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15 Warning Signs You're in an Unhealthy Relationship ...

Finding out all of the signs of an unhealthy relationship can be hard to face. If you've ever been in a relationship that is stable and wonderful and then move to a relationship that is unhealthy, it might be easier, but if unhealthy relationships are all you've ever known, you might not realize just how great a stable relationship can be. Ladies, I've got the top 15 signs of an unhealthy relationship that you should look for. After all, we all want healthy and well-adjusted relationships, right? So, let's explore 15 signs of an unhealthy relationship so that you can see if you are in one.

1 You Take Each Other for Granted

One of the clearest signs of an unhealthy relationship is that you constantly are taking your partner for granted. Do you just assume that he is going to stay with you? Do you assume that your girlfriend is going to pack your lunch every day? These little things can actually break up a relationship and can make people resentful.

2 Lack of Trust

Do you find that in your relationship, you don't trust your man to go out by himself? Do you read through her emails? This is not a good relationship, girls and guys, this is actually one sign of an unhealthy relationship. You should be able to trust every single bit of your partner and should be able to trust them not to cheat.

3 Constant Insults

Does your relationship consist of constant sniping? Do you feel like you always have to be on the defense? Well girls, that is one of the top signs of an unhealthy relationship. Your boyfriend should make you feel amazing, he shouldn't constantly be putting you down. That could actually be a sign that you're in an emotionally abusive relationship.

4 Fighting Everyday

Another sign of an unhealthy relationship that a lot of people overlook is constant fighting. Now, every relationship has its bumps, especially if you two are living together, but if you're always fighting with him over the smallest things and you are frequently being picked at by him, that might not be a good relationship to be in. Remember, the good times should outweigh the bad times, not the other way around.

5 Social Isolation

When you isolate yourself completely from your family and also from your friends, that can be another sign of that your relationship isn’t healthy. You need your family and your friends to survive. You need other opinions in your life besides your partner's. So if you find that he expects you to just spend time with him, all of the time, that is a sign to be careful.

6 Always Blaming

Another sign involves constantly blaming your partner, or looking for ways to blame him or her for everything. Girls, your partner is not always the person to blame for everything, he is not the person you should be blaming everything on and vice versa.

7 Omissions of Truth

While you might not exactly be lying about where you were or even where you've been, you probably aren't telling the truth, right? Or at least leaving the truth out of it and avoiding the question? The omission of truth is another sign that you’re in an unhealthy relationship, girls. While you don't necessarily need to tell your partner everything, you should be pretty open with them.

8 No Communication

Another sign involves no communication. Can you walk into a room and not say anything at all to your partner for hours? That's not a relationship, girls! You want to be able to share with your boyfriend and communication through problems.

9 Attempts to Control

We all appreciate being able to go to our partner to get advice but, if your partner always tries to advise or influence you to do certain things, it can be an attempt to control you. Does he tell you to who to be friends with, what things to wear or what to do with your spare time?

10 Keeping Secrets

When you’re in a relationship, there should be no reason to keep secrets from your partner. If you feel that he’s not trustworthy or that he’ll use the information against you, this is definitely unhealthy! Couples should be able to talk openly with one another without having to keep secrets.

11 Lack of Respect

A sure sign of an unhealthy relationship is having a lack of respect for one another. If he frequently breaks promises or criticizes you to make himself feel better, he’s not showing you much respect. You shouldn’t have to feel put down or feel like you’re not important!

12 It’s All about Sex

Sex is an important part of a relationship but it’s not all of it. If you and your partner rarely communicate and the only time you’re close to one another is in bed, that’s not what a relationship is about! Sex should be the icing on the cake and complement a strong, emotionally intimate bond.

13 Unhealthy Jealousy

A little jealousy doesn’t hurt, but when your partner is envious of your job or doesn’t like the fact that you have lots of friends, it’s unhealthy. Your partner should be able to be happy for you and your accomplishments and not feel like he is in competition with you.

14 No Compromise

A big part of any relationship, whether it’s romantic or platonic, is compromise. We can’t always have things go exactly the way we want so it’s important to compromise. If your partner isn’t able to make concessions, it’s going to make your life and relationship extremely difficult!

15 You Love Being in Love

Are you in love with being in love but not in love? There are some people who love the idea of being in a relationship so they stay in relationships even if they’re unhappy. That’s no way to live! If you’re only in it because of your desire to be in a relationship or you don’t want to be alone, you won’t ever be happy.

