Good First Date experiences may seem like a myth, but there are definitely ways to tell if your date is going well. First dates can be awkward because both of you are worrying about so many things – are you making a good first impression, does your date like you, do you look okay, are you talking enough or too much? You wonder if you're boring or entertaining, if your date will want to go out with you again … so how can you assure a good first date? What you need to do is keep an eye out for the signs it's a good first date, and as it happens, I can help you with those!
1. The Date Lasts a While
When you're on a really good first date, you never want it to end. If your date lasts longer than an hour, it's a pretty reliable sign that you're on a good one. Generally, first dates last about an hour and a half – if they're good. If you or your date starts checking the time or getting antsy before the first hour mark, it's probably not going so well.
2. There's a Little Touching
This sign is subtle; just because you're date isn't trying to grope you doesn't mean it's not going well. Rather, if your date touches your arm or your hair, or if you touch his or her knee, and you both seem to feel comfortable, congratulations! That's an excellent sign!
3. The Ending of a Good First Date Lingers
When a date ends super abruptly, with no attempt to linger or make plans to see each other again, it's a dud. However, if both of you are lingering before you leave, you're definitely on track for a good first date. If your date isn't making excuses about having to get home to feed a pet or because of an early morning, you're good to go!
4. The Conversation Flows
Smooth flowing conversation is a sure sign of a wonderful first date. When the conversation is stilted the entire night, it points to more than nerves and first date jitters. When the two of you have no trouble finding things to talk about, though, you're having a successful night.
5. You Talk about the Future
I'm not saying a good first date ends with talk of marriage or something, no way. However, if the two of you find yourselves talking about things you want to do or try together, that's an excellent sign. Odds are, the two of you will be seeing more of each other!
6. Lots of Eye Contact
When your date isn't into you, he or she won't want to keep up direct eye contact. The reverse is true as well, of course. So, if you two look at each other and keep up eye contact while you're having a conversation, you can feel pretty assured that the date is going very well.
7. Total Relaxation
Pay attention to your date's posture. When your date seems rigid and tense, that's always a bad sign. However, if he or she seems relaxed, if his or her posture is lax and cool, then you're very likely having a good first date.
8. A Second Date
Finally, it goes without saying that if you two arrange a second date right then, your first one has been stellar. Typically, if neither of you have had a good time or if you're on the fence, a second date won't come right away. Once that whole future conversation comes to fruition, however, it's the best sign of all.
Not only can you have a good first date, but it's actually surprisingly easy to figure out when you're on a good first date. You just have to pay attention to the signs and, if you aren't seeing them, then you can adjust your behavior accordingly. The best tip for having a good first date is not to sweat it so much; anxiety is as much to blame for bad first dates as bad chemistry. How about you share some details about your best and worst first dates?
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