There may be several suspicious signs he's attracted to you a little too much. You may consider certain gestures from a guy to be endearing and thoughtful. Have you been wondering why you have this eerie feeling that the person you're casually dating seems to come off too strong? Then they may just be obsessed or infatuated with you. The next seven points in this list are clear signs he's attracted to you in a fatal way.
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1. He Rushes You into a Relationship
An eagerness to be loved or in a serious relationship could be one of the first signs he's attracted to you way too seriously. Say for instance you two have dated for two weeks and he's already talking about going steady. This should alarm you immediately, especially if you're not ready for any commitment. Look for anything that relates to senseless ultimatums for your time or attention. You'll be able to detect a desperate person before it gets out of control.
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Being swept off your feet can feel intoxicating, but it's important to remember that genuine connection takes time to build. If he's pressuring you for an exclusive label or pushing for more together time than you're comfortable with, trust your gut. Healthy relationships are based on mutual respect and understanding, not on a stopwatch. Communication is key; don't shy away from expressing your need for a pace that respects both your feelings and your individual lives.
2. He Only Sees You
Does he rarely hang with any of his friends? Does it feel like he's always with you and around you? You may be the only one he sees. Personally, I can't deal with a very clingy guy. So, I usually question the sanity of someone who wants to be under me 24/7. If it's a boyfriend or husband, then that may be a different story—but anyone you're just casually dating should give you your space for the most part.
Frequently asked questions
If a guy is totally in love with you, he'll show it through his actions, not just his words. He'll make time for you, be genuinely interested in your life, and do sweet little things to make you happy.
Some signs include constantly wanting to be around you, showering you with compliments, going out of his way to help or impress you, and getting jealous over the smallest things. It's like you become the center of his universe!
Absolutely! Infatuation is intense and usually short-lived. It's driven by passion and idealization. Love, on the other hand, is deeper and grows over time, involving commitment, understanding, and mutual respect.
Yes, totally. Infatuation can often be confused with love because it's so intense. But it doesn’t usually last and might not have the depth that true love has. It’s important to see if he’s consistent over time.
Give it time and don't rush things. Pay attention to his actions and see if his feelings remain consistent. If it fades, it was probably infatuation. But if he’s still there for you, it might grow into something real.
3. He's Jealous or Possessive
Unnecessary jealousy may be another sign. Maybe you see one of your male colleagues while out on a date and decide to say "hello." If the guy you're dating has an issue with this after you've explained the situation, then he is controlling and insecure. He may even tell you that he's jealous when you talk or hang with certain people. This should be a red flag that this guy clearly wants you for himself and nobody else, which can be fatal.
4. He Can't Handle His Emotions
So, he gets angry easily about the smallest things that involve you. He asks you out one night and you say no, but you give him a good reason why. Yet, he still ends up going off and acting like it's the end of the world. He is obviously fatally attracted to you if he throws temper tantrums over unanswered phone calls or text messages. Another sign is if he says "I love you" without reason or slightly too soon—especially if you're not in a serious relationship.
5. He Knows Personal Information
What's really strange is when a guy knows information about you that you've never shared with him before. Maybe he informs you that he knows what your last job was or what city you lived in before moving. He could be doing research on you without you even knowing it. It can be a turn on to know that a guy takes the time to really pay attention to you as a person, but in most cases, it's just very awkward.
6. He Stalks You
You may see him at random places or events. He may even show up at your office for no particular reason or be waiting for you by your car after you've clocked out of work. If he comes over to your house unannounced or you catch him driving past your house more than once, then this dude is on stalker mode! You may want to be very careful not to look past this fatal attraction sign. Once you've made it clear that you don't like sudden surprises, but they continue to happen, then the guy is clearly off.
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Obsessive behavior is a red flag. Love isn't about impinging on your personal space or peace of mind. It's natural to bump into someone occasionally, but consistent, uninvited appearances are a sign of disrespect for your boundaries. Real love respects your need for space and would never make you feel uncomfortable or unsafe. If his "coincidental" run-ins feel orchestrated and frequent, it's time to trust your gut and set firm boundaries—or even seek help if you feel threatened.
7. He Refuses to Break It off
Well, this sign may definitely reveal his true colors. If you're feeling like things aren't working out and decide to call it off with the guy, he should be able to handle it like a mature adult. However, someone who has fatal attraction may take rejection a little harsh. He may try to persuade you or beg and plead for you not to end things with him. Refusing to respect your wishes is a clear sign that you may be dealing with a mad man.
Whether it's someone you're dating, seeing seriously, or a co-worker who likes you at work, never take any of these indications lightly. Have you been dealing with a guy that seems to be fatally attracted to you? What are some other warning signs you've noticed?
Comments
Cme: This guy came to my he is stalking me like crazy ... But he says he is scared to say that he loves me .... N within two weeks he is already talking about marriage I thought this was normal coz I like straight forward guy 💍
Athirah: Yeah I cut him off and he wasn't even my boyfriend just a guy friend but that sucks cus I lost a friend
Jesike: my crush is always around me he is very protective and gets jealous easily when I hug other guys but he never did the rest of those things yes he knows personal info coz I told him he always stares at me and its obvious coz I sit next to him. yeah he is very touchy b4 summer he brushed my thigh coz I was wearing shorts and slapped my butt playfully and he laughed with his friends and said '' Jesike got a bubble butt '' I was so embarrassed also he has loads of crushed am mixed so I don't get why he might lie me coz Ashley the prettiest girl in my grade likes him there were once rumors about him fussing over me when I was sick no 1 I get his my friend but he was like according to my Cami (my bff ) where's J she's never missed school hope she's okay lord pls let her be okay the next week he ran up to me and hugged me and said I missed you I have a party on Saturday its Wednesday and I really want to tell him but I cant I want to know if he likes me or his just being off and on or trying to confuse my emotions HELP ME PLSSSSSSSS
kendall: I "went out" with a guy like this and ABORT MISSION! These traits are controlling and just straight up annoying as heck!
Ongit: #2 not nothing but married
TheMisshoney69: My ex drove his car into my front door when I ended it !! Then made death threats , then kept leaving presents and sitting outside my house .. Scared me to death. I noticed a problem when he became jealous of even my female friends so I ended it and that's how he reacted !
montanagirly: My EX-best guy friend did all of these and it irritated me to the point where we are no longer friends
PringlesAreGood: About #5: that's so true. My boyfriend recently told me he remembers what I was wearing a year and a half ago when we first met. I thought it was the sweetest thing
Jessel: My boyfriend did 6/7 of these.
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