So girls, do you see any of these signs in your relationship? I know I've seen a few in mine, but I'm working on fixing them. Just because you've been in an unhealthy relationship doesn't mean it can't get better, as long as both of you are willing to work on it. What other signs of an unhealthy relationship have you noticed?

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Wanda I'm single now cause all 15 of those signs were my relationship. You can't work it out by your self. Or with some onwho does not see the part they play in the relationship in order to takecownership of the hurt that was caused.
cate i been dating my boyfriend about 9 months almost 10 and we been fighting everyday pretty much since this past 2 months and i hate it makes me feel really sad and upset and sometimes its about small things and big things and sometimes he lies to me and i hate it i know he loves me but i wish he can grow up hes 16 now and he doesnt even have a job yet and im only 15 and i have done everything with him i thought that if i did everything with him i would trust him more because me and him doesnt go to the same high school we live close but it just really hard sometimes and i been confuses lately i dont know what i should do idk if i should stay with him and wait and see or break up with him? i need help i need someone to talk to :(
natalie i am in a situation in which i can not get out.my ex hooked me up with his friend and i only found out after he broke up with me.i was really hurt and i wanted revenge so i started seeing his friends next thing in less than two months we were pregnant.things started crumbling and he started breaking promises and next we arguing about his ex..he left for another country with out telling but still has the guts to tell me he loves me and that i should abort our eight week baby.it really hurts as i grew to trust him and love him so much and i donot know what to do...as am speaking am in tears of desperation,,please help
Feer another thing he does about 11 out of these 15 things
Feer My story is kind of long but here it goes, I cheated on my boyfriend about a year and a half ago. The thing is I was drunk, really drunk. I know that is not an excuse but I know that if I would have been sober I would have never done that. The amount of guilt and pain that I feel is unexplainable. I dropped out of college so I wouldnt have to see the guy I cheated on him with. We are still togeather and have a baby she is 4 months old. I have lost all sorts of communcation with my friends. I am not allowed to go out with my friends. Not even for a visit or anything. He goes out with his friends and he drinks. He is very jealous and posesive. Idk wht to do. I am truly sorry and try and do everything I can so that he will trust me again, but nothing seems to work. Should we seek for help or just go our seperate ways?
Ruthe Our fights are crazy, and they haven't gotten better even after 3 years. I don't want to leave him because he says that when he sees his future I'm in it and how he imagines having a little girl that looks like me. Which makes me feel guilty for even thinking about leaving him, but I feel like it's for the best. Not to mention I'm starting to fall for another guy who really cares about me. I'm not sure if I should just try harder with my current boyfriend or give this other guy a chance.
- natalie @Ruthe Thomas, i have been in the same situation before and it didnt turn out well for me when i gave the new guy a chance,,,my advice is that if u really love your man give it a try ,sit him down talk about it.if it doesnt work leave him
- CyranoSCW @Ruthe Thomas, I can't tell you what to do but I have to wonder what kind of future he thinks the two of you are going to have if he's not willing to meet you halfway in terms of improving things. I could be wrong, but I think you've tried enough and now it's his turn.
Story Is it necessary for your significant other to want to know every secret of every person you talk to? He wants me to tell him everything I talk to my friends about, what their secrets are, what they want. Everything. To the point of hacking into my FB on more than one occasion to read my conversations, and then bring them up to me, and to block or get angry at my friends over something that has nothing to do with him. He says in a relationship, he should know everything I know, and he should know my FB password, because there are no secrets and no privacy in relationships.
- Lissy @Story, I have that same situation in my relationship. He wants me to talk in-front of him and wants to know everything.
- Ruthe @Story, He's crazy. Everyone has a right to privacy. No matter if you're in a relationship.
Gaby mine controls every person i talk to and controls my post on instagram n facebook so that i dont talk to any other guys, but then he crys saying sorry and that he is insecure. its really irritating and we fought really bad when i told him to stop controlling me. uhh? help ?
- Ruthe @Gaby, He's using a guilt tactic. Trying to make you feel sorry for him for being "insecure". The longer you stay in that relationship the more you'll notice he'll break out in tears if he wants you to feel sorry for him when he's doing something he knows is crazy. Run.
Jackie My boyfriend and I are definitely in a unhealthy relationship...I stay home all the time and get yelled at when I want to go out and he is always going to the bar with his friends and drinking with people at his house...about a month ago our relationship got bad when I heard he cheated on me and I immaturely lashed out and hangout with another guy...I later found out my bf didn't do what I had heard or at,east he says he didn't but my bf did found out about me hanging out with this other guy. I know I did wrong and apologized...koi don't know how to fix our relationship. Or if it is even fixable anymore. I love him so much and I don't want it to be over.
