13 Ways to Tell if a Guy is Sending Mixed Signals ...

13 Ways to Tell if a Guy is Sending Mixed Signals ...
By Heather • Aug 24, 2023 MD

Guys are the masters at sending mixed signals, aren't they? They say that women are bad, but when a guy is sending mixed signals it can last so much longer! So ladies, I've got the break down of all of the different ways you can tell if a guy is sending mixed signals to you!

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1. Mood Swings

Mood swings are absolutely one of the top ways you can tell if a guy is sending mixed signals. He is happy one second and then sad or depressed another. It could be something in his personality that makes him go through his mood swings, but truthfully, he is probably covering up the fact that he is shy and doesn't know how to act around you.

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2. Ignores You in Public

If your guy is constantly ignoring you in public, it could be one of the signs he is sending you mixed signals. How do you get around it? Well, talk to him! Express how you feel about the fact that, when you are in private, he is fine, but when you are in public, he ignores you.

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3. Flirts with You in Private

One of the signs he is sending mixed signals is if he only flirts with you in private. When you are with a guy, you want him to flirt with you all over the place, not just in private. This is another conversation you might have to have with your man!

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4. He’s Coy

When a guy is coy, it could be one of the signs he's sending mixed signals, but truthfully, he could just be shy. When a guy is coy, it could also be perceived as he is trying to play hard to get. Just be assertive and really put yourself out there. Who knows? He'll probably crack his coyness!

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Understanding a coy guy can be like trying to solve a puzzle with missing pieces. Is he interested or simply bashful? Sometimes the best approach is to take the lead, showing him that he's in a safe space to open up. Be a little flirty, send a clear signal that you're into him, and pay attention to his response. If he's into you, your confidence might just be the key to unlocking his affections. Remember, even the most reserved hearts have a way of speaking their truth when given the right encouragement.

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5. He’s Testing You

Just like girls, guys test us too. While you might think he is sending mixed signals, he could just be testing your responses and flirting. Trust me ladies, if he is testing you, test him right back!

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6. He Plays Hard to Get

Remember the coy piece? It's probably because he is playing hard to get! If the guy that you are into is playing hard to get, play it up and play it right back. It'll make you seem more attractive and put him in his place!

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7. Mixed Signals Are a Defense Mechanism

Did you know that if he is sending mixed signals, it could be a defense mechanism for him not wanting to get hurt? Just like we have defense mechanisms that are set off by certain things, when a guy is sending mixed signals, it could mean that he is super shy and wants to feel you out first!

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Just like we have defense mechanisms that are set off by certain things, when a guy is sending mixed signals, it could mean that he is super shy and wants to feel you out first! He might be unsure about how you feel and doesn’t want to risk getting hurt by putting himself out there too soon. By giving mixed signals, he can gauge your reaction and protect his emotions. This can lead to him acting distant one moment and affectionate the next, creating a confusing but understandable pattern as he navigates his feelings and fears of vulnerability.

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8. He Talks about You to His Friends

One of the biggest mixed signals that I find with a guy is when he constantly talks to his friends about you, but doesn't talk to you! What do you do? Well ladies, upping your flirting a bit and making him come to you is a great way to quash him from sending mixed signals and let him know that you like him!

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9. He Tries to Control the Situation

If the guy tries to control everything you do and says, "I'll let you know" or "I'll call you," it's probably because he is sending mixed signals. He is not sure what he wants yet so he wants to be the one who tells you when the next date will be and if he has time for you. However, you should stand up for yourself and tell him you don't have time to just hang around waiting for him.

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10. Days Go by without Talking

Things are going great, it's your third date and you're pretty sure that by the fourth date, you'll be official. But then he goes days without calling you or answering your text messages, and you don't know why. Well that's because he is afraid to take the next step with you and make a commitment. This is when you have to decide if you want to stick around and wait for him to be done sending these mixed signals or you would rather leave him a message that you're done!

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11. Only Wants to Hang out Together with Friends

Every time you text him to get together he mentions bringing his buddy with him, even when you thought it was a movie date. If his friends always seem to be around when you're together, this may be a sign he is sending you mixed signals and isn't sure what he wants. If you've had enough, just ask him about it!

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12. You Haven't Kissed Yet

You've been on a few dates and he still hasn't kissed you yet. This could either be a mixed signal he is sending out because he isn't sure what he wants, or he isn't sure whether you're ready and wants you to kiss him first.

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13. He Starts Flirting with Someone else

You thought things were going great and you thought your dating relationship would go to the next step. However, you noticed that he has started to flirt with one of your friends and now you're just confused. Is he trying to make you jealous or is he moving on?

It's hard when a guy is sending mixed signals, but that doesn't mean you should stop trying to hook him! Do you know of any guys sending mixed signals right now? What do you do?

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  • Anonymous

    2012-11-18T07:45:04.000Z

    Hi just wondering because i told this guy i like him in a letter and he didn't feel the same but i think he has started to feel something for me, i have never spoken to him but i've been reading off body language but yeah i was wondering could it be possible maybe he cannot accept or believe the fact that i like him cause he seems shy like what signs would indicate he you know can't believe i actually like him
  • Fiona

    2012-06-21T09:45:29.000Z

    okay i have this guy who normally does not start a chat with me online and kind of ignores me when we're with our friends. but everyone is saying that he likes me and we talk a lot in class/ at school and online once someone starts the chat. why is that? does he like me?
  • anonymous

    2013-11-05T16:14:52.000Z

    Please help me! :(
  • Anonymous

    2012-06-14T19:58:47.000Z

    this guy i like well sometimes he talks to me and then other times its like he doesnt want to know me like when i talk to him on facebook he just goes offline i dont know if its because he is shy or that me trying to talk to him is irritating him
  • Nicole

    2013-12-28T05:58:38.000Z

    HELP. I've been talking to this guy named Tim.. He's a couple years older than me and I really like him.. He goes to my youth group, he plays guitar, he sings, he has an extremely nice body and I feel like he's totally out of my league I'm usually the one to txt him first but every time he sees me in school there's not a time where he won't shout my name and say hi. Which I always get the hopeless butterflies.. At lunch he'll usually stop and sit on the outside bench and sit where me and my friend do and I've noted that his body is completely turned towards me. But a while back when I asked him if he liked me (over txt) he said he didn't like anyone. And I've complimented him quite a bit but he never compliments me.. I really like this guy.. We haven't talked for a couple days and I haven't txted him but I really need so guidance please help.
  • Whit

    2013-11-14T14:48:52.000Z

    This is brilliant, I wish I had read this earlier.
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