7 Tips to Get over a Guy You Can't Be with ...

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7 Tips to Get over a Guy You Can't Be with ...
7 Tips to Get over a Guy You Can't Be with ...

We’ve all been in a situation where we can’t be with the guy we like and instead go in search for tips to get over a guy. It’s not always the least painful process, but that doesn’t mean that it can’t be a relatively quick process! Whether you’re simply reminiscing on the agonizing days of trying to get over a guy you can’t be with, or are currently in the situation and looking for tips to get over a guy, I assure you that something on this list will resonate with you.

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Acknowledge and Accept Why You Can’t Be with Him

This is one of the first steps to truly getting over a guy you can’t be with, and one of the most important tips to get over a guy. Acknowledge why you can’t be with him. Maybe he’s in a relationship. Maybe he’s completely shut you out. There are a nearly infinite amount of reasons why you can’t be with the person you want to be with. Acknowledge and accept your reason, and moving on will be worlds easier.

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Understanding the reality of your situation is a critical step towards emotional freedom. It involves a difficult, yet necessary, process of self-reflection and emotional reckoning. Confront the truth of the circumstances with courage. If he has made it clear that a future together isn't possible, respecting his decision and focusing on your own well-being is essential. Remember, acceptance is not about giving up, but rather about opening the door to new possibilities for happiness and love that are better aligned with your life's path.

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Try Something New

It sounds cliché, but take up a hobby. I’ve personally found that the hobbies I enjoy the most are hobbies that I loved as a kid. I loved to read as a kid, and I’ve recently rediscovered that I still love it. If you loved to paint growing up, try painting again. Maybe you played an instrument really well while you were growing up, try it out again. Whether it’s a new hobby or a recently remembered hobby, finding something to do will help get your mind off of the guy you can’t be with.

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Stop Talking to Him

Cut him out of your life as best as you can. Don’t text or call him, and if he texts or calls you, be polite, but don’t go out of your way to be overly friendly. You need space to heal yourself. Many people often argue that you have mutual friends and it’s nearly impossible to avoid him. If that’s the case, try to avoid some events you know he’ll be at, and don’t spend a substantial amount of time focused on him at the events you do both end up at. Eventually, as your feelings start to dissipate, you’ll notice that it’s easier and easier to hang out with him and you won’t have to cancel so many plans!

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Additionally, when you are ready to interact in social settings, maintain healthy boundaries. Remember, putting yourself first is crucial during this healing period. It may be tempting to slip into old patterns of behavior around him, but keep interactions brief and stay focused on your well-being. Surround yourself with supportive friends who understand your journey. Over time, you might find that the distance you've created can evolve into a comfortable space, allowing you to redefine your relationship with him in a way that's detached from any romantic feelings.

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Let Yourself Be Upset

It’s okay to mourn your relationship, even if it may not have ever been a real relationship. Give yourself some time to “grieve.” It will completely streamline the entire process of getting over him. A lot of times, people try to bottle up their feelings when they’re trying to get over a guy. Whether you prefer to be upset in the company of your friends or on your lonesome, make some time for yourself to be upset over the end of a relationship with someone who was important to you.

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Put Your Feelings to Good Use

Try to do something constructive with your feelings. If you’re a writer, write about what’s going on, whether in the situation or simply what you’re feeling. If you’re a songwriter, try to get a few good songs out of the experience. No matter what your passion is, you can probably find something constructive to get out of what may currently feel like a horrible situation.

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Stop Creeping

It’s not always easy to stop creeping via the internet on the guy you can’t be with, but it’s necessary. Whether you decide to stop cold turkey or you just gradually find yourself checking up on him less and less, it is necessary for you to stop internet creeping to get over him. If you’re still searching for his Facebook and Twitter accounts everyday, you’re not over him. If you need to, you can even hide from your Facebook newsfeed. If you need an extra boost of motivation to quit, just know that Facebook keeps a log of every person you search for. It’s only visible to you, but finding that log is not always a pretty sight, and can easily get you to stop web stalking the guy you can’t be with.

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Breaking the habit of cyber-stalking is a liberation. Consider blocking or unfollowing him; out of sight means out of mind. Remember that every minute spent revisiting his profile is a minute not spent on your own growth and happiness. Engage in activities that uplift you and remember, healing is a journey. It's okay to slip up, just make sure to redirect your energy towards your own wellbeing each time. Self-love and respect grow when you consciously choose to focus on what is truly beneficial for you in the long run.

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Find Someone New

It sounds so ridiculous and stupid, but sometimes you just have to find someone new. Whether it’s something as simple as an unattainable celebrity crush, or someone new asks you out, sometimes all it takes to move on is having someone new in your life. There may even be someone who’s been under your nose this whole time who you’ve never noticed!

Have you ever been in a situation where you’ve had to get over someone because you couldn’t be with him? How did you get over him? Which of these tips did you use? Let me know in the comments!

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I still really like this guy I know, but it's proving hard to get over him. I can't shut him out, he still talks to me sometimes. I know he's not interested in me tho, he's made that pretty clear... Advice is definitely needed here.

i really like this guy but hes dating my best friend its good to know that ive already been doing 6 out of the7 tips thanks for the advice

@sonia, I can't either

Check what's on his mind before you let him in... I can say this because I've assumed many a times and never heard my intuition and believed that it'll all be ok... But it can never be - he will shut you down, and you may need this blog again. Thanks for writing.

So I Usted to like this one married dude but the thing is that he is married .... And I guess we likes me to we have been doing shit ! But we still haven't had sex and I think it's more then like ... I just can't stop thinking about him and it's driving me crazy what should I do !!! He tells me that he likes me and that he can't stop thinking about me one day he told me what if we get married ..how do I get over him help !!!

It's just happens to me. We are living in the different countries and now he met the new girl in the same office. All I can do is happy for him and accept that I'm far apart. What should I do next? Stay friends or stop contact to him?

I've experienced this before. I still check his friend's facebook account to check if they have new photos or what. It almost a love story and I'm still mourning about the past. :(

@Abigail Jaiyeola, not a very kind or well thought out reply...there is many instances where it has been earned but the loving relationship still isn't given...

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