Lucy my boyfriend and I are currently on a break right now because he feels that basically all of these things apply to our relationship. I keep trying to tell him we can fix it, but hes doubting it. plus, all of this is almost coming out of no where. it hurts a lot and i am starting to realize maybe i can\'t handle that way he treats me. everything is always my fault and i have to change things. its not fair, and im sad
aurora Ik that I had an unhealthy relationship with my boyfriend we loved EachOther and we change for EachOther But we constantly fight to a point were we weren't even even happy it was devastating for me because it took me 2years to have a secret sort of relationship were he led me on and he kept me on the low while we had other relationships then he finally made it public the first month was amazing then the jealousy started and we ended up breaking at the end of school year But we still love EachOther so he suggested we still act like we are in a relationship and keep EachOther interested and solve our problems & that if we did at the end of summer we would date again after think for so long I decide to risk it and commit to while he did as well the only problem is we are Goin to new HighSchools were there is gonna Be Alot of pretty girls and Im scared and I don't want him to loose feelings for me but he is spending his summer in Pittsburgh with his dad for the first 2months so it harder
nishath I have had an unhealthy relationship, trust me it was horrible! After having a breakup I have realised my life is beautiful and peaceful!
Peyton I love when I am with him he makes me feel happy
Melody the 2nd one is a big thing for me :/ I want to trust him more, but I find it difficult when I find out things he's kept from me, and stuff he's done in the past stays with me. Should I forgive, forget and move on, or is there something i can do/say to put my mind at rest whilst he meets up with other girls etc It would ease a lot of the tension in our relationship i think
- Heather Hi Melody! To be honest, if you can't trust your partner, why are you with him? That isn't going to be a healthy relationship. :(
Cindy I knew that my relationship is not heathy. That why it broken. I try to fix him or hope he would change. But it got uglier, untill we both can't accept each other faces .we fight from small thing to big thing, we had no communication we ignore the problem, we make out and thought our problem is fixed. My bf broke up bc he could not handle the fight, unsercurity, the no communication, .....I myseft felt bad and wonder if we can work thing out, but I read these signs which gave me thought it might not work. I might not change and he also. The ideas of let someone go is so hard and scared that I may not be in a relationship again. But read these sign helped me to be stronger and be proud that he finally left. It took him along time to figured out but I hope I will be ready to let go
- Heather Hi Cindy! I am so, so sorry. I know that it's hard, but being in an unhealthy relationship is not healthy at all for your mental or physical health. I would get out as soon as possible and find someone that works for you and knows you are worth it all.
2much She can't reciprocate my feelings for her, is it a sign of unhealthy relationship? And she confidently stated that she don't know why she can't reciprocate my attitudes towards her.
- Heather That absolutely is -- I'm so sorry. If she doesn't feel the same feelings that you do, why be in a relationship?
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Aria I do the no communication thing and it drives him crazy when i cant even acknowledge the words he says. We both want to work things out together. So i went and see outside help.
- Heather I think that might be a good option Aria, it's hard to listen to each other when you are closing yourself off.
Rachel My boyfriend does all of these, and admittedly I do several as well. Is there any way to salvage a relationship once you reach this point. Or is it best to cut my losses and get out??
- Cindy @Rachel Reid, My ex bf did all of these. I got mad bc these made me unhappy. Instead taking ang communication about these he won't change. After three years of living together, he broke up with me. I do think comunication is the best policy to make any relationship heathy. Calmly talk about this will help you
- Heather Hey Rachel, there is! I do some of these things in my relationship and truthfully, it can get better, but you both have to work at it. You might have to seek some outside help, only because both of you can get caught up in a communication war. I'd try to sit down and talk to your boyfriend about your issues, stay calm though.
Haley my boyfriend does 4 of these to me....sad i know! should i break up with him? i found a pic of his ex on FB and him...i took a picture of it then sent it to him and he denied that was him and her...the girl was the same person who threatend me in a text :/
- Henriette I was in such a relationship where he did all 8! And yet I ignored my instincts and actually married him. The thing is, a lot of the time they can manipulate you in thinking that you deserve such treatment and when they are nice, you forget all about what they did. I am in a wonderful relationship now where i feel safe and loved unconditionally all the time. If that little voice of doubt keeps telling you to get out, listen to it!
- Heather Hey Haley! Have you talked to him about it? It might be worth a conversation before you break up with him.
Sheena occasionally i think i do two or three of things on the list.
- Heather I think that we all do, but do you do them on a constant basis?

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