You can cheat on someone without laying a finger on someone else. Cheating is all about intent, which is why emotional cheating is often more devastating than a physical affair. Personally, I think I'd be more forgiving of a sexual encounter because that's just sex and sex doesn't always mean anything more than an orgasm. Getting all tangled up with someone emotionally is altogether different. Distancing yourself is altogether different, too. All the little ways people cheat without having sex still add up and easily result in the demise of the relationship.
1. Sexting with Anyone
If you're trying to get off with someone else, you're pretty much kind of cheating, you know? You're not technically having sex, but still.
2. Creating Profiles on Dating Apps
Don't say you're just trying to see what's out there because … well, why? If you're that curious about what you're missing, you maybe shouldn't be in a relationship in the first place.
3. And Using Them
This is even worse, though. It may never come to anything, but if you use an app to hook up with other people, you have the intent to cheat.
4. Creating Alternate Personas Online
Ditto, plus it's catfishing and catfishing is never cool.
5. Taking Flirtation Too Far with a Friend
People flirt. That's not a big deal. Flirting can go too far, though, and you know when it's reached that point.
6. Comparing Your Partner to Someone You're Interested in
It's never fair to compare your partner to anyone. Comparing her/him to someone else you have feelings for, however, that's just wrong.
7. Thinking about Someone else during Sex with Your Partner
I don't mean thinking about a celebrity or someone you simply fantasize about, obviously. If you're physically imagining someone you've wanted to be with, though, that's like cheating by proxy.
8. Carrying on a Virtual Relationship
Long-term texting relationships are increasingly common. You may never do anything physical and you may do it under the guise of friendship or flirtation, but it can cross a line into more serious territory.
9. Withholding Sex Because You're Thinking of Someone else
For instance, if you have a crush on someone other than your partner and refuse to sleep with your partner because you feel like you'd be cheating on your crush, that's … well, kind of cheating, isn't it?
10. Sending Photos
Sending risque photos, that is. Sharing nude photos with anyone other than your partner is just … no.
11. Sending Videos
Same.
12. Confiding Solely in Someone else
It's okay to have a friend who's more like your soul mate than your partner. However, when you completely stop confiding in your partner and share your feelings solely with someone else, that's pretty serious.
13. Telling Someone They Understand You More than Your Partner
First of all, is that true? Because that's not great. Second of all, this is another case where you're comparing your partner to someone else and putting all your feelings outside of your relationship.
14. Pretending That You're Single
You only say this if you wish you were single. There's no other reason.
15. Making Plans to Leave without a Word
This means you're not communicating at all, and once you stop communicating, things are all but done.
16. Exchanging “I Love Yous” with Someone else
For obvious reasons.
17. Lying More Often than You Tell the Truth
Even if you're not interested in someone specific, once you get to this stage, your heart and your mind are somewhere else.
When you start pulling away from your relationship, in whatever way, you've already made a decision that you don't want to be in it anymore. Some people – can some couples – can come back from this, but not all of them. Have you done any of these things? Would it bother you if your partner did?
Frequently Asked Questions
- What does cheating without sex mean?
- It refers to emotional or psychological betrayal, like secret texting or flirting, without physical intimacy.
- Can emotional cheating hurt as much as physical cheating?
- Yes, emotional cheating can deeply damage trust and feelings, sometimes even more than physical infidelity.
- Is texting someone else secretly considered cheating?
- Often, yes; secretive communication with romantic intent outside your relationship can be seen as emotional cheating.
- How can I tell if my partner is emotionally cheating?
- Look for secrecy, reduced transparency, emotional distance, and unusual attachment to someone else.
- Why do people emotionally cheat without physical intimacy?
- They may seek validation, excitement, or connection they're missing at home without wanting to face physical risks.
- Can friendships ever feel like cheating?
- Close friendships with emotional intensity or secrecy can cross boundaries and feel like emotional cheating.
- What should I do if I suspect emotional cheating?
- Openly communicate your feelings with your partner and consider setting clear relationship boundaries.
- Is spying on a partner to catch emotional cheating okay?
- It's better to foster trust and honest conversations rather than spying, which can harm the relationship further.
- Can emotional cheating be forgiven?
- Yes, with honest communication, understanding, and effort from both partners to rebuild trust.
- How to prevent emotional cheating in a relationship?
- Maintain open communication, emotional intimacy, and set clear expectations together.