There are little things that can help you judge a man's character when you're first getting to know him. Even though you can't figure out a person's whole personality by looking at the tiny things they do, you can certainly get a general idea about them. If you don't like what you see, then you can consider it a red flag and get away while you can. Here are little ways you can judge a man's character:
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1. How He Treats Strangers
When you go to a restaurant together, pay attention to how he treats the waiter. You should also pay attention to how he behaves when he walks in and out of the restaurant. Hopefully he'll hold open the door for you. He should also hold open that door for anyone who's about to walk past him. If he lets it slam shut on a little old lady behind him, then he's not as respectful as he should be.
2. How He Treats His Pets
You can't judge a man by whether he owns a cat or a dog. However, you can judge him by how he treats his cat or dog. Does he play with it every single day or let his parents take care of it? Is his phone filled with pictures of it or does he barely think about it?
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3. What He Does when He's Angry
If you happen to see your man when he's angry, you're going to learn a lot about him. Does he grab a beer as soon as he's frustrated? Does he throw things? Or does he try to work through his emotions in a healthy way?
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Understanding how a man deals with anger is incredibly telling of his character. Is he the type that retreats into silence, needing space to process his feelings? Or perhaps he seeks immediate resolution, engaging in a heated discussion to clear the air. It's particularly revealing when he's willing to take a step back and breathe, perhaps even meditating or going for a run to calm down. The way he navigates these tumultuous emotions can show his level of emotional intelligence and control, key qualities in a partner.
4. Whom He Associates with
His friends might not act exactly like he does, but they're a good indication of his character. If a man hangs out with a group of drug addicts, then it isn't looking good for him. It's easy to pick up on our friends' bad habits, which means that your man could be headed down the wrong path.
5. How Much He Talks
Does your man talk more than you do, or does he ask you a lot of questions to keep you talking? Depending on your personality, either one of these things could be positive. If you like to sit back and hear what others have to say, then you should go for the talkative guy. If you like to have the last word, then you'd be better off with someone who's a little more quiet.
6. What He Does in His Free Time
If a man volunteers at a homeless shelter during his free time, then you know he's a decent guy. If he smokes marijuana whenever he has some free time, then he might not be very reliable. Finding out what hobbies a man has is a great way to figure out who he really is.
7. His Favorite Song
A person's favorite song can tell you a lot about them. If his favorite song is about the death of a loved one, then you know he has strong family values. If his favorite song is about partying, then you know he likes to have fun. So pay attention to his iPod.
These things won't tell you all you need to know about a man, but they can give you a little insight into his personality. What do you usually judge a man's character on?
Comments
Jayda: I will definitely be using this as my guide
peony: @alka that is why they are potheads life is cool and mellow when you are a pothead.
Jenny: My god, these comments are over a year old...anyway, I think this is a nice neat basic guide to judging character at the start of any relationship. Imho, juxtaposing volunteering for a shelter versus smoking weed is kind of unfair. A guy can certainly do both and be reliable. Also lots of straight edge girls would have already passed over a pot smoker for a bf. Is a dude kind? Does he give a dollar to the homeless guy begging on the street? Does he go out of his way to be courteous: does he say "please", "thank you", and "excuse me", on a regular basis? I really can't believe it's 2016, and we are still judging people based on whether they smoke weed! Just an FYI, science has PROVEN that marijuana is an effective pain medication. In fact, my town has a state-certified medicinal cannabis dispensary...no reefer madness yet lol💜
Bel: what a cynical point of view of a man
alka: @peony blue. Okay I'm guessing you do not live in califonia cause most people here are educated on pot is not an addictive drug. I mean it could cause people to be paranoid but very slighty not extreme.
JP: Alka, You are entitled to disagree, but with all due respect, a person who is real doesn't need to "escape their mind." Your mind is real. A person who is well adjusted will find a way to deal with the ups and downs we encounter in life. Using drugs is a cop-out. A professional working in the mental health field would have a field day with this thread.
Michelle: I think the author means like if all he does is smoke weed all day, he's not reliable
Srey: oh that is very cold . for me i want to know something from the man who live far away from hi
peony: @Alka no I don't. Live in California but marijuana is what it is. In England people use it to calm down arthritic pain. So oh must imagine how powerful it is and in London o know people who are paranoid and live off marijuana so it's real. But of course different strokes for different folks but I know people who have a sense of paranoia and it's not a good . Pot is hard stuff Alka it really is.
Bunny: I agree with some of them not all !!
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