As someone currently navigating the quirky dating waters of 2024, spotting a womanizer can feel like finding a needle in a haystack. But fear not! By the end of this read, you'll be a detective in identifying those red flags faster than you can say, "Check, please!"
Now, speaking from some college-educated wisdom—and more than a few espresso-fueled late-night conversations—let's dive into the world of these elusive charmers. I had this ex-boyfriend once, let’s call him Chad. Chad was the epitome of a womanizer. Charming, attentive, and always ready with a grand gesture...until he wasn't. So trust me, I know a thing or two about the constant texting and unfathomable excuses that come with this territory.
First thing's first: flattery. Yes, it's always nice to be complimented, but when it’s a constant stream of impeccable praise, your radar should be buzzing. You might wonder, "Is this for real?" I remember Chad telling me more times than I can count that I had the most amazing smile—and believe me, my smile's alright, but not that mesmerizing!
Next up, be wary of his inability to commit. A true womanizer will dodge serious commitment like it's the plague. He’ll use spectacularly vague phrases like, "I'm just enjoying life right now," or "I need to find myself," which are really just euphemisms for, "I'm keeping my options open." True story: Chad perpetually had "work trips" that coincidentally aligned with major relationship milestones (birthday, anyone?).
Here's a telltale sign: His phone is more protected than Fort Knox. If he often retreats to the bathroom with his phone or flips it over when you're nearby, red flag alert! My experience with Chad? Let's just say I had to make peace with the fact that his phone was viewed more frequently than I was.
In addition to being evasive, a womanizer often leads a disappearing act. One minute, he's all about YOU, and the next, he's vanished into thin air, claiming some elaborate mission. Remember flaky excuses? They come attached with personalized disappearing acts. Trust me, I've seen Chad's magical vanishing tricks enough to star in "Now You See Me."
So, as we further explore the 13 warning signs that can help you identify a womanizer, brace yourself for some relationship epiphanies. We'll delve into everything from his overactive social life to his suspicious behavior post-midnight, giving you the superhero ability to spot these signs upfront. This year of 2024, let’s not let the charm blind us—stay sharp, laugh a lot, and keep a microscope handy for those too-good-to-be-true moments. Ready to embark on this journey together? Let’s do it!
One of the easiest signs he's a womanizer is the way he picks you up. The guy you deserve is someone who is sincere and humble when he talks to you. Shyness is endearing when it comes to guys because it gives a woman a sense of confidence. The womanizer is the alpha male who name drops everyone he knows, talks about the car he drives, and says the sleaziest pick up lines you can think of, such as "I'm going to make your night, pretty lady." An abundance of jewelry around his neck and bright peacock clothing are major signs that you need to take off!
In contrast, a genuine man often displays authenticity in his approach. He genuinely wants to learn about who you are, rather than impress with superficial boasts. He might share a funny anecdote to break the ice or ask you insightful questions, showing a deep interest in your thoughts and experiences. A womanizer, on the other hand, often ignores the subtleties of a real connection. His focus is to charm and disarm, using well-rehearsed lines that feel more like a performance than an interaction. His eyes constantly on the move, he may even get distracted by other potential conquests, proving that his initial attention was never truly yours to begin with.
Girls, we have all dated that guy who makes promises he never fulfills, right? The one who tells you he likes you, wants to introduce you to his family, and promises to take you out to all these places, but none of that really seems to come to fruition. This is a major sign he is a womanizer. If he isn't taking his time out for you, he either is spending it with someone else or is just not that interested. Find yourself someone who jumps at the chance to be with you!
In my opinion, this is the number one warning sign he is a womanizer. When you aren't receiving phone calls, texts, or emails anytime before ten at night, he only has one thing on his mind. A guy who wants to be with you will make it clear to you, and by that I mean he will ask you to go on a hike, or a lunch date, or send you a smiley face asking about your day. A womanizer asks you where you are at, and if you want to "hang out." Don't take that text, because he is interested in more than what it says. Any plan after the sun is down that wasn't made previously is the easiest way to tell if you are dealing with the typical womanizer.
Yes ladies, we all love to hear how funny, beautiful, and amazing we are, but we also know if a guy overdoes it then it becomes a bit sketchy. When a guy looks deep into your eyes and sincerely tells you he cares about you and that you are beautiful, it's a weak in the knees moment. But I want you to think of the rule, "a guy will say what he needs to say to get into your pants." The moment the guy highlights every aspect of your appearance and personality more than 5 times in a conversation, it's a top sign he is a womanizer.
This is one of the most common loser moves a guy can pull on a girl. They make us fall for them, and then we spend a night with them, and next thing you know he disappears, never to be heard from again. The best thing to do is stop wasting your energy thinking about it and move on. He clearly wanted one thing from you, and it's a waste he didn't see what he's missing.
If a guy can't pick up the phone to check in after getting intimate, he's showing his indifference to your feelings. It's a classic hallmark of a womanizer to ignore a woman after getting what he wants. Remember, you deserve someone who values you for more than just a physical connection. His silence speaks volumes about his lack of respect and intention. Hold your head high and recognize that his behavior isn't a reflection of your worth, but rather his lack of character. Don't let his callousness dull your sparkle.
