13 Effective Ways to Help You Get over Your Crush ...

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13 Effective Ways to Help You Get over Your Crush ...
13 Effective Ways to Help You Get over Your Crush ...

Learning all of the ways to get over your crush isn't easy, nor is it timely. If you're having trouble getting over your crush, don't think that you are alone, girls. There are many times that getting over your crush can feel horrible and can make you regret ever liking someone. Just because your crush doesn't see you as girlfriend material doesn't mean that he doesn't see you as a friend. Below, I've got all of the ways to get past your crush that makes the pain easier to handle.

1. Realization

face,facial expression,nose,man,head, The hardest part about getting over your crush is realizing that he doesn't like you the same way that you like him. The realization might be the first step, but it's the hardest step to take. While you may like the guy, while you may even love him, if he doesn't feel the same, you can't force it – no matter how much you try to.

2. Admit That You Have a Crush

person,HAVE,CRUSH,HIM, Once you've come to the realization that he might not have the same feelings you have for him, you've got to admit that you have a crush. I know it can be hard girls, but even if you just stand in front of your mirror and admit to yourself that you have a crush, you'd be amazed how much that makes a difference and how it is almost like extracting the poison. Give it a try.

3. Accept the Situation

hair,woman,beauty,photography,darkness, You've admitted that you have a crush and even though it's far from the ideal situation, try to make steps towards accepting the situation. Try not to be stubborn about it or be in denial of what's really going on. Perhaps the two of you aren't as compatible as you first thought. You might even find later on that it was a good thing that your crush never turned into more.

4. Don't Take It Personal

hair,face,photograph,nose,person, Just because he doesn't have feelings for you, it is not something that you can take personal. Learning to get over your crush might not be easy, but it isn't a personal indictment. A guy can't control his feelings just like you can't control your feelings. Imagine if a guy likes you, but you have absolutely no feelings for him – don't take it personally.

5. Be Honest with Yourself

hair,blond,muscle,just,wanna, Getting over your crush is never easy, but you have to be honest with yourself. You've got to be upfront with yourself about your feelings and how you are affected by your crush not returning your them. Once you are honest with yourself about how hurt you are, it's easier to process and easier to heal.

6. Don't Dwell on It

Honestly,,et's,just,drop,it., Do you have a support group that you can go to? Do you have a best friend that you can talk to? Do you have someone that you can turn to that will keep you from dwelling on the fact that you'll never 'get' your crush? That needs to be a focus, girls; you don't want to dwell on something that will never happen and this is a necessary tip on getting over your crush.

7. Don't Be Angry

facial expression,face,black,white,black and white, Why are you angry? Because he doesn't think of you the same way? That isn't a reason, girls, While it might be hard to admit that, you've got to make sure that your emotions stay stable and calm. You don't want to be angry or mad at your crush just because he doesn't return the feelings that you have. After all, you can't control who you like!

8. Reflect

singing,mouth,blond,stage,nightclub, When you are trying to get over your crush, why not take the time to reflect? Did you act differently around him? Did you scare him off? Was there something that you did? You want to reflect on everything and all of the interaction that you've had – just for a little while, don't dwell for days and days, but just reflect.

9. Avoid Thinking about Him

human action,face,hair,person,blond, One of the best ways to get over your crush is to stop thinking about it. I know it might be hard, but when you are thinking about him, you've got to dwell on something else. Avoid thinking about him at all costs. Pick up a hobby that you've never done before, talk to your friends, get into a support group with your family. Keep yourself busy and you'll be able to get over your crush more quickly.

10. Don't Keep Hoping

face,hair,person,image,woman, Finally girls, the last way to get over your crush that we're going to discuss is not to keep hoping. He might never, ever change his feelings and you've got to be prepared for that. Just let your hope go and you'll feel a lot better over time.

11. Keep Your Distance

hair,person,clothing,image,black hair, It's also a good idea to keep your distance and avoid contact while you're trying to get over your crush. You might not be able to completely avoid seeing or running into your crush if you're friends, work at the same place or go to the same school. But, you can try to make yourself less available and focus on yourself. If he/she doesn't understand, explain that you need some time on your own right now.

12. Seek Support

human action,hair,person,photograph,image, One of the best ways to try and get over any difficult situation is to seek support. Do you have a friend who has gone through a similar situation and you want her advice? Or maybe you just need someone to listen. Either way, talk to your friends and family members. They can help you sort through your feelings and even offer some sound advice.

13. Give Yourself Time

hair,face,black and white,hairstyle,brown hair, Getting over a crush isn't easy and no one, including yourself, shouldn't expect you to get over it quickly. Give yourself time to be sad. Everyone deals with difficult situations differently and it might take you more time than your friends to get over it. While you don't want to dwell on the situation for a prolonged period of time, don't expect yourself to be "back to normal" too quickly.

While I know that getting over your crush can be difficult, you've got to remember that there is someone out there that will appreciate you. Someone that will love you. So girls, what other ways to get over your crush do you have to share? What has worked for you?

This article was written in collaboration with editor Lisa Washington

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I have a crush on a guy ten years younger - i'm 35 he's 25. In the beginning he seemed so into me texting me all the time. Then i told him i was separating and that i have a child and he stopped texting. How can you stop having feelings for someone from day to night?

Hello! I have a question... see, my crush showed signs in 7th grade that he liked me.. We are both now freshman and I see him looking at me a lot too and we are both kinda shy and I don't really want to just randomly smile at him or make conversation because then he may think I have a crush on him and I don't really want him to know that I do unless I think he does too and I'm not real sure but I'm scared that if he finds out or thinks or if I tell him that I like him, that he won't like me back... What should I do Heather? :/

i like this boy that is really hot and skinny like atwig and is wearing adidas stuff today what should i do he is my bae

I liked a guy whom I had classes with and we hit it off, but I (accidentally) distanced from him to focus on my classwork. The months leading up to this event were slow and long; we were hostile to each other and then he started to like my friend, although I am not quite sure whether or not they are in a confirmed relationship. The thing is, this guy is a socialite who talks to every girl and guy. Girls will think he likes them because he's always happy and can strike up a conversation. Lately we've been associating again, but it's an on and again thing. We talk and then we ignore each other. But I keep seeing him with two girls in particular; both of which are my friends. I simply don't feel like moving on because every time he talks to me I think I look to much into things.

I like this guy who knows I like him but I'm also dating someone, I still like my boyfriend as well but this other guy I like, I don't know he's just different. He asked me tonight why I don't just break up with my boyfriend and I said "cause I know nothing will happen with us." and he basically agreed but he keeps acting like he likes me. I don't know what to do.

i developed a crush on my best guy friend and then he said he liked me too and was going to ask me out but then he stopped talking to me lately. should i start getting over him?

I told my crush I had feelings for him this very past weekend. He said he thought I may have had feelings about three months ago and was worried he was leading me on but never stopped texting me every day. He said he is emotionally numb from his girlfriend that cheated on him two years ago and that he doesn't date his friends usually. Should I just give up?

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