10 Red Flags That He is Still in Love with His Ex ...

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10 Red Flags That He is Still in Love with His Ex ...
10 Red Flags That He is Still in Love with His Ex ...

Getting into a new relationship with a new guy is full of uncertainty – especially if he is still in love with his ex. However, this situation can happen to anyone, in any type of relationship, no matter how many anniversaries celebrated. From personal experience, it can be hard for a person to heal from a past love that had such a profound impact on their life and heart. Therefore, there's no point in driving yourself crazy about the issue, but to recognize it and act accordingly. If you're one of those females who see the signs but can't quite grasp their meanings, then I will explain here some of the most common red flags that he is still in love with his ex.

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1

He Stays in Contact with Her

When a guy keeps the lines of communication open that should immediately let you know that he is still in love with his ex. However, it's not just any type of communication, but one that is quite friendly. Say for instance they text daily and talk on the phone frequently. If the conversation is too sociable, then honey, he is still feeling her. Communication mediums are not only limited to phones either, but it can also be through email, video chat, instant message, or social media. If he refuses to detach himself from her because they're supposedly "just friends," then it may be time for you to wake up to the fact that a man who is really over a past relationship would respect you by not "casually" talking to his ex.

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Moreover, pay attention to the nature of their conversations. Are they sharing inside jokes, reminiscing about old times, or perhaps supporting each other through personal matters? These are intimate depths that should not be overlooked. Conversations that meander into the emotional or nostalgic territories are red flags. It’s more than ‘just friends’ chatting; it’s keeping the emotional connection alive. A guy truly moved on wouldn’t blur the lines between past and present so carelessly, especially if it makes you uncomfortable. Your feelings should be his priority, not maintaining a relationship that is supposed to be in the rearview mirror.

2

He Reminisces on Moments with Her

One of the most disturbing signs is hearing your boyfriend reminisce on endearing moments or events he had with his past lover. If he ever runs into an "I remember moment," then that should definitely make you feel uncomfortable. Additionally, any other conversations of him slightly recalling little things about her are unacceptable. There is no excuse why flashbacks of his ex should be racing through his mind. That period in his life has come and gone and should be replaced with building new memorable moments with you. Maybe he just wants that old thing back (shrug shoulders).

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When he gets that far-off look in his eyes, followed by a nostalgic mention of a shared joke or a place they visited together, it's a clear signal that he's not entirely present with you. If her name slips into everyday conversations, or worse—he compares you two, even subtly—it screams volumes about where his heart might truly lie. Whether he's mentioning her favorite movie that just so happens to be playing on TV or humming a tune from a concert they attended, these should not be the soundtrack or script of your relationship. And let's be real–exes shouldn't be the ghost at the dinner table.

3

He Holds on to Sentimental Gifts from Her

So, he has yet to throw away that T-shirt she bought for him at that one music concert. Then, when you ask to wear it to bed, he gets super protective and makes you take it off because it was a gift from his ex. Well, he may just be holding on to it as a reminder that she still means a lot to him. Anything that triggers an emotional response should be perceived as a major warning sign. It's completely understandable that certain gifts shouldn't be tossed away and forgotten, such as his vehicle she helped him purchased prior to the relationship. However, if there are unnecessary gifts located around the house or in a trunk for keepsake, then there's honestly a problem there.

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It's critical to acknowledge the emotional weight these objects can carry. His refusal to let go signals that he isn't ready to fully invest in a future with you. Ask yourself why these mementos haven't been tucked away — out of sight and out of mind. If his living space is like a shrine to past romance, it's a stark indication that he's not over her. Sure, everyone has a past, but when the past takes precedence over your present together, it's time for a serious conversation.

4

He Social Media Stalks and Talks with Her

Have you recently gone creeping through his social media accounts to see whom he is tweeting or Facebook stalking? Good thing you did! No scratch that. Bad thing you did because you may just find what you've assumed all along. If he creeps on her Facebook page or Instagram, he may just be OBSESSED. Yep, he's not in love any more, but now fixated on his ex. Also, any messages or tweets revealing any signs of flirting shouldn't be taken lightly. He is clearly thinking about going down that route with her again.

5

He Constantly Throws Shade at Her

This red flag is completely the opposite of what has already been listed. Yet, it is definitely a sure sign that shouldn't be overlooked. Speaking ill-mannered of his former girlfriend could totally reveal his true feelings for her. Most women think that because a man trashes a woman, it means that they despise her. But truth-be-told, it could really mean that he has yet to resolve any issues that he has with her. He may dislike her so much that he just can't fathom the thought that they're no longer a couple.

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When a man openly criticizes his ex, it often masks unresolved emotions. Consider it a psychological boomerang; the more he belittles her, the more entangled his affections might actually be. It's the frequency and intensity of these remarks that serve as a barometer for his feelings. If she's constantly the villain in his stories, ask yourself why she's still such a central character in his narrative. Genuine indifference typically breeds silence, not slander. Don’t be fooled into thinking his harsh words equate to emotional detachment; often, it's quite the contrary.

6

He Doesn't Want Anyone else Dating Her

Maybe his ex has recently started dating someone new and he has been in the most horrible mood since then. HELLO! He is without a doubt jealous, and jealousy is the number one sign of having feelings. Here's a scenario: they are still good friends, but he ends the friendship because she's in a new relationship. If he's just friends with her then this newfound love shouldn't get underneath his skin. Furthermore, he openly criticizes the new guy in some way. If he were fully into you and committed to the relationship, then he would careless about his old girlfriend's new lover. After all, he too has a new lover.

7

He Compares You to Her

The worst thing a man could do is compare his current girlfriend to his past girlfriend. I've decided to end this list with the most obvious red flag there is out there. Telling you that she was thinner than you, cooked better than you, or was more considerate than you reveal that he misses those things about her. He basically wishes that you had similar features, personality traits, or customs as his last girlfriend. If he makes you feel like you're constantly competing against his ex, then why put yourself through that much strife? It will forever be a tug-of-war battle between you being yourself and emulating her. At the same time, females will try to make themselves appear better than the former girlfriend to prove to her boyfriend that she is "the one." If this is you, just let that man be with the one he obviously longs for. You're worth more than that.

8

He is Constantly Reminded of Her

If everything he sees or does makes him think of her or things he and her used to do, run! It's a huge red flag in the ways that he's still in love with her. Sure, if they had a long term relationship there may be a restaurant they went to all the time, but if he points out minute things that shouldn't really pertain to an ex, you need to bail before you get too deep.

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When every little detail seems to trigger a memory of her, from the smell of a certain perfume in the air to the genre of a movie they watched together, it shows he's not ready to let go. This kind of emotional baggage can weigh down a potential new relationship. You deserve someone who is fully present with you, not living in the past. The past should be a distant land, not the everyday scenery of your relationship. Trust your gut, and if it feels like you're sharing him with a ghost, it's time to find someone whose heart is truly available.

9

He Brings Her up during Intimate Moments

So you two may be getting hot and heavy early, things are getting intimate and sexual, and then he says her name-this is probably the biggest and most obvious sign he's still in love with her! Run far and fast! Get out while you still have dignity! Cut things off ASAP! Whatever way you put it, he's in love with her. If you're making out and he starts talking about things she used to do or ways she used to kiss him that he liked, he's most definitely still totally in love with her whether he admits it or not.

10

He Goes to Her First

While it's cool they can still be friendly, if he's turning to her for advice or going to her for advice on a job offer or other life changing event, you need to realize he's probably still in love with her-especially if he's going to her before he comes to you. Sure, early on you may not expect him to want your advice on those things, but there will probably come a point where you do, and if he's used to going to her, you're always going to be second rate.

One bit of advice: never date a man who just got out of a long-term relationship with his ex less than three months ago. Typically, you may just be used as a rebound and will eventually find yourself experiencing the scenarios mentioned above. Try to be completely certain that the issues you both would face will always AND only involve you and him. What would you say are some other red flags that give a man away?

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i agree with you Lindsay, because my husband have a daughter and her mother want let her come to see her little baby brother.

If he does number 7 it's purely disgusting and the guy is either stupid or an a**hole.

Well, my fiance just compared me to his ex earlier that she is better than me, in a way that he feel his problems were offloaded when he used to talk to her, but when it comes to talking to me. I am not giving him the same vibe of comfort and peace💔

But honey he should ! Find the good in goodbye

@Annie_Row,

He avoids talking about her! Even when you directly ask him questions, and he changes the subject or is extremely vague. I'm going through this right now. I hate when a guy can't get over a pretty girl even when she was horrible to him. Ugh.

#7 He doesn't really come out and say it, but when he says he would like me to do certain things, that I know she does, makes me feel like I'm not who or what he really wants.

When he still have pictures of the two of them at fb or any other

So if the guy still has saved pictures of him and his ex on his computer, thats a warning sign? He told me hes still holding onto it because of good memories and nothing more 😒

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