There's a fine line between being flirty and friendly. That's why it's hard to figure out if the guy you like actually has a crush on you, or if he's just a nice guy who's treating you well. Of course, there are always ways to figure out what's on his mind. If you're confused about a certain boy's intentions, here are a few different ways to tell whether he's flirting or just being friendly:
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1. He Acts Differently around You
The easiest way to tell if a guy likes you is by comparing the way he acts with you to the way he acts around others. If he treats you just like he treats his friends, or how he treats every other girl he comes across, then he's probably just being friendly. However, if he acts completely different around you, it means he likes you. He cares about your opinion, which is why he's not his usual self.
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When he's around you, his body language might change; he might get more animated or even nervous. Is he making more eye contact than usual or finding silly reasons to be near you? Maybe his jokes are a tad funnier when you're the audience, or he's showing off his best traits. If he's putting on a performance just for your benefit, chances are his interest goes beyond just being buddies. Keep an eye on the subtle changes in his behavior – they're often the most telling signs of his affection.
2. He's Always near You
If you have a class with him, and he chooses to sit with you instead of with his close buddies, he probably has a crush on you. Boys like to hang out with their besties, so if he's choosing you over them, it means you're special. If he asks you to hang out with him one-on-one, it's another good sign. The less people that are around, the more opportunities he'll have to make a move on you.
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3. He's Always Touching You
Most people like to have their personal space. They don't want to feel like they're being smothered, so they keep their distance. That why it's a good sign if he sits so close to you that your arms are brushing, even though there are plenty of other places for him to sit.
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When a guy frequently touches you, whether it's a light graze as you're both reaching for something or a reassuring pat on the back, it can be a clear indicator of his interest. It's not just about finding reasons to be near you—when his touches linger a little longer or there's a certain gentleness to them, it suggests a desire for a deeper connection. Pay attention to the context and frequency: a touch can be worth a thousand words, and his consistent, tender contact could be his way of whispering that he's into you.
4. He Stares at You
Friends don't stare at other friends with big, dreamy eyes. If you notice him looking at you from across the room with no intention of talking to you, then it means he likes what he's seeing. There's no other reason for him to be looking at you for so long.
5. He Remembers Everything That You Say
Yes, some people just have good memories. However, most of us don't remember little details unless they're important to us. So if he remembers the date and exact time of your birth, he's probably crushing on you. Otherwise he would've pushed that information to the back of his mind.
6. He Tells His Friends about You
If his friends know information about you that you never gave them, it's probably because your crush told them all about you. Don't think of it as an invasion of privacy, because it's actually a great sign. It means he thinks about you, even when you're not around.
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When you catch his friends glancing your way and smiling, or when they seem to have a shared inside joke whenever you walk by, these are hints dropped from heaven. Your crush can't stop talking you up, making it clear you're on his mind. This isn't just chit-chat about preferences and likes – he's sharing stories and personal thoughts. It's like you're already part of the gang, and that's a big leap from mere friendliness to flirty territory. So, next time his buddy slips up and mentions that funny incident you told him about, you'll know why.
7. He Winks
This is the most obvious sign that he likes you. If he winks at you or brings up sex with you, then chances are that he wants to date you. If he was just being friendly, he wouldn't cross that line.
When you know what to look for, it's not that difficult to decipher a man's actions. Do you have trouble figuring out if men are just being nice to you or if they actually like you?
Comments
Steph5: Trying to decide if this guy at my university is worth seeing. He is definitely a sight for sore eyes, very handsome. However, we've only been communicating over text, as our school schedule has made it hard for us to hang out in person (6 times!) I'm still having trouble figuring out what he's all about, and I think it's because I haven't been able to talk with him in person. I'd like to know if he's really going to be worth it before investing my heart fully into a guy again, but that's hard to gage through texts. Sometimes he's flirty, other times he's friendly, it's hard to get a read on him...he also takes a while to respond to texts, but shows some signs of being interested. Not sure what to think :/
Gauri: What if he is a bit drunk and then doing all this? One can never know what it means! Any comments?
Bunny: Steph don't bow down for anyone they ve got to prove they are worth if 👍
Bunny: Don't give a damn 👇
Mel: What if a guy saids hi to me and talks to me when I am alone with him (meaning this at work)? Does he like me or just being friendly?
Bunny: Be yourself no Matter what !!
Whitttey: So something funny happened in class when this kid got up and he winked at me after it happened. This funny thing happened between only us though so I thought it was kind of normal (though he does some of the other things) - do you think so too or was he flirting?
peony: It's all fun fun fun
Insanity: Need advice He teases me a lot and oml idk
Gegee: Not necessarily date you. Might also want to sleep with you just saying
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