With the arrival of spring is the desire to clean and renew things in our life. Your relationship shouldn’t be left out of that. Relationships can be neglected from regular maintenance. Spring is the perfect time to give your relationship the time and attention it needs. These’re 7 ways to spring clean your relationship.
1. Let Bygones Be Bygones
Are you holding onto any kind of grudge or hard feelings against your partner? It’s easy to do. When you spring clean your relationship this should be the first thing to go. Purpose to let go of your anger and resentment against your partner for things that happened in the past. It’s as much of a gift to you as it is to your partner.
2. Ask Your Partner What’s Important to Him
From time to time it’s good to check in with your partner. Ask him how he feels about your relationship. Ask him if he feels like his needs are getting met and what’s important to him. It’s good to get this insight. Another plus to this is that many times your partner will ask you the same questions in return.
3. Commit to Kindness
Many times the person that we should treat the best doesn’t receive that treatment. We fall into the trap of believing that they’ll put up with our crabbiness because they love us. While that’s usually true, it isn’t a good practice. Make a commitment to treat your partner with kindness. After all, they mean the most to you so they should receive your best.
4. Make Amends for past Hurts
Just like you should get rid of all the feelings of hurt you’ve been carrying from past arguments, your partner should, too. While you can’t control what they do and don’t hold onto, you can help them to let go of their past hurts by following this tip. Ask them if there’s anything you’ve done that he’s still hurting over. If so, ask if there’s anything you can do to help him move past that. Many times, the fact that you care enough to ask will help him to let go of whatever he’s holding onto.
5. Start New Traditions
Spring is a great time to start new traditions in your relationship. If things have felt boring or stale for awhile then this is the perfect time to add in new traditions. Maybe you want to have more picnics at your favorite park or make it a goal to vacation seaside each summer. Talk to your partner and see what his input is on this. He may have some good ideas, too.
6. Add Excitement to Date Night
Date night doesn’t have to be boring. Don’t allow yourself to get sucked into the same old pattern of dinner and movie or whatever you do the most often. While dinner and a movie can be nice, don’t be afraid to branch out. Try new things and enjoy new experiences together. You’ll be amazed at the fun you’ll have.
7. Count Your Blessings
Many times, you can get too focused on the problems in your relationship. It’s an easy enough trap to fall into. But it can have very negative consequences. It makes you feel sad and even hopeless about your relationship. Don’t allow that to happen to you. Kick that attitude to the side and make it a goal to focus on all the positives in your relationship.
These’re 7 things to consider when you spring clean your relationship. Which ones do you plan to do? I’d love to hear from you!