When you really love someone, it's hard to keep your jealousy under control. You don't want them to leave you or figure out that they're happier with someone else, so whenever he talks to another girl, you freak out. However, your actions may make him shy away from you. He'll hate feeling like you don't trust him, which is why you should avoid doing these jealous things that men hate:
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1. Checking Their Cell
If your boyfriend leaves his phone on the couch when he goes to the bathroom, do you grab it and read through his messages? If you do, then you obviously don't trust him. It's normal to ask him who he's texting when he's sitting next to you and even to try to take a peek at the screen, but you shouldn't feel the need to read through all of his texts and emails when he's not around. It means you don't trust him, and why would you want to be with someone you think would cheat?
2. Being a Boss
Some men don't mind when you tell them what to wear and what to eat, but they draw the line when you try to tell them whom they can and cannot hang out with. If you always yell at him for associating with a certain girl, then he won't be happy. Yes, your anger is warranted if the woman is an ex or former crush, but if she is clearly just a friend, hold back your anger.
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3. Constantly Calling
It's nice to call up your boyfriend once or twice a day to chat. However, if you're calling him every hour in order to eavesdrop on the background noise, your relationship is in jeopardy. If you don't trust him to tell you where he is, you two aren't going to last.
4. Curious Questioning
When he comes home from his friend's house, do you quiz him about what they did, because you don't believe they were actually together? It's fine to ask him questions out of curiosity, but you don't want to ask and ask until you find something you can yell at him for.
5. Intense Insecurity
Whenever he looks at another girl, do you end up crying? It's normal for humans to look at other humans, even if they're in a relationship. Obviously, if he's doing something inappropriate, you have a right to speak up. But if he's just smiling at your waitress to be polite, don't ask him if he finds her prettier than you.
6. Throwing Things
Some people throw things when they get angry. Others will slash tires and break windows. If you get violent whenever jealousy strikes, he won't want to be around you. Even if your anger is justified, try to keep things somewhat peaceful.
7. Awful Accusations
If he's not cheating on you, he'll be upset when you accuse him of being unfaithful. One of the most important pieces of a relationship is trust, so if you show him that you don't believe that he's treating you right, he might end up leaving. Get your facts straight before you accuse him of something that drastic
If you really love and trust your boyfriend, you need to fight past your jealousy. If you don't, you could cause unnecessary drama. Do you get jealous easily or do those types of things never bother you?
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Barbie: I have always been a strong woman - but in my new relationship I can't seem to get past my jealousy. When we bought our house my boyfriend flirted with our Realestate agent through text. This did something to me and I don't know how to stop it. I know it's causing distance between us. I either need to shi! Or get off the pot! Any suggestions?
Steph: WOW!! I do none of these things. exept 6 in a much worse fashion because i have shitty anger management skills. 1. I don't check phones, computers, facebook, or anything else. 2. I don't restrict my boyfriend from seeing anybody. But my actions are based on his: If you can, I can too. 3. I hate using the phone so that's out of the question. 4. Sometimes bf doesn't come home til morning. When he does, he cuddles with me. I just ask if he had fun. But I warn him that because he is away sometimes, he better not pout when I'm away as well (should i choose to travel with my sister or along those lines). A dog would not pull so hard on a leash if there were no leashes to begin with. Unless he gets lost, he usually comes home. 5. There is nothing to be insecure about. Let your man do whatever he wants to do, but inform him that there will be consequences to his actions. 6. I have a bad temper. I admit to that. But I don't throw things: I destroy things, and get violent. 7. I deliberately told him he's free to cheat on me as long as i don't catch it, but the moment I do, his balls will fall to the floor. Yay i don't have those jealous habits!!
heyy123: Haha thank you girls!
heyy123: I can't help but constantly check his cell, he has an iPhone with Touch ID, I just entered my fingerprint in his settings without him knowing...no need to know his passcode! Lol
Kayla: Good post. I have done this in my past relationship and it didn't really last. But thank you for the good advice
Melissa: 😳 I didn't know this actually happened. My relationship is wonderful and we love and trust each other. If a boyfriend made me feel like that I would say bye Felicia.
tiffany: haha this is totally my husband! so annoying -_-'
Roro: Thanks u soo much for these interesting advices xx
Sata: Lmaooo @heyy123
Nautica: This post was right on time with my current situation. I literally have alllll these problems & that's why my relationship is failing
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