Relationships aren’t always easy but one thing is for sure, you shouldn’t be plagued with a feeling like you’re not in it for the right reasons. Sure, we all have our doubts from time to time but if you find yourself wanting to be with someone else or feeling like you just can’t break up with him or her, there is definitely something wrong. Even if we don’t feel 110% confident in a relationship, we should be certain that we want to be with our partner and no one else. If you’ve had some doubts about your current relationship and are wondering whether you’re in it for the right reasons, keep reading to see if it’s time to move on.
Some people don’t mind the single life whereas some prefer to be in a relationship at all times. If you count yourself as one of the latter, you might think that a so-so relationship is better than none. Best-selling dating author Christian Carter says the fear of being alone is definitely not the right reason to be in a relationship. He says that fearing being alone can cause you to make bad choices in order to distract yourself from feeling lonely. Think about it, did you jump into this relationship right after a breakup? Were you single for awhile and felt like it was time to be part of a couple again?
Good sex is a great thing. It’s hard to someone you really vibe with in bed. Though if that’s all there is, you might be fooling yourself into thinking there could hopefully be more if you stick it out long enough. Can you hold a conversation with this person? Do you enjoy his or her company outside of the bedroom? If the answers are no, be real with yourself and your partner so the two of you are on the same page.
Being the only single person when all of your friends are in long-term relationships, engaged, or married can be tough but it’s no reason to stay in a relationship if you don’t truly see a future with him or her. It’s unfair to you and your partner and you’re settling! Instead of focusing on being the only single one in your squad, embrace your single life. You don’t have to worry about relationship drama and you can focus on you.
Whether you’re trying to prove a point to someone or you’re trying to keep up appearances, the bottom line is that you’re letting other people’s thoughts or opinions direct your love life. Again, this is unfair to both you and your partner. Instead of focusing on doing what you think people expect of you, work on doing what makes you happy and not carrying about what others think.
Making an ex jealous might seem like the ultimate revenge but it’s so not cool to date someone just to piss off your ex. Just think how you’d feel if you found out someone was using you to make someone jealous, you’d be furious! Do yourself and your partner a favor and stop the charade. You could be hurting someone who truly cares for you and wants to be with you.
One of the worst reasons to date or stay with someone is that you hope he or she will eventually change. If you don’t like something about your partner, hoping he or she changes isn’t going to cut it and most likely, they’re not going to change. If the issue is something the both of you have agreed to work on, enlist some help from a counselor but staying and hoping won’t help.
It’s nice to have someone who’s always there for you and do things for you but that doesn’t equal a good relationship. Staying in a relationship because it benefits you in one way or another is selfish and wrong. If you don’t genuinely care for that person and are willing to do things for him or her, it’s time for the both of you to move on.
If any of these situations sounded familiar to you, you might want to think about reassessing your relationship. Relationships are about give-and-take and there shouldn’t be any doubts about whether you’re in it for the right reasons or not.
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