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5 Tips for Better Communication in Relationships ...

By Tammy

Every girl needs tips for better communication in your relationship. Do you ever find yourself talking to your man, and it seems like he cannot even hear you? Or he is in auto pilot mode with repetitive um-hmms? As women this infuriates us because we are communicators, and there's nothing more aggravating than trying to communicate and having it all seem so one-sided. It's no big secret that men and women's brains are wired differently, women use communication to help sort out own thoughts and emotions, as well as face problems head on, and it helps us to feel emotionally bonded to our partner. When it comes to much needed talks with our significant other, sometimes being tactful is the key to opening a dialog. Use these five tips for better communication in your relationship and you will have him talking and listening in no time.

1 Keep the Conversation Interesting

In most instances there is one phrase that can scare a grown man worse than anything, "we need to talk". He thinks, oh no here comes a list of what I did wrong, or he is thinking, time for the dull bus to boredom town. This is where tact comes in, think about his interest, start out by talking about things he likes and draw him into the conversation. Before you know it, the conversation is flowing, and this will open the door for you to talk freely about what is on your mind while offering him the same. This is one of my best tips for better communication in your relationship.

2 Pillow Talk

At the end of the day once the kids are asleep and the house is quiet, right before bed is a fantastic time to talk to your partner. I don’t recommend using this time for talking about problems, but rather use this time to connect as a couple. Joke with one another, relax together, even reminisce about the special times you have had together. Pillow talk helps to fortify your bond as a couple. Wither you live together or not, pillow talk is always on the table. If you and your partner do not sleep in the same bed, you can always call them for that late-night conversation.

3 Give Him His Space

When you're going through a rough patch and communication is needed, sometimes the best thing that can possibly be done is to just give him his space to relax, and if fighting, space to cool down. I know that this can be hard to do, but space offers a chance to collect one's thoughts, and recharge to help figure a solution to the problem.

4 Uninterrupted Talk

One of the best times to talk is the rare moments in the day free of distractions, like at dinner. There are no video games or television, and a little dinner conversation can go a long way. This time can be used in a variety of ways to help aid communication. Use candles and wine to add romance for a nice evening of talking, or it would be a good time to discuss your day or even household finances.

5 Don't Bombard Him

This is something most of us ladies are guilty of. He gets off work, we are upset about something, and no later than his foot crosses the doorway, we are on him. This can be very damaging to relationships, and tends to push our partner away. Little by little this type of behavior can kill communication completely between you and your partner, and often times leads to break ups. Always pick the right moment for talking when you are upset.

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