7 Ways to Get over Your First Love ...


Finding ways to get over your first love can be difficult. They say no matter how it ends, a woman never forgets her first love. The best thing to do is follow your heart. There is no love like your first, so give yourself time and fate will soon take it’s course. If you’re having trouble finding your way, here are 7 ways to get over your first love.

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Take Time to Cry

When finding ways to get over your first love, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with crying. In fact, it’s only natural. Bottling up your emotions wont be good later, so letting it all out as much as possible now is most effective. Whether it’s crying alone in your room or to a close friend, in the end, you’re guaranteed to feel much better. Crying will help release any sadness, anger, or confusion you might have.


Vent to a Friend

As weak as you feel right now, letting it all out is one of the best options. Talking to a close friend or family member about your first love will most definitely help you feel better. Having a friend by your side at an emotional time like this is what you need the most. Knowing someone will take your pain and carry it along with them should make you feel more confident and give you faith that things will get better.


Dispose of All Evidence

When I say dispose of all evidence, I mean it. Having reminders scattered around about your first love will never help you get over them. Go through all of the letters he gave you, sweaters he’s lent you, gifts he’s gotten you, and get rid of them all. Also, don’t forget to delete all text messages and pictures you have saved on your phone. This may be hard, but eventually you’ll forget about these things and move on.


Cut off Communications

When trying to get over your first love, a common question that always arises eventually is "Should I call him?" No, you shouldn’t. You’re only setting yourself up for disappointment in the end. If need be, he’ll call you. Delete his number. Delete all of his voice mails, text messages and past phone calls. Any evidence that he has ever called you should be gone. You may be at the point where you’re just itching to call him however, doing so will only make you feel worse, and getting over him will be much harder. If it’s meant to be, he’ll call you first. Meanwhile, forget he ever existed.


Take It as a Lesson

This was your first love and I assume your first heartbreak. Turn the pain into a lesson. Take time to look back and reflect on the things you’ve done wrong/right. Learn from your mistakes, and even learn from his. Think about what you two could’ve done better to keep the relationship going. Keep these things in mind next time and eventually things will get easier and true love will fall into place naturally.


Focus on Yourself

After a breakup, focusing on simple every day tasks can be tough. Although you’ve taken plenty of time to sulk in sadness, you can still pick yourself right back up. Now that you’re alone, take some time to focus on yourself, and what you want to do. It’s all about you now. Strive for something you’ve been wanting for a while, or try doing something you’ve always wanted to do. It’s your chance to shine.


Remember, This Isn’t the End

This isn’t your last love, or even your last heartbreak. There are plenty of guys in the world who you’ll fall in love with, and many who you’ll even fall out of love with. There are plenty of people whose paths you just haven’t even come close to crossing yet. Don’t lose hope. One guy should not be responsible for controlling all of your emotions for the rest of your life. One day, you’ll meet the one guy who made you realize why it never worked with anyone else. You just need to be patient.

Getting over a first love is one of the hardest things a girl can do. There are plenty of more ways to get over your first love then the 7 I’ve listed above. Can you think of any more? What did you do to get over your first love? The most important thing to keep in mind is to keep your head held high. Love yourself before anyone else.

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I hate thinking about my first love and the good memories we had😔 We were on and off and the last time we dated lasted a year and a half. Most of my friends didn't like him and they would tell me I could do a lot better but I didn't listen to them, I kept telling them he's a good guy but later he cheated on me with a girl that has a kid. He would tell me it was my fault he cheated and I kept believing that it was😞 I got over him by going to the gym a lot and thinking how gross he was and then two months ago I apologized to him about being bi polar when we were together and then we were talking like friends and he made me think that he missed me and he came by my place and we hooked up:/ biggest mistake😣 I felt like he used me big time and I was naive once again😒

In all honesty, cutting off all ties may not be the best advice. Refraining from contacting him or her initially is a good idea so that things have time to cool down, but to burn that bridge may not be as healthy as you think.

The only way is by ring lucky of having another true love

It took me 3 years to get over my first love completely as we still saw each other regularly (university) but now I'm free and able to love the new man in my life. It's really important to learn how to love yourself and not dwell on lost love and emerge yourself in your career n friendships

Cutting all ties is so important. One look or listen to my ex's voice brings back floods of emotions. It makes it harder to let go

so that nothing will remind me of him,then I stick to my friends.hangout bla bla bla

Wanda I agree you will never be able to move on with you life if you are still holding on to an ex . It's healthier.

Taking time to grieve, cutting ties, finding time to be alone, going for more workouts and allowing family or closed friends to give you support, love and encouragement. Most importantly be kind to your heart and yourself. Know that you will one day look back and just smile at all the good memories.

I believe it is important to cut all ties. It's one of the hardest things to do but it shows one is taking the initiative in moving on. They're building strength along the way. Any form of ties with that person will further elongate aspects of the relationship you have to leave behind in order to move on, otherwise you're just trying to hold on. A lot of us make this mistake wishing we had let go sooner, but it's all a lesson nonetheless. Live and learn

Wow... I would absolutely love to just cut all ties and get on with my life! More than anything. But I feel like I'm going to be the one losing out even though he betrayed me so badly and disrespected me, and never prioritized me the way I did to him. I wish I could say this is normal.. But I don't even know what to think lately.. He comes to me with the 'it's Gods will' but I still want to be your friend and maybe we will cross paths again.. I just cannot understand! help!!

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