7 Reasons Romantic Relationships Are Overrated ...

By Miles • Jan 4, 2014

Yes, it's wonderful to be in a relationship with someone you love but it's not everything in life. Guest contributor Miles Young shares his reasons on why romantic relationships are seriously overrated!

If you believe your family, the media, and pretty much everyone else, you must have a romantic relationship for a fulfilling life. Forget that. Here are 7 reasons that romantic relationships are overrated.

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1. Relationships Can Kill Your Financial Stability

When you get married, you accept everything about your partner-including their bad credit. Studies have shown that modern women are more financially responsible than men in many respects.

Taking on their bad credit score can affect all areas of your financial stability. It can even affect your car insurance. State Farm and many other companies require records of every adult in your household. That means an irresponsible person could push your rate up even before you get married.

2. Relationships Get in the Way of Careers

Perhaps it's unfortunate, but many people find it impossible to manage romantic relationships while focusing on their careers. Without a significant around, you can stay at the office as late as you want. Want to work weekends without catching grief? No problem.

Maybe you'll decide to start a relationship later, but for now, you want to focus on building your career.

3. Relationships Steal You from Your Friends

You always said you'd put your friends before your relationship. How many times have you seen one of your friends fall away from your usual group because they started dating some someone?

You could fall into that trap, too. At the beginning of their relationships, couples often want to spend as much time together as possible. That's fine for a while, but then it becomes a routine. A year later, you wonder why you never see your friends anymore.

4. Relationships Restrict Variety

Do you really want to restrict yourself to one person? Most romantic partners will want monogamous relationships that restrict your variety. It's not just about sex, either. You can learn a lot about life by dating people casually. Once things start getting serious, though, you can wave goodbye to spending one evening with a person who likes to go to art museums and spending the next with one who loves going out to dance.

If you want that kind of variety in your life, you either have to remain single or find the coolest partner in the world. Good luck with the latter.

If you're looking to engage your partner in intriguing conversations, why not try some hypothetical questions for couples? These fun queries will not only keep the conversation lively but also stimulate deep thoughts and potentially reveal insights about each other's personality and thought processes.

5. You Don't Need Them

Society tells you that you need a romantic relationship, but you don't. Where's the proof that you have to settle down with one person to have a good life? It just isn't there.

Consider all of the famous, powerful, amazing women who never got married. That list includes:
Susan B. Anthony
Florence Nightingale
Coco Chanel
Greta Garbo
Winona Ryder
Kylie Minogue
Cameron Diaz

If you're single, you're in good company with these women.

6. Your Dog Gives Better Kisses without All of the Demands

You don't need a romantic relationship to have a great companion. Dogs give better kisses, and they don't get pushy about those kisses leading to other things.

Besides, who's happier to see you when you come home, a dog or a romantic partner? If you want unconditional love, then you have to go with the dog.

7. Unhealthy Relationships Can Literally Make You Unhealthy

The stress of a bad relationship can last a lifetime. It could also shorten your lifespan (which might not sound so bad after a few years of scowling across the breakfast table at the same person).

Researchers at Ohio State University found that couples in unhealthy, stressful relationships were actually less healthy than people who didn't live with that stress. To test the hypothesis, they gave individuals small blisters on their arms and had them discuss difficult topics with their spouses.

Those who had hostile communication styles healed slower than those who knew how to communicate in a positive, respectful manner. That doesn't mean all romantic relationships are killers, but do you really want to take that chance?

What are some reasons that you think romantic relationships are overrated? Have you ever felt trapped in a relationship that you didn't know how to escape? Leave a comment below and let us know.

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  • Gaby

    2014-01-04T18:31:23.000Z

    *unofficially
  • Eliza

    2014-01-04T18:40:38.000Z

    As a woman and divorced over twelve years ago can't agree more! Too many times I see the irritations in everyone's romantic relationships I thank gods I'm single independent and can enjoy life. I have a daughter a career and a tidy house lol
  • Kat

    2014-01-04T19:02:04.000Z

    Why would someone publish bitter articles like this one. You don't need a relationship to make u happy that's on u alone. Nor should one or a few bad relationships put u off relationships. The past makes u better not bitter be it lessons from financial hardship or getting burnt. I disagree with people needing 'variety'. If u find or have someone that's your friend family and spouse in one that's a blessing.
  • Jules

    2014-01-05T17:57:11.000Z

    All The reasons that you gave are for people that have unhealthy relationships. If you have a healthy relationship you don't have to lose your friends, and your partner will respect that you want to grow as a professional. It is ok if someone wants to be alone, but I don't think is true that a relationship slows or stops your life, it depends on how you manage your relationship.
  • Cecilia

    2014-01-04T17:58:26.000Z

    Bitter bitch. Lol
  • Suo

    2014-01-05T11:50:06.000Z

    I already got married in September 1986
  • Hope

    2014-01-05T05:59:24.000Z

    We live in a society that makes you feel if your not married then you are a failure. I think the author is saying "not" being in a romantic relationship is not the end of the world... You still can have a fulfilling life. We all want to be loved but that is not always the case... Sometimes love is complicated...
  • Gaby

    2014-01-04T18:31:17.000Z

    Didn't Coco Chanel have a pretty long term relationship with Boy Capel although I officially?
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