby that you've never done before, talk to your friends, get into a support group with your family. Keep yourself busy and you'll be able to get over your crush more quickly.
10. Don't Keep Hoping
Finally girls, the last way to get over your crush that we're going to discuss is not to keep hoping. He might never, ever change his feelings and you've got to be prepared for that. Just let your hope go and you'll feel a lot better over time.
11. Keep Your Distance
It's also a good idea to keep your distance and avoid contact while you're trying to get over your crush. You might not be able to completely avoid seeing or running into your crush if you're friends, work at the same place or go to the same school. But, you can try to make yourself less available and focus on yourself. If he/she doesn't understand, explain that you need some time on your own right now.
12. Seek Support
One of the best ways to try and get over any difficult situation is to seek support. Do you have a friend who has gone through a similar situation and you want her advice? Or maybe you just need someone to listen. Either way, talk to your friends and family members. They can help you sort through your feelings and even offer some sound advice.
13. Give Yourself Time
Getting over a crush isn't easy and no one, including yourself, shouldn't expect you to get over it quickly. Give yourself time to be sad. Everyone deals with difficult situations differently and it might take you more time than your friends to get over it. While you don't want to dwell on the situation for a prolonged period of time, don't expect yourself to be "back to normal" too quickly.
While I know that getting over your crush can be difficult, you've got to remember that there is someone out there that will appreciate you. Someone that will love you. So girls, what other ways to get over your crush do you have to share? What has worked for you?
This article was written in collaboration with editor Lisa Washington
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Evilhyperpixie13: I was in the middle of moving on when my crush started talking to me and told me that he 'needs to start liking people who like him back' kinda stuff but then afterwards distance. It's now harder for me to move on cause this happened like nearly 3-4 months after i confessed my feelings. What should i do??
Abi: Hi I think these tips are great! But they aren't working for me, and I can't seem to let go of the hope something may happen. My crush gets on my bus to school every morning and evening so I can't remove him from my life. Can you give me advice on how to stop hoping something will happen. Thanks x
April: And, it\'s not like I can\'t see him, because we have college classes together. So, it\'s compulsory? And, my associates degree is more important to me than him, so I won\'t drop any classes over a guy. But, idk what to do.
Louiejane: ihave a crush its been three years ,ihave done anything just for him but the thing is he cant brought it back because he is inlove with my friend im so confuse im still thinking about him even iwant to move on
Ruby: I have had this crush on this guy for years and I just found out that he has alwasys likes ,e 2 we r in the same school now but is ignoring cause he has a huge crush on me and a girl in his class so he ignores me to be with her and we always eachother the look how can I forget about him
Toria: How do you make a guy see you for who you are? My crush thinks im not sensitive and too emotionally strong. How do I make him see that bravado is just a wall to protect myself?
cupcake: im not really someone who easily fall for someone but when i do, i fall hard. So the story goes like this, i have a huge crush on someone at work. We haven't really talk to each other that much since i don't really know how to socialize with guys, in fact i hardly ever talk to a guy. Whenever im around my crush i felt shy and get nervous and act all panic around him that makes me look so stupid and definitely send that vibe im-so-into-you kind vibe. So from there he knows that i like him, all his friends knows i like him without me telling them. At first when he knows i like him, he act all flirty and start teasing me and stuff so i thought wow he might actually likes me back but then several weeks later he starts to avoid me but whenever we bump into each other he will start to tease me and one thing i notice, he would tease me only when he is with his group of friends. And then i look through his instagram profile, his latest photo with a caption "the worst feeling is not being the loneliest but being forgotten by someone you can't forget" so i guess now i know the reason why he avoiding me nor did he tease me anymore. but i still catch him stealing glances towards me and smile. So i don't know whether is he into me or not, and for sure he still can't move on with his past relationship with his ex girlfriends since he broke up like last year and till this day he is still unable to move on. So i felt rejected, and being played around since i felt like he is playing with my feelings, avoid me and tease me back and later avoid me again. its like my feelings went up and down and it hurts. So i really feel that i should move on since whats the point holding on something that is uncertain. in the end, i will get hurt and im not planning to hurt myself since love is supposed to be something special and if it meant to be it will happen right? it is hard to move on but i have to, there is no other option than being like this. I felt stupid at the same time to though. So yup, this is the best choice for me. -shuttingdown-
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