Even if it seems like a man really likes you, he might just be using you for sex. That's why you have to keep an eye open to make sure that he's not just looking to get lucky. If you're just not sure where he stands, here are a few signs that he's only interested in sex:
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1. Convos Are Always Sexual
If you ask him an innocent question about what he's eating for dinner and he turns the conversation into a sexual one, it means only one thing is on his mind.
2. He Only Texts You after Midnight
If he asks you over late at night, it's a booty call. He doesn't want to talk. He just wants sex.
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If the vast majority of his messages pop up on your phone when the clock strikes twelve, consider yourself not a Cinderella but a casual hookup in his eyes. Real connections are built on shared experiences and conversations that happen under the sun as well as the moon. True interest manifests in wanting to know how your day was, planning proper dates, and catching up during dinner, not just sneaky midnight meet-ups—so don't let the late-night texts blur the lines of what you truly deserve.
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3. He Only Compliments You on Your Looks
Compliments are always welcome, but pay attention to what he says. If he only comments on your breasts, and never on your intelligence, he sees you as an object.
4. He Wont Introduce You to His Friends
If he wanted a serious relationship, he'd show you off to all of his friends and family members.
5. He Pressures You to Have Sex
If he respected you, he'd wait until you were ready for sex. But if he only wants to get laid, he'll try to push you to give him what he wants.
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Resisting such pressure is critical for your self-respect and autonomy. It's a clear red flag when your comfort and consent are neglected. Trust your instincts; if you feel coerced, it's time to reassess the relationship. True intimacy is built on mutual respect and patience, not on satisfying one's fleeting desires. Remember, no one has the right to pressure you into physical intimacy. Your body, your rules.
6. He’s Overly Touchy
Touching your shoulder and hugging you is flirty. Grabbing your booty is inappropriate.
7. He Won’t Cuddle
If he'll sleep with you, but pushes you out of bed once he's done, it's a huge red flag.
8. He Won’t Let You Leave Anything at His Place
If he freaks out when you leave a bra in his bathroom, it means he isn't interested in making you his girlfriend.
9. You Never Talk about “real” Things
What do you two tend to talk about? If you know nothing about his friends, hobbies, or life, then your bond isn't as strong as it would need to be to date.
10. He Won’t Engage in Foreplay
Women need foreplay for good sexual experiences. If he won't give you what you want, he only cares about himself.
11. He Never Makes Plans until the Last Second
Boyfriends should make plans with their girlfriends in advance. If he always invites you over at the last second, he's not putting in enough effort.
12. He Won’t Let You Sleep over
If he wants you out of his house by morning, how much could he really like you? He should want to wake up to your pretty face.
13. He Says He’s Not Ready for Relationship
If he refuses to be called your boyfriend, but he agrees to sleep with you, he's only interested in sex. No doubt about it.
14. He Goes Missing for Days
If he drops out of your life randomly, how much could he care about you? If he loved you, he wouldn't disappear.
15. He Asks for Nudes
If he asks for nude pictures every single time you text him, he's clearly in the mood for sex.
16. He Won’t Pay for Your Meals
The man doesn't have to pay, but he should at least make an offer. If he never does, it's like you two are only friends.
17. He Won’t Discuss Your Future
If he won't agree to go to the movies with you next week, then he wants to keep his options open. He doesn't want to feel tied down.
Keep an eye out for these signs, so you don't end up with a man who's using you. Have you ever been with a man who was only interested in sleeping with you?
Comments
Coco: True! I knew this experience, it's horrible. Those guys are horrible!
Boncheri1: 💯true, but as divorce single Mom who likes being single for now, it works. don't need overbearing dominance in my life, but booty occasionally works for me, & he knows I feel that way too. Anything he can do, I can do even better!! 😏
Mariam: What if he acts as if he loves you and makes you believe that your his girlfriend just for this 😔💔
Stefani: . . . SO MANY MIX SIGNALS! this helped and not helped? Sorry, not sorry?
Charlotte: Great article!!🤗
Sunshiine: How about the guy do a few of those, do they count?
Yudisha: So true!!! Just hope this article would help you gals!!!
Elke: I'm sorry if a guy feels he can call you for a booty call he's obviously been given a reason why he thinks he can. If you're already having sex with him and you don't have an exclusive relationship why should he think it's anything more than casual? You owe it to yourself to get a concise answer as far as the status of the relationship. If it's not what you want then move on. But do it before you sleep with him!! If you're looking for a monogamous, long lasting, love relationship, make sure he's coming from the same place. Women often think they're gonna change his mind, or give him the best sex ever and "he'll commit for sure!' Women do not have to be these weak minded dolts who let the man decide the status. They should make their decision and tell him you not interested
Shanel: True .. 💯
Latoya: Yes, I was very young. Come to find out I was his side piece. He had another girl pregnant. His father was the one who told me about it. He actually took me to where his son was.
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