If you're dating someone and you're wondering whether or not it is worth investing your time, energy and emotion, take notice of any signs he's not the one. If the guy you are dating is showing any signs he's not the one, it's best to pack it up and move on; chances are that he's not going to suddenly start changing his feelings and become your one and only.
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1. You Feel Judged
One of the biggest signs he's not the one is that you feel like you are being judged. If you feel like you can't be yourself or if you feel like he's judging you when you are being yourself, it's a safe bet that he's not the one. The right guy won't ever judge you.
Look for how he treats you and if he invests time and effort in the relationship. If you feel valued and cared for, that’s a good sign!
If he seems distant, doesn’t make plans, or keeps canceling on you, those could be big red flags that he’s not fully into it.
Totally! Sometimes things just don’t feel right or you might have a gut instinct telling you to reassess. Trust your feelings!
Have an honest talk with him! Communication is key. If he still doesn’t step up, it might be time to think about moving on.
Absolutely! Everyone has doubts. Just remember, a healthy relationship should bring you joy and peace, not confusion and anxiety.
2. No Emotion
Well, this one is pretty obvious. If he isn't showing any emotion, or any real emotion, after dating for several weeks - or even months - chances are pretty good that he isn't the one. If the guy you are dating is actually into you, he will certainly have some sort of emotion. He may not say "I love you" right away, but he will surely let you know he has strong feelings for you with some sort of emotion.
Look for how he treats you and if he invests time and effort in the relationship. If you feel valued and cared for, that’s a good sign!
If he seems distant, doesn’t make plans, or keeps canceling on you, those could be big red flags that he’s not fully into it.
Totally! Sometimes things just don’t feel right or you might have a gut instinct telling you to reassess. Trust your feelings!
Have an honest talk with him! Communication is key. If he still doesn’t step up, it might be time to think about moving on.
Absolutely! Everyone has doubts. Just remember, a healthy relationship should bring you joy and peace, not confusion and anxiety.
3. You're Not a Priority
If he is always going out without checking in with you, or if he constantly makes plans with you and then breaks them to do something else, you are not his priority. If you aren't his priority, it's a safe bet that he isn't the one.
Look for how he treats you and if he invests time and effort in the relationship. If you feel valued and cared for, that’s a good sign!
If he seems distant, doesn’t make plans, or keeps canceling on you, those could be big red flags that he’s not fully into it.
Totally! Sometimes things just don’t feel right or you might have a gut instinct telling you to reassess. Trust your feelings!
Have an honest talk with him! Communication is key. If he still doesn’t step up, it might be time to think about moving on.
Absolutely! Everyone has doubts. Just remember, a healthy relationship should bring you joy and peace, not confusion and anxiety.
4. You Can't Communicate with Him
Communication is one of the basic foundations of a successful relationship. If you find it difficult to communicate with him, regarding issues, your feelings, or even just everyday events, then you can probably safely say that he isn't the one.
Look for how he treats you and if he invests time and effort in the relationship. If you feel valued and cared for, that’s a good sign!
If he seems distant, doesn’t make plans, or keeps canceling on you, those could be big red flags that he’s not fully into it.
Totally! Sometimes things just don’t feel right or you might have a gut instinct telling you to reassess. Trust your feelings!
Have an honest talk with him! Communication is key. If he still doesn’t step up, it might be time to think about moving on.
Absolutely! Everyone has doubts. Just remember, a healthy relationship should bring you joy and peace, not confusion and anxiety.
If you're looking to engage your partner in intriguing conversations, why not try some hypothetical questions for couples? These fun queries will not only keep the conversation lively but also stimulate deep thoughts and potentially reveal insights about each other's personality and thought processes.
5. You Don't Trust Him
Trust is the number one essential ingredient for a successful relationship. If you don't trust what the guy you are dating tells you, you don't trust where he has been and you just don't trust anything he does, then you shouldn't be considering packing your bags; you should be doing so while you are reading this.
Look for how he treats you and if he invests time and effort in the relationship. If you feel valued and cared for, that’s a good sign!
If he seems distant, doesn’t make plans, or keeps canceling on you, those could be big red flags that he’s not fully into it.
Totally! Sometimes things just don’t feel right or you might have a gut instinct telling you to reassess. Trust your feelings!
Have an honest talk with him! Communication is key. If he still doesn’t step up, it might be time to think about moving on.
Absolutely! Everyone has doubts. Just remember, a healthy relationship should bring you joy and peace, not confusion and anxiety.
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6. He Lies
Have you ever caught your guy in a lie? I'm not talking about a little white lie regarding an outfit you're wearing so that you can actually get somewhere at home either; I'm talking about a real, true hurtful and harmful lie. If your guy has lied about where he has been, where he is going and who has been hanging out with - or anything else as serious as this - you need to ditch him because he isn't the one.
Look for how he treats you and if he invests time and effort in the relationship. If you feel valued and cared for, that’s a good sign!
If he seems distant, doesn’t make plans, or keeps canceling on you, those could be big red flags that he’s not fully into it.
Totally! Sometimes things just don’t feel right or you might have a gut instinct telling you to reassess. Trust your feelings!
Have an honest talk with him! Communication is key. If he still doesn’t step up, it might be time to think about moving on.
Absolutely! Everyone has doubts. Just remember, a healthy relationship should bring you joy and peace, not confusion and anxiety.