I am sad to admit it but the time I spend on my computer is used to listen to music, check my email, and mainly stare at social media sites. When a guy I'm dating is friends with me online, I check to see what his photos and wall look like. If there are a bunch of girls commenting, saying things like, "I had so much fun with you last night, we need to do it again!" then it's a huge red flag. When he is responding to them or asking them to hang out, it's a double red flag. This shows he really isn't interested in me, he is just interested in hanging with the girl population.
Continuing to snoop on his social accounts gives me insight into who he is outside of our time together – and not always in a good way. If every selfie he posts is swarmed with flirty comments and he's quick to like and reply with winky faces or suggestive emojis, that's my cue that he's spreading his attention far too thin for comfort. It's not just paranoia speaking – observing how someone conducts themselves virtually can be very telling about their real-life intentions and relationship ethics.
Some guys who don't want to be in a relationship are either afraid of commitment or don't want to be tied down. In both cases they enjoy flirting, dating, and leading many women on. When you're getting to know a guy that you are interested in, find out his past history on relationships. If he has been single for a few years, or tells you he isn't looking for anything serious, that is a sign he is a womanizer. However, if he has a history of relationships lasting from 6 months or more, go for it, girls. That one is definitely an available option.
guys who don't want to be in a relationship are either afraid of commitment or don't want to be tied down. In both cases they enjoy flirting, dating, and leading many women on. When you're getting to know a guy that you are interested in, find out his past history on relationships. If he has been single for a few years, or tells you he isn't looking for anything serious, that is a sign he is a womanizer. However, if he has a history of relationships lasting from 6 months or more, go for it, girls. That one is definitely an available option.
It's crucial to be cautious, as guys who have long stints of being single might be used to a carefree lifestyle and find it challenging to transition into a committed relationship. Look out for patterns in their past like short, frequent flings. Their behavior often speaks volumes about their intentions. If his past is filled with brief encounters rather than meaningful relationships, it might be time to reconsider. Being aware of his history can save you from heartache.
Of course we all know it is human nature for men to check out women. The wandering eye is okay as long as it doesn't wander away too long. However, if you are out with a man and he is paying more attention to the other women in the room than he is to you, that's a major warning sign. When a guy you are with goes over and flirts with girls in front of you, or has a conversation with them longer than yours was, it's time to let this loser go. He isn't interested in being tied down, he is interested in playing the field. Make sure you are the number one priority for any guy you are with.
Being a natural charmer doesn't excuse disrespectful behavior. If his lighthearted banter and compliments are not exclusive to you when you're supposed to be the center of his attention, it's not just playful—it's problematic. A real connection is about valuing the person you're with, not scanning the room for the next best thing. If he's not giving you the respect and focus you deserve, chances are, he's not the one. You deserve someone who sees and appreciates you, not someone whose eyes are constantly roving.
Guys who can always be found at the local bar or dance club, and rarely ever miss a weekend or weeknight without going to one, are most likely womanizers. They hang out at these places because they're not looking for anything intimate. They prefer to be in jumping social spots with lots of women. They like to be exposed to multiple women at one time, where dancing and drinking likely occur and they can indulge in it all.
If your guy is always apologizing for not calling you or seeing you, this isn't normal, girls. He's apologizing because he is trying to prevent an argument and to keep you catching him in the act. He's also trying to soften your guard by making you feel bad that he's having to apologize. If he's always apologizing and never changing, take your sign!
Does your guy call you "baby," "sweetheart," and "gorgeous," instead of using your name? If you haven't been dating him long, he's probably a womanizer. Many men do this not only to make women swoon, but also to make them feel more wanted or to seem more personal. In reality, he does this because these names are easier to remember than the individual names of the long list of girls he's been talking to.
This tactic also serves a more manipulative purpose: it's a way to dodge the risk of calling someone by the wrong name. It's particularly telling if he slips up and mixes these terms of endearment with other folks when you're around—proof that these placeholders are not unique to you. Moreover, pay attention to how he addresses other women. If it turns out he has a 'special' nickname for every lady in his phonebook, it's not just a quirky habit—it's a red flag waving in your face, urging you to reassess his intentions.
If he holds you back from meeting his family, it could be because he's a womanizer. This isn't always the case, but if a guy doesn't want you in his personal life or want his family to know you just yet, there might be a reason.
This is one trait I truly hate in men. It's not only disrespectful, but such a sign he's a womanizer! Don't let your guy do this in front of you. Confront him about it, and ask him why he feels the need to fill all your conversations with crude remarks about sex and women.
All in all, the man described above doesn't sound like anyone you would want to be with, so why even waste your time dealing with it? Save yourself the energy, and stay clear of that guy before he takes up any of your precious time. All you need to remember are these 13 warning signs he's a womanizer and before you know it, you'll land yourself a good hearted stud instead. How many experiences have you had dealing with a womanizer?