7 Signs You Are Using Sex as a Weapon ...

By Heather

Because we are women, we might not know the signs you are using sex as a weapon. When you think about it, the signs you are using sex as a weapon aren't as apparent to girls as they are to guys. If you think you might be using sex, you might want to take a look at my top 7 signs you are using sex as a weapon!

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You Withhold Sex if You Don't Get What You Want

You've been dating a guy for a while now and you want him to start buying you more flowers. Let's say you tel him that you won't have sex with him until you see an improvement in his flower giving. Ladies, that's a sign you are using sex as a weapon! Just because you don't get what you want doesn't mean that you should withhold sex from your man!


It is not uncommon for couples to face disagreements, especially when it comes to expressing love and affection. One way that some people try to get their partner to do something they want is by withholding sex. This is a form of manipulation and can be damaging to the relationship.

Using sex as a weapon is a sign of an unhealthy relationship. It can create a power imbalance in the relationship, with one partner feeling like they are always on the losing end. It can also cause resentment and can lead to feelings of insecurity, guilt, and shame.

Sex should be an expression of mutual love and respect, not a means of getting what you want. If you feel like your partner is using sex as a weapon, it’s important to talk about it and find a way to work through the issue together.

It’s also important to remember that sex isn’t the only way to show love and affection. You can express your love in other ways, such as through physical affection, gifts, quality time, or words of affirmation.


You Withhold Sex Because You're Mad

The same goes for being mad. Makeup sex is actually pretty incredible and if you are having a fight and you are still mad, you might not want to withhold sex, you might want to unleash that anger on him in sex!


Using sex as a weapon is a common tactic in relationships, and withholding sex when you are mad is a telltale sign that it is happening. This can be damaging to your relationship, as it can lead to feelings of resentment and hurt. If you are withholding sex as a way of punishing your partner, it is important to talk through the issues and find a healthier way to express your anger. If you are both willing to work on the problem, you can use this as an opportunity to explore the power of makeup sex and use it to strengthen your relationship.


You Are Overly Sexy in Public

Teasing and PDA is not all that bad, but when you are overly sexy in public, that can actually be one of the signs you are using sex as a weapon. You never want to be too sexy in public, but there are subtle ways you can be sexy. A run of your fingertips down his arm or just brushing your fingers through his hair, those are subtle. There is no need to straddle him in public.


Using sex as a weapon is a manipulative tactic that can be used in relationships to gain control. It is often used to gain power or to manipulate a partner into doing something they don’t want to do. This can be done in a variety of ways, from withholding sex to using seduction as a way to manipulate.

One of the signs that someone is using sex as a weapon is when they are overly sexy in public. This can be anything from wearing revealing clothing to making suggestive comments. This behavior is often done to make the other person jealous or to make them feel inadequate. It can also be done as a way to get attention or to make the other person feel uncomfortable.

Another sign that someone is using sex as a weapon is when they are withholding sex. This can be done as a form of punishment or to make the other person do something they don't want to do. This can be done in a variety of ways, such as refusing to have sex or not initiating sex.

Other signs that someone is using sex as a weapon include using seduction as a way to manipulate or control the other person. This can be done by flirting with other people or by making suggestive comments or gestures.


You Tease Too Much

Teasing again, is perfectly fine when you are in private, but if you are going to tease a guy a lot, you want to make sure that you are following through with it. After all, you don't want to be seen as a tease and that's all you are. If you are teasing a guy to the point of almost having an orgasm and not giving him that release, that is one of the signs you are using sex as a weapon. Don't do that ladies!


Too Many Sexual Comments

This goes right along with being overly sexy in public. If you are constantly making sexual comments and again, not having any follow through or not even attempting to fulfill any of the promises you are making to your guy through these comments, that is definitely one of the signs you are using sex as a weapon.

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Denying Sex out of Spite

Oh, this one is one that so many women do. Just because the guy said something you didn't like or didn't take your side on something that he believes in doesn't mean you have to withhold sex. Why not take it out first? Ask him why he didn't take your side? That way, you can see if you can work it out instead of you just denying him sex out of spite.


Being Passive Aggressive

Finally ladies, did you know that we are actually the queens of being passive aggressive when we are mad or upset? This is actually one of the greatest signs you are using sex as a weapon – you are being passive aggressive about it. You don't want to give your guy sex until he does exactly what you want. That's not the way to do it!

These are just some of the signs you are using sex as a weapon. Ladies, we don't want to do that. We love our men and even though we get mad, you don't want to deny him sex just because you can. We hold a lot of the power remember. So ladies, what other signs you are using sex as a weapon have you seen or done in the past?

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How do I get my boy friend to have sex with me

And since when where did the expectation of sex go beyond serious long term relationships and marriage?

This actually confirms my suspicion that sex as a weapon isn't something that actually happens.

Lundy Bancroft describes men who want sex after a fight or verbal abuse or telling off a woman as using this to secure access to the woman's body and power over her.

Finally "tease" is usually a justification for date rape. A woman doesn't owe a man sex his because he is aroused.

When woman has sex, especially if she orgasms, it releases oxytocin the bonding hormone. Bonding with someone who has done something to make you angry, where you have unresolved issues, and maybe cannot be sure of how trustworthy the man is, is dangerous.

Desire, such as after the birth of a baby.

Say a woman should not withhold sex because she not getting what she wants in a relationship is a very clear black and white way of saying a woman cannot say no, or have sexual boundaries in a relationship.

My wife has been doing all of the above for nearly our entire marriage. She is terrible about holding grudges, and her first instinct whenever she feels confronted, however gently, is to go on the attack. Believe me, she get's extremely passive-aggressive and will get aggressive later and start gaslighting. It always comes down to something I did, or didn't do. Sometimes, I've even been spited over something she dreamed I did. Leaving is not an option, and to be honest, having an affair won't help either, besides, with all that's been going on, I feel as sexy as a flaming bag of dog poo. She also gets very territorial in public, but once we're alone, that changes quite a bit. Yes, I've tried doing chores, and to take the load off of her. I work full time and she is stay at home and has been for 3 decades. Yes, I've tried seducing, but that usually backfires, and results in her rolling her eyes and looking like she'd rather be having a root canal. I can't ever win, and I'm tired. Tired of breaking my back to get her to actually show some kind of real desire like she used to. Maybe I'm such a terrible person that has ruined everything. If only she'd open up without having some kind of tantrum and pouting for days, then I ultimately end up paying for it later. Whew, Ok, that helped getting it out of my system. I have no one to talk to.