7. He Isn't Investing
You can't be the only one making an effort in your relationship; and you can't be giving more than he is. If you feel like it's a 60-40, a 70-30 or a 90-10 investment (your investment being the higher number), you need to walk away. A successful relationship requires a 50-50 investment, and the right guy will want to make that kind of investment.
Look for how he treats you and if he invests time and effort in the relationship. If you feel valued and cared for, that’s a good sign!
If he seems distant, doesn’t make plans, or keeps canceling on you, those could be big red flags that he’s not fully into it.
Totally! Sometimes things just don’t feel right or you might have a gut instinct telling you to reassess. Trust your feelings!
Have an honest talk with him! Communication is key. If he still doesn’t step up, it might be time to think about moving on.
Absolutely! Everyone has doubts. Just remember, a healthy relationship should bring you joy and peace, not confusion and anxiety.
8. Not Affectionate
Being affectionate in a relationship is something that you need to have. Closeness is so important in a relationship and you lose that when you aren't affectionate with each other, especially in private.
Look for how he treats you and if he invests time and effort in the relationship. If you feel valued and cared for, that’s a good sign!
If he seems distant, doesn’t make plans, or keeps canceling on you, those could be big red flags that he’s not fully into it.
Totally! Sometimes things just don’t feel right or you might have a gut instinct telling you to reassess. Trust your feelings!
Have an honest talk with him! Communication is key. If he still doesn’t step up, it might be time to think about moving on.
Absolutely! Everyone has doubts. Just remember, a healthy relationship should bring you joy and peace, not confusion and anxiety.
9. Huge Distance
When you can feel the chill in the room when your partner walks into it, that's a problem. When you keep things in the surface instead of digging deeper, it's time for you to pack because there has to be a reason for the distance.
Look for how he treats you and if he invests time and effort in the relationship. If you feel valued and cared for, that’s a good sign!
If he seems distant, doesn’t make plans, or keeps canceling on you, those could be big red flags that he’s not fully into it.
Totally! Sometimes things just don’t feel right or you might have a gut instinct telling you to reassess. Trust your feelings!
Have an honest talk with him! Communication is key. If he still doesn’t step up, it might be time to think about moving on.
Absolutely! Everyone has doubts. Just remember, a healthy relationship should bring you joy and peace, not confusion and anxiety.
10. No Future Talk
When you've been with your partner for a while, you always talk about the next step. Maybe your partner is not thinking you are his next step -- have you thought of that? If there is no future talk on his end, no matter how many times you've tried, it's time to go!
Look for how he treats you and if he invests time and effort in the relationship. If you feel valued and cared for, that’s a good sign!
If he seems distant, doesn’t make plans, or keeps canceling on you, those could be big red flags that he’s not fully into it.
Totally! Sometimes things just don’t feel right or you might have a gut instinct telling you to reassess. Trust your feelings!
Have an honest talk with him! Communication is key. If he still doesn’t step up, it might be time to think about moving on.
Absolutely! Everyone has doubts. Just remember, a healthy relationship should bring you joy and peace, not confusion and anxiety.
11. Lack of Sex
Finally, the lack of sex can be something that can really cause a lot of problems in a relationship. A relationship that is filled with passion -- should also be filled with sex. If you are seeing a huge dip or even a lack of sex all together, it might be because he isn't into having it with you.
Dating can be tough. However, just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean that you should stick it out because you are afraid of being alone; if the guy you are seeing is showing any of these signs, it's best to pack up and move on. What's your stance on this?
This article was written in collaboration with editor Heather Jensen.
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Zafeerah: Confessed to my bestfriend that I've been waiting and loving him for all these solid 4 years and a half but I got ignored after I refused to sleep with him. I know I am not his top priority or getting into a relationship but still I have patiently waited for him in vain. Left it to a wind of chance and hope but nothing has ever progressed after all the efforts of telling him how I felt for him. Guess time to move on now.
Paloma: I don't necessarily agree completely with this article, what happens when you guy is just not affectionate at all? Because that's the way he is and the way he grew up like. Or what about if he doesn't like to share feelings? But this is just the way he is with you, his family, his friends... Would you walk away because I society says that you need to have certain amount of affection, or because you have to be the only thing that matters in his life? Obviously if he lies, and if he hurts you by judging you all the time and if you are the only one in this relationship then yeah, this would be a real reason to move on. But I think everybody's relationships work in a very different ways.
Ruby: This came in the right time. I was wondering if my break up was a mistake. A friend told me to not settle for less and I'm hanging on to this!
Jose: 11 signs his not the one on question 3 your not his priority , is not that your not his priority is just that if your nice to him like a worm welcome always asking if he wants something to eat or thrink all this things and more bilds up and then your goin to be his ppriority . And onother thing im a man sometimes a dick thats what my girl says and no im not gay . Is just that 11 signs his not the one is not certain
Ciarra: 1-11 hit home
Cindy: Having been with someone foray years who wasn't affectionate and now remarried to a very affectionate man, I didn't realize what I was missing! No going back for this girl.
Kresta: I never had a boyfriend so i don't know how to act like one exactly. Anyway, this military guy is like a heaven-sent to me. He's now been deployed to middle east. We've been talking a lot almost everyday for a month then suddenly i can hardly talk to him anymore. I don't know if he wants me to wait for him or what?
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