7 Things to Always Ask Your BF for Permission to do ...

7 Things to Always Ask Your BF for Permission to do ...
By Holly • Sep 22, 2023 MD

You don't have to ask your boyfriend for permission for every little thing, like if you're allowed to hang out with your friends or eat ice cream for dinner. After all, he's your boyfriend, not your boss. He's not meant to order you around. You two should consider each other equal partners, but there are still certain things that you should actually ask your boyfriend for permission for. Here are a few of them:

1. To Hang out with an Ex

While you don't have to ask your boyfriend for permission to hang out with most of your friends, you probably should consult him if you're planning on hanging out with an ex. After all, you don't want to make him uncomfortable. It's best to have a quick chat with him to see if he's okay with the idea of you seeing a man from your past.

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2. To Throw Away His Stuff

When it's time for spring cleaning, you shouldn't toss out your boyfriend's items without asking him for permission first. Even though you hate his camouflage shorts, they might have sentimental value to him. Keep all of his iffy items in a pile and ask him to go through them before you throw them in the trash can.

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3. To Have Friends over

If you two live together, you should ask him for permission to have friends over the house. After all, you wouldn't like it if he brought a group of buddies over on a night you were planning on relaxing in the living room alone. If he's not in the mood for company, then you can always go out on the town with your gal pals instead.

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4. To Make Plans for Him

Once you two have been together for a while, you become a packaged deal. However, if your friends invite you to a party over the weekend, don't give them a definite yes before asking your boyfriend if he wants to go. You don't want to force him into a situation he's uncomfortable with.

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5. To Get a Pet

If you two live together, you shouldn't make any big moves, like getting a pet, without consulting him first. It's a huge responsibility to add an animal to the household. If he doesn't want to help you take care of it, then you could have a major problem on your hands.

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6. To Wear His Clothes

Your boyfriend probably won't care if you wear his shirts without consulting him first, but you should still do him the courtesy of asking. You wouldn't want your friend or roommate to take your clothes without asking first, would you? Live by the golden rule and don't do anything to your boyfriend that you wouldn't want someone doing to you.

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7. To Go through His Phone

Everyone deserves to have their privacy, even when they're in a relationship. While it's fine to pick up his phone to play the games on it, you should hesitate to go through his text messages and emails. If you trust him, then what's the point of invading his privacy, anyway? If you really want to read through his messages, ask him for permission first.

Even though your boyfriend would probably let you do as you wish, there's no harm in asking him for permission before you do certain things. It'll show him that you respect his opinion. Do you ever ask your boyfriend for permission before you do these things?

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  • Parislolarose

    2015-09-14T04:02:54.087Z

    I believe in the saying "You'll find what you're looking for" but I still don't understand why you two need privacy if there is nothing to hide... But I'm still young and still have a lot of learning to do. I've been a relationship for 3 years and won't pick up his phone unless he asks me to. And I agree with J your boyfriend should break up with if going ask permission to hang out with your Ex. Leave your past I'm the past if you're in a new relationship!
  • DeadOnStyle

    2017-10-25T21:19:44.945Z

    Ok, are you seriously saying permission? you’re using that term? Wow! even writing this in that context makes it sound like emotional abuse/controlling relationships are ok, and it’s not EITHER WAY. It’s called mutual respect. Perhaps rename it?
  • Lizbl

    2016-10-15T04:19:54.490Z

    What??? By taking my ex's phone to check time, I saw a message with hearts... Then found much more!!! Then unfolded many hidden lies etc. saved myself a lot of heartache. I recommend open relationships where you have access to devices
  • DeadOnStyle

    2017-10-25T21:31:10.033Z

    Oh & people who DONT Agree the concept OF THE ARTICLE IS NOT WHAT we Are totally offended by but more the THE precursor, the TITLE, ya know.... what makes you click?
  • Brin

    2016-10-14T06:12:07.611Z

    What if is stuff from his ex that you find
  • Isabella

    2015-09-14T09:30:56.155Z

    Communication is key, that's how I roll. No problem with looking at his phone, and haven't got any exes but my man has no problem with me hanging out with my male friends!
  • Kerzel

    2016-10-15T22:29:06.073Z

    Thank god there are like minded people in this chat who got offended by this.
  • Jennifer

    2015-09-14T05:24:24.965Z

    I've been married for 20 years and I'm not one to "ask" for "permission" discussion is what we do and nothing can be good about hanging out with an ex
  • sm94

    2015-09-14T03:48:02.321Z

    I agree with Caro! I wouldn't "ask for permission" so much as I would discuss and if need be, compromise with my partner. And why would you need to go through your partner's phone? :)
  • Anny

    2016-10-15T02:34:30.624Z

    Permission To buy a pet